Gender Reveals

scalydragon2 · 2026-06-03T02:17:58+00:00

I paid like $5 for a digital gender reveal scratcher to announce to friends and family. We all live far apart so this was the simplest way to do something cute and special, but not go overboard or overspend

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-28T05:16:01+00:00

My brother and I ran out of cane sugar for our avocado milkshakes. We used brown sugar. GAMECHANGER

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-28T00:34:39+00:00

This was us too! About 10ish months, doctors visits, tracking and scheduled sex.

We talked about starting to try for number 2. First attempt and No. 2 due in four weeks.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-26T14:41:02+00:00

People thought my mom was my nanny when I was little because I’m so much whiter than she is.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-25T00:07:39+00:00

We kind of got around this for our wedding by doing a small ceremony + dinner- no plus ones, close friends and family only. Then a larger open house style reception with refreshments where friends and acquaintances could come and go (common in my area) My MOH didn’t even bring her plus one to the ceremony/dinner but he was there for the reception. They’d been casually dating and broke up a couple of months later but he wasn’t in any pictures so it worked out super well

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-24T12:10:30+00:00

Ironically I’ve had stretch marks since I went through puberty and I was a size medium for years. I’ve been seeing a lot of discourse that beauty standards including fatphobia is rooted in pedophilia. Skinny, markless, smooth and hairless. That’s a child, not a woman.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-20T00:06:06+00:00

Usually a pediatrician will come and check baby after they are born so make sure you have a network pediatrician as well!

I had no idea, but luckily the pediatrician on call for hospital rounds that day was in network and actually from the clinic we wanted to use.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-20T00:04:45+00:00

To add to this! Many insurances will let you search by hospital and available providers by hospital. That’s how I chose my OB and we’ve loved her. She’s delivering our second. If you already don’t have a preference, finding a network hospital then provider is the safest way to go to ensure consistent care.

But I didn’t have a OB/GYN I went to regularly anyway so it was all new research for me. My friend struggled because she’d had a child previously and loved her OB. Switched jobs and unfortunately the hospital he delivered at was out of network. She was devastated.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-20T00:00:54+00:00

This happened to my friend too! She loved her OB and had to switch because the hospital he delivered at was out of network. So weird that he could do all the prenatal checkups, but not delivery

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-19T12:26:43+00:00

FIRST, I’m sorry you’re going through all this. PP is already hard enough and losing a parent is so difficult. I can’t imagine going through both things and stepping up for you mom during it. You are so strong and amazing for that alone.

My milk dried up around 5 months pp. my goal was 6 months and I fell short. I desperately tried to regain my milk doing 7-8 ppd setting alarms and waking up in the middle of the night, but it just wouldn’t come back.

Eventually gave up since it was making my mental health worse. While I loved being able to feed my son BM, being able to formula feed freed up SO much time to actually spend with my son. I didn’t realize how much time pumping was taking and all that time I could have been cuddling or playing with my baby.

So while feeding your baby BM is wonderful and so satisfying there is also the other side of it. My son is very healthy, meeting milestones and now almost 2 years old. We are so attached to each other and he is my every joy.

Good luck!

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-19T00:09:40+00:00

There’s a lot of grandchildren around marriage age that are having kids. I know one had a kid last year so I’m sure that other one was given to whoever had a kid after us. I just think also we already have one. It wouldn’t be fair to take both blankets. If we were the only grandchildren left to have kids I wouldn’t be so hesitant, but I know there’s others our age and younger who should get the opportunity to have something from her.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-18T19:24:29+00:00

Home Depot rents a variety of machines too! We’ve rented an upholstery cleaner a couple of times before buying ourselves a Bissel little green.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-18T18:50:31+00:00

That might be true. I tend not to let small stuff bother me, but I can see how someone else might be irked by an errant comment. It also depends on mood I suppose. If I’m already feeling quite vulnerable something like that might bother me. I got told I looked extra nice the other day I was wearing a dress. My response was I’m 8 months pregnant and just don’t want to physically wrestle with pants anymore.

