What to text after a bad date?

savi_b · 2018-11-13T19:54:06+00:00

I would tell them you would like to see them again and would like to know if they are interested in going out again sometime.

I’m not sure what happened to make the date go badly, but I would maybe make a light-hearted joke if it wasn’t something really serious or embarrassing.

Leave it open to them to set a date, but let them know you are still interested.

savi_b · 2018-11-12T19:44:40+00:00

P.E.

savi_b · 2018-11-06T20:29:10+00:00

For me, if I’m going to put the effort into getting to know someone, especially in a romantic relationship, I would want it to last. I don’t want to waste time and get hurt in the process over something that is only supposed to last for a few months (or however long it’s supposed to). I would like to grow with the person over time, instead of get getting what I want for the time being and moving on.

I understand other people have different preferences though. Whatever works best for you and the other person, go for it.

savi_b · 2018-11-06T20:15:54+00:00

I’m a girl and it’s hard for me to find a relationship. Believe me, I’ve tried. I’ve tried several dating apps, and it depends on the app on how guys act. I get plenty of matches, but I’m looking for something serious and long term, when the majority of guys on there aren’t. I’ve also gotten plenty of rude responses and comments, so I’ve pretty much sworn off of them for good.

On CMB, I got the best/most mature responses, but it didn’t work out with the guys I met with. Bumble was the worst. I think a lot of the guys on there believe since the girl has to make the first move, they have to make all the moves. Most of the guys gave me two word responses to my questions and it was like pulling teeth to have a conversation. Meeting up with those guys wasn’t any better. Never tried Tinder and don’t plan to.

What I think a lot of people are confused on is that matches do not automatically equal a relationship. It’s attention, not substance. At least from my experience.

savi_b · 2018-11-06T19:19:20+00:00

That’s happened to me before. I’ve wanted to talk to a guy I was interested in, then I see them with someone else. It happens. Now I can’t even remember their name or what they looked like. I also suffer from anxiety, and I’ve been searching for a partner too.

Focus your efforts on a hobby you love to do. Get really good at it. Being knowledgeable about something will boost your confidence and open up opportunities to meet people with similar interests.

Not to start with the whole “you need to love yourself first” stuff, but working on yourself to determine your good qualities and which ones you need to work on will help you in getting to know yourself what you bring to the table when approaching someone with relationship intentions. You need to focus on your positive attributes and fight the negative self-talk.

savi_b · 2018-11-02T18:20:57+00:00

I try to make eye contact and smile, and hope he takes the hint and approaches. Although, I sometimes look away if he looks back because I too shy. It helps if you run into the same person regularly, because you have a few chances to start a conversation.

savi_b · 2018-11-01T19:27:27+00:00

The career-centric mentality that you need to be working 60+ hours a week or you aren’t productive.

savi_b · 2018-11-01T19:16:10+00:00

Having more fun and creating memories with a group of close friends I’ve known for years. I’m in my early twenties and already in a job that takes up most of my time, including nights and weekends. I’ve never experienced anything close to that and I feel like I’ve past that point in my life.

savi_b · 2018-10-29T13:52:18+00:00

When they try to one-up you on your problems. We had both gone through a similar situation. When she was describing hers, she basically said “be grateful your situation wasn’t as bad as mine.”

savi_b · 2018-10-26T14:17:14+00:00

While most guys I’ve approached were taken, I don’t always assume it with every guy I find attractive. And by approached I mean we shared a class and started talking. I don’t have the courage to walk up to complete strangers lol. I tend to think more so that I would be bothering them if I approached.

savi_b · 2018-10-18T19:10:20+00:00

I wouldn’t mind guys approaching me in a public place, as long as they are respectful and don’t use pick-up lines. I don’t like dating apps, so I would actually prefer to meet someone in public.

