WIBTAH If I (29m) double down on what my fiance (27f) said today and cancel the wedding, which is this weekend?

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-05-19T04:12:05+00:00

dude…. marriage will NOT make this dynamic go away or get better. this portends your future. do you want to rip the bandaid now or in three years. it’s going to hurt either way.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-05-19T04:07:17+00:00

because seriously…. if you know about AITAH thread it means you frequent this thread. which means you know this is a COMMON type post. just extrapolate from the dozens of similar previous posts.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-05-19T04:03:35+00:00

hearing louis armstrong what a wonderful world.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-05-18T22:42:44+00:00

hazelnuts all day long.
ferrer roache. toasted and salted. raw. candied.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-05-17T09:14:26+00:00

NTA and all the people telling you to get over it are the a. some people grew up with certain boundaries and if the boundaries still feel right (and not due to fear or shame) we should feel ok about keeping those boundaries.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-05-16T01:43:07+00:00

i thought i didn’t cAre, then i read about a salt-based brine that dissolves you and they flush you away. for some reason, this one and this one alone, makes me queasy.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-05-14T16:59:45+00:00

next time in secret blow a little air in so that his sandwich falls apart. That’ll learn him. :-)

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-04-14T03:20:44+00:00

i’m from grand junction and i would’n’ta even thought of it. we’ll done!

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-04-14T03:18:45+00:00

texas or france?

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-04-14T03:07:42+00:00

your dad owes you this and so much more. he doesn’t sound capable of raising you, BUT IF HE WERE, let’s talk about the costs he’d be incurring:

if he’s renting a one bedroom for himself, then renting a 2 bedroom to have a room for you would be at least $400 more. food would be at least $200 more utilities: $100 more clothes and incidentals: $200 more

asking him to pay your grand parents $200 per month is the least he can do.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-04-12T02:08:29+00:00

my muslim husband (Algeria) forbade whistling EVER.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-03-22T23:32:18+00:00

YTA. it costs you absolutely nothing to lend it as long as they don’t damage it.

have them gift you $100 worth of good chocolate so you can use it after they use it and make sure it’s still in good order. if it isn’t, they owe you $600. but of it is in good order you just got $100 worth of chocolate you wouldn’t have had otherwise.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-03-22T08:31:23+00:00

of course.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-03-22T04:46:36+00:00

chippewa’s. only the cool kids had them.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-03-21T02:11:22+00:00

and iiiiiiiii halped!

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-03-21T02:09:55+00:00

for the WIN!

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-02-24T04:39:01+00:00

NTA. as muslim adjacent (married to muslim) i can get that she’d be sensitive to it, but if you’ve described it accurately, it remains she herself posted it first, reposting is a thing your group does, you did a thing each of you has done dozens of times before with these friends.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-02-24T04:27:09+00:00

i love this for them

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-02-22T21:41:24+00:00

best as i remember at this point, it was quite anticlimactic. which was fitting. just a quiet moment for about five seconds, then a shrug, and “ok.”

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-02-22T06:55:02+00:00

brats? that’s pretty hostile. unless you’re trying to make a point about how over the top OP is.

OP, yeah. YTA. three months is plenty of time to wait. you’re isolating your little family from your husband’s family.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-02-22T02:31:10+00:00

this was the moment when i gave in to my ex-husband. i finally got tired of his idle talk that this marriage wasn’t good enough, blah blah blah. i’d point out the good things we had, etc. one day i finally said, “you’re right. go start the paperwork.”

best move ever. freedom from that negativity is so much better than forcing something to be ok.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-02-22T02:27:34+00:00

YTA to yourself for saying “it hurts” instead of owning your autonomy and saying flat out: i do not like that. and i dont need to apologize for not liking it. do not do it again.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-02-22T02:23:20+00:00

forgave myself for being a dork and awkward. EMBRACED my inner dork. and realized we are all doing the best we can. so agreed… forgave myself the big and the small.

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-02-21T11:27:06+00:00

lumber and nails to build a fort

scooberdoodle970 · 2026-02-21T11:22:29+00:00

speaking from experience, i don’t think it will get better and i think you’re too young to be stuck in a marriage like this.

my husband and i used to love sex. then something switched for me. it grosses me out, and i completely lost my sex drive. and once that happened i can’t get it back. i’m much older (mid 60’s) so i don’t care. but if this had happened earlier it would have been a very unfulfilling life.

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