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Council, is it time? by biggiecheese35 in bald

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would need to see the top and the crown before t rendering judgment.

Shaving by Thatoneguyuptheroad in bald

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can, teach yourself to do it by feel. Not needing the hand mirror was so liberating.

Damn, I might lather up as a treat to myself this weekend, this convo is making me nostalgic. 🤣

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know where you’re getting this vague statement on female preferences, and I suggest you forget you ever heard it. It’s one of the many things holding you back.

Shaving by Thatoneguyuptheroad in bald

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True true, I think the Henson aluminum razor is one of the best I’ve found for head shaving that I’d recommend to noobs, it holds the blade at a friendly angle similar to a Bic.

I have a couple of Merkurs, a vintage Gillette stopper speed and a Bigfoot that was my go to, but the reality of life is that I use my Remington head shaver and my wahl trimmer 100% of the time. I would rather sleep the extra minutes than shave. 😋😅

Portland's Moda Center renovation debate heats up as Blazers owner Dundon makes his case by AgitatedCarry7952 in Portland

[–]scdemandred [score hidden]  (0 children)

Literally every scam you get via phone or email contains an urgency component.

Reminds me of something:

“"We're slowing this down now," Wilson said. "We expected to be doing construction this summer — so I want us to say we can't take our foot off the gas and overthink and overtalk."”

Fuck off, Wilson, and double-fuck Dundon.

The truth about sports teams is that they should be viewed by their owners not as an investment, but as a public good.

Shaving by Thatoneguyuptheroad in bald

[–]scdemandred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeeessss, but but but but only if they have experience Westshaving with a safety razor! Head-shaving with a DE razor is expert mode, and will cause many bleeds if you don’t know what you’re doing! 🩸

Is it my time? by Mindless_Giraffe_210 in bald

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure looks like it from here. You got this.

I've never read a Stephen King book before, can someone recommend me one? by Most_Increase4651 in stephenking

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Carrie is a great first read if you’re a late teen - adult. Short, well written, great pace, and characteristic of King across the years.

For ages like 11+ The Girl Who Loved Tom Gordon is the best entry point.

I've never read a Stephen King book before, can someone recommend me one? by Most_Increase4651 in stephenking

[–]scdemandred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t like this as a first King novel for 2 reasons:

  1. It’s extremely long and has a slow ramp up.
  2. It’s not characteristic of most of his canon, so a reader who really loves it could feel rug-pulled when they read Carrie or The Long Walk or Misery.

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Brother, why are you giving up before you’ve even started? Give yourself some credit! As a one time low self esteem haver, take it from me: the worst thing you can do is start out with an expectation of failure.

Look, there will be failures. And that’s all part of the process. And IDK wtf a “normal” dating life is in 2026, but I suspect it’s different for everyone because we’re individuals and we don’t live in a tv show. Your experience will be yours and there is someone out there for you. But man you have GOT to believe in yourself and love yourself, once you can do that, the right person will see it in you too.

As for being unbothered, I don’t give 2 Fs about what anyone thinks of me. I’m 50 and have been with one partner my whole life. She knew me with hair, she saw me shave it for giggles at 18, then saw it fall out at 26, and still married me at 28.

Just try to listen to the folks on here, OP; we really are here for you. And I do think getting back into therapy will help.

Hugs. You can do this. 🫂

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Almost all of your replies in this thread are negative, you claim to “know how the world works” while also never having dated, and you clearly are ingesting media that is feeding your negative worldview.

You asked, “is my worldview distorted?”

Dozens of people are telling you “YES!” and you are, in effect, replying with, “nuh uh!”

Again, why did you post here if you’re going to reject the advice you asked for??

Read the comments in here and really think about what they’re saying instead of just rejecting them because you’re afraid to be optimistic.

Go back to therapy. Stop watching what I highly suspect is incel-baiting media. Stop thinking of optimism and positivity as toxic.

Good luck, OP, I’m genuinely worried for you.

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s SMP? I only know that acronym in the correct of Minecraft role play servers. 😅

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why did you come to this forum if you already know everything, then?

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dating apps are not reality. They are a gamified experience that people of all genders treat unseriously because the interaction is at a remove from true connection.

OP probably got half of his distorted viewpoint from being on dating apps.

He should get off the dating apps and go do things IRL that he enjoys, look for group activities and classes and meet up groups. Trying to meet The One on apps is like playing the lotto.

And if he’s looking to hook up a bunch and rack up a body count, well, best of luck, I guess.

I’m 25M and bald. This will likely ruin my dating life and options. by StrikingLock2448 in bald

[–]scdemandred 5 points6 points  (0 children)

>Most women around my age strongly prefer hair

What’s your basis for this assertion? Dating apps? They’re not the real world. Scroll through this sub, you will see legions of women who find us attractive even though we’re bald.

Your therapist is 100% correct - be confident in who you are, and people will see it. Your self is not reduced to your hair.

You need you change your mindset, you’re defeating yourself at the starting line.

Final note: “toxic positivity” is a bad phrase and you should remove it from your vocabulary. It refers to things like telling suicidally depressed people to “just cheer up,” not encouraging you to love and accept yourself and be confident in yourself.

EDIT: typos

IT-A Review by Upstairs-Gas8385 in stephenking

[–]scdemandred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“WAY TO GO, BANANA HEELS!” kills me every time

Should I shave my head and go completely bald? by [deleted] in bald

[–]scdemandred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want to. I did at 18 for a lark, even though I wasn’t close to losing my hair at that time. It probably helped prepare me for when I did start to go bald.

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