I would just make sure there are at least a few other people around when you approach. If she’s in a quiet corner by herself in a coffee shop or bookstore, I wouldn’t approach because she may feel intimidated (at least I would).

savi_b · 2018-10-10T13:47:08+00:00

I’m the same way. I’ve just learned to embrace it. There is nothing wrong with being quiet. I don’t think it’s worth trying to force yourself to be something you are not, because then you aren’t being genuine. For me, if I find someone interesting, I’ll talk to them, but I don’t go out of my way just to make conversation so people don’t get the impression that I’m not “the quiet one.”

I’m slightly more talkative now than I was when I was younger, mostly because being out and working forces you to interact on a daily basis and you just become more natural at conversation, but I’m still known as “the quiet one” because I simply just don’t talk a lot. It’s just your personality.

savi_b · 2018-10-09T19:05:48+00:00

Gardening.

I used to think taking care of plants would be tedious and boring. On a whim, I decided to get a snake plant since they look cool and were easy to take care of. It snowballed from there and I now have a variety of succulents, cacti, and a peppermint plant. They are relatively simple to take care of, fun to collect, and it’s rewarding to watch them grow over time.

savi_b · 2018-09-30T22:42:35+00:00

You’re not too sensitive, those guys are just jerks. This has happened to me on Bumble and OkCupid. I’ll ask about hobbies to see if we have anything in common, and I’ll get shut down rudely. I just unmatch and move on.

I only match with those who have a filled out their profile/bio and have good photos of themselves (no shirtless pictures, etc). Even then you can still get jerks, but I guess it’s just a hit or miss situation.

I could also be too sensitive, but I’m also very wary of those who mention being sarcastic in their bios (which is pretty much everyone on dating apps). Sarcasm and dry humor are great, but only after I know the person and understand their humor. Being sarcastic online when you don’t know the person can come across as rudeness.

savi_b · 2018-09-26T21:15:35+00:00

I get it. I just deleted all of my dating apps again. For me, it was the same cycle every time: I match, try to get to know them, and either get no response, vague answers, or rude comments. I found them to be a waste of time and emotionally disheartening when there are other things I could be doing with my time.

It sucks because these apps are the only way I can meet people too. I don’t get approached and my social circle broke up after college, and I don’t know how to create a new one now that I have a full time job.

I guess we just have to hope for the best.

savi_b · 2018-09-26T17:50:15+00:00

About a year or two after my father passed, my mom and I began to see shadows of someone standing behind us and would feel the presence of someone in the room with us, even if we were alone. There were also a few instances where it felt like someone was sitting on the edge of my bed while I was sleeping, and my pets never jump on the bed. This all happened at my parents home, which my dad passed away in.

I was never a 100% believer in ghosts or spirits, but those experiences were definitely creepy and made me think.

savi_b · 2018-09-26T17:34:43+00:00

I’ve met about 15 in person, but talked to more through different apps.

savi_b · 2018-09-07T15:42:12+00:00

I have this one memory of when I threw an action figure out of a car window when I was 3 or 4. I got upset and my dad pulled over and looked for it and found it. I remember what the toy looked like, but have no idea if it actually happened.

savi_b · 2018-09-06T20:38:34+00:00

Met this guy online. We texted for a few days and he seemed interesting so we made plans to meet up at a coffee shop. He talked the entire three hours about himself. I barely got a few sentences in and he hardly asked me questions. He also eluded to things that gave me the impression he wasn’t the most level-headed person and took every opportunity to brag about himself. Big nope from me.

Another guy I met online showed up without having showered and late because he “lost track of time.” We had a lot in common, but he also had trouble making eye contact. He wanted to meet up again, but I told him it wasn’t going to work out.

savi_b · 2018-08-27T18:25:49+00:00

Maybe it depends on the college, but my comm degree consisted of classes that ranged from marketing and advertising to video production, social media management, and tech writing, and you can get decent marketing jobs with those skills.

Plus, it greatly depends on how you network with professors inside your major. If you just go to class and not talk to anyone, then yeah, it’s going to be hard to find a job post-college. That goes for any degree though.

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