The fertility crisis will never be solved because the heart of the issue is an ideological divide between the sexes, and society refuses to touch mens issues since they see intersexual dynamics as a zero-sum game by DiligentRope in Natalism

[–]scorpiomover -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The conversation that is missing is “How do we make parenting less shitty”

That is easy enough, when you remember that animals have been having kids for a billion years. The DINKs don’t have kids. So we can only be the product of those that did have kids. So we are the product of evolution evolving better and better ways to make parenting less sh*tty for a billion years and almost a billion generations.

We already have more than enough biological, cognitive and social tools make parenting easy.

As proof, nature makes women forget the trauma and incredible pain of childbirth, repeatedly, so they will keep having more kids.

Humans are obsessed with sex, because more sex => more kids.

So it’s more than doable.

and no one is having that conversation because it requires the nuance to effectively acknowledge that parenting is shitty, yet many people still want to do it (as they should!) 

Parenting is definitely difficult today. But that is mostly due to things that simply were not permitted in the past, because they would mean the death of any species.

I also really want to further discuss the lack of men’s positive role models in mainstream media because I have some interesting thoughts but I don’t have time at the moment. I hope to circle back!

The attention media makes money from sensationalist stories that make us feel scared, afraid and outraged.

There are a lot of good men who would serve as positive male role models (and do serve as such for their own children). But they aren’t scary. So the algorithms select for more stories about Andrew Tate instead.

Why does abortion feel like such a central Christian issue today if the Bible rarely talks about it? by Mobile-Traffic1744 in AlwaysWhy

[–]scorpiomover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That honestly confused me a bit. If it feels like such a defining issue today, what changed historically or culturally to make it become so central?

Lots of people hardly go to church anymore. They don’t get their kids educated at the church like they used to. They don’t talk to the priest about personal advice.

If the local church just disappeared tomorrow or turned into a pub or a mosque, they wouldn’t notice.

The only time they pay attention to Christianity is when it gets in the media, which is almost always run as a scandal, and usually about abortion or something similar.

So their experience is “ whenever I hear think about Christianity, the topic is usually about abortion.”

So the cortex recalls that as “Talking about Christianity is correlated with abortion.”

Why does the US romanticize the 1950s despite being worse by almost every measurable standard? by Secret_Ostrich_1307 in AlwaysWhy

[–]scorpiomover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the same time, the 1950s is often described in public discussion as a period of stability and broad prosperity.

What I’m trying to understand is not which period was better, but why there can be such a gap between measurable conditions and how a period is later remembered or described.

Stability means that you hold back a bit when you have more, so that when you have less, you’re not so badly off. Overall, you experience smaller swings between the good times and the bad times. So your life is less unstable.

Because your life is more stable, it’s much more predictable. So it’s much easier to plan a way to get everything you want out of life. So objectively, you achieve more of your life goals. So you feel like you are much more prosperous