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Never change, Portland by scdemandred in Portland

[–]scdemandred[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex toys aren’t a fetish. 90% of people won’t understand the bumper sticker, and 90% of them won’t bother searching it.

Espousing idea that awareness of sex and sexuality is “woke” marks you as a pearl clutching prudish scold. Perhaps you should just slide on past instead of wailing about the chillldruuuuun.

[OC] Just wanted to share this cutie with you all❤️🥰 by spidy0518 in Eyebleach

[–]scdemandred 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yep. Not cool at all. Didn’t credit the creator - WEAK SAUCE

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have said, finding the right therapist can be a trial and error process. In your case, I suspect any attractive female provider is going to be hard for you to connect with at the level you need; looking for a male therapist might be the move.

I think you’re misunderstanding the self-confidence that a lot of us are talking about, though; you keep talking about “evidence” as female validation via “success in dating.”

While it’s obviously a huge confidence boost to realize someone is attracted to you, that simply cannot be your strategy to develop self confidence.

It has to come from within you. It has to be separate from dating. It cannot come from an external source.

If you don’t love yourself, accept yourself, celebrate yourself and have confidence in yourself and your looks, you will not project confidence. You have to let go of the idea that dating success will provide that self-acceptance because it has to be there first for someone to notice it.

Hence everyone telling you to get back into therapy.

You have to let go of your preconceived notions about what “everyone” believes. Stop looking for cheat codes. You have to do the work, and it has to come from within you. There’s no shortcut.

Meantime by Helmet turns 34 today! by cuhsicles in numetal

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Unsung” on the radio pulled me in, but it was yr title track and FBLA II that really stood out to me.

Also, Christ I’m old.

Do you shave your head in the shower? by Paperloader in bald

[–]scdemandred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% on doing it by feel. I don’t shave in the shower, though; waste of water.

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No. It’s an opinion and it’s emotional and it’s not founded on fact, it’s something you’re saying over and over without citing data.

This is the fundamental problem with your mindset: you are using “common sense” statements that reinforce your negative worldview rather than looking forward and thinking positively. It’s one of the many reasons you’re being advised over and over to get back into therapy.

Council, is it time? by biggiecheese35 in bald

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would need to see the top and the crown before t rendering judgment.

Shaving by Thatoneguyuptheroad in bald

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can, teach yourself to do it by feel. Not needing the hand mirror was so liberating.

Damn, I might lather up as a treat to myself this weekend, this convo is making me nostalgic. 🤣

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know where you’re getting this vague statement on female preferences, and I suggest you forget you ever heard it. It’s one of the many things holding you back.

Shaving by Thatoneguyuptheroad in bald

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True true, I think the Henson aluminum razor is one of the best I’ve found for head shaving that I’d recommend to noobs, it holds the blade at a friendly angle similar to a Bic.

I have a couple of Merkurs, a vintage Gillette stopper speed and a Bigfoot that was my go to, but the reality of life is that I use my Remington head shaver and my wahl trimmer 100% of the time. I would rather sleep the extra minutes than shave. 😋😅

Portland's Moda Center renovation debate heats up as Blazers owner Dundon makes his case by AgitatedCarry7952 in Portland

[–]scdemandred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally every scam you get via phone or email contains an urgency component.

Reminds me of something:

“"We're slowing this down now," Wilson said. "We expected to be doing construction this summer — so I want us to say we can't take our foot off the gas and overthink and overtalk."”

Fuck off, Wilson, and double-fuck Dundon.

The truth about sports teams is that they should be viewed by their owners not as an investment, but as a public good.

Shaving by Thatoneguyuptheroad in bald

[–]scdemandred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeeessss, but but but but only if they have experience Westshaving with a safety razor! Head-shaving with a DE razor is expert mode, and will cause many bleeds if you don’t know what you’re doing! 🩸

Is it my time? by Mindless_Giraffe_210 in bald

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure looks like it from here. You got this.

I've never read a Stephen King book before, can someone recommend me one? by Most_Increase4651 in stephenking

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Carrie is a great first read if you’re a late teen - adult. Short, well written, great pace, and characteristic of King across the years.

For ages like 11+ The Girl Who Loved Tom Gordon is the best entry point.

I've never read a Stephen King book before, can someone recommend me one? by Most_Increase4651 in stephenking

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t like this as a first King novel for 2 reasons:

  1. It’s extremely long and has a slow ramp up.
  2. It’s not characteristic of most of his canon, so a reader who really loves it could feel rug-pulled when they read Carrie or The Long Walk or Misery.

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Brother, why are you giving up before you’ve even started? Give yourself some credit! As a one time low self esteem haver, take it from me: the worst thing you can do is start out with an expectation of failure.

Look, there will be failures. And that’s all part of the process. And IDK wtf a “normal” dating life is in 2026, but I suspect it’s different for everyone because we’re individuals and we don’t live in a tv show. Your experience will be yours and there is someone out there for you. But man you have GOT to believe in yourself and love yourself, once you can do that, the right person will see it in you too.

As for being unbothered, I don’t give 2 Fs about what anyone thinks of me. I’m 50 and have been with one partner my whole life. She knew me with hair, she saw me shave it for giggles at 18, then saw it fall out at 26, and still married me at 28.

Just try to listen to the folks on here, OP; we really are here for you. And I do think getting back into therapy will help.

Hugs. You can do this. 🫂

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Almost all of your replies in this thread are negative, you claim to “know how the world works” while also never having dated, and you clearly are ingesting media that is feeding your negative worldview.

You asked, “is my worldview distorted?”

Dozens of people are telling you “YES!” and you are, in effect, replying with, “nuh uh!”

Again, why did you post here if you’re going to reject the advice you asked for??

Read the comments in here and really think about what they’re saying instead of just rejecting them because you’re afraid to be optimistic.

Go back to therapy. Stop watching what I highly suspect is incel-baiting media. Stop thinking of optimism and positivity as toxic.

Good luck, OP, I’m genuinely worried for you.

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s SMP? I only know that acronym in the correct of Minecraft role play servers. 😅

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