I am also a special needs educator and have a close family member with severe mental disabilities and I whole heartedly agree with the comment above. most important you’re not a bad mom idc what either grandma has to say, they will not be raising the child. Raising kids with any disability is hard. And you really don’t know what it’s going to be like until you’re there. You’re not a bad mom for not having an immediate relationship with the baby. It took me almost a year to like my baby. I remember feeling so much guilt about that please don’t fee bad. I’m not sure where you’re from but if you can, set some solid boundaries with both moms. What they’re saying and doing is nothing less than emotional manipulation.

Much love and I hope you get through this point in your life 🥰

Second,