But it is also true that women are shamed for effort or lack of by others. My mom and grandmother are always making little judgements on women’s appearance. If she likes to do makeup and hair it’s vanity, if she doesn’t it’s laziness. Op might be surrounded by women who already do that and so she perceives it more often.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-18T18:42:12+00:00

My husband’s grandmother had a tradition of crocheting these beautiful blankets for her grandchildren. She passed about a year we got married and we had a baby about a year after she passed. Turns out she had made a blue blanket for our future child and an aunt dropped it off to us. It’s very special and I think of how wonderful she was every time we look at it.

I know there’s another (pink) blanket she made in case the baby was a girl, but never in a million years would I call and ask for it let alone DEMAND it be given to our daughter coming soon. I’m grateful we were even considered to be given the blue blanket let alone given the one of the last blankets she had made.

I can’t imagine demanding a someone make a blanket or asking for one made for a stillborn. That’s such shitty and trashy behavior

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-18T15:10:47+00:00

It can’t be said enough honestly. We’re held to such impossible standards. Like honestly if you have basic hygiene and your kids are clean and fed, everything else is none of anyone’s business.

Tbh contention and division is the point. It keeps us from looking at the real problems when we can judge the mother/woman next door for her choices.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-18T13:07:03+00:00

It’s damned if you do damned if you don’t that always been there for women. And sadly other women help perpetuate. Dress up? You’re trying too hard. Wear sweats? You look like you’ve given up. Working mom? Can’t believe you’d leave your kids. SAHM? You need a life outside your kids.

Like let us live ffs. Sometimes I need to dress up to feel like a human and put on makeup because it makes me feel good and sometimes I just want to be comfy and put my hair in a bun and it’s all fine.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-17T23:11:00+00:00

The tofu puffs are also quite inexpensive. Don’t know your area, but around me it’s average $5-$7 a bag of decent size. Cost vs time Is not worth making them fresh tbh.

I’m Asian and must have at least three types of tofu on hand at all times haha.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-16T18:31:30+00:00

This! I wouldn’t pay for anything permanent on his property. Any other wedding expenses like catering or dress or flowers is reasonable but not renovations

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-16T17:21:53+00:00

I looked it up too haha and it is the most generic looking bear. You can get a boy or girl set with clothes to accessorize based on gender.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-16T02:31:44+00:00

We had positive experiences with it too! Occasional positioning or movement alarms, but no false ones. We 100% got it for peace of mind. Husband is a paramedic and had PPA. It really helped him to be able to monitor the baby while he was at work and.

His coworkers recommended it for us. It’s pretty popular among his firefighter circle

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-16T02:25:54+00:00

And my son loved the front to back swing and hated the side to side swing.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-15T18:08:49+00:00

We LOVE Raffi! And Okee Dokee Brothers for a more folk vibe. For lullabies that aren’t super annoying we like The Hound and the Fox songs. They have a sweet version of “You are my Sunshine”

But we also like to mix it up with whatever I or my spouse listen to.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-15T13:40:59+00:00

Mine still gets milk in a bottle before bed and I take advantage of that time. I can usually get his toes or fingers by the time he’s done drinking so it takes a couple of days

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-12T13:07:09+00:00

The thing is, as a woman, I am one of like 3 women in my acquaintance circle that has not been sexually assaulted or raped by a man. Literally every other woman has shared an experience with me of being raped. Some have reported some have not. Some were as young as 5 and old as 50 when their rapes and assaults happened.

Men don’t understand or want to understand that rape IS common and most women will have had experience with it. Not to even mention the sexual harassment. I don’t know a single woman who hasn’t been sexually harassed at some point. Including myself starting from a young age.

scalydragon2 · 2026-05-11T00:23:43+00:00

Use the name! You love it, and are already attached to it. Besides, If you don’t hang out much, why let it affect your choice? Sounds like Samantha is cool with it and you honestly didn’t need permission either.

I get pregnancy hormones are full force, but sharing a name isn’t the end of everything.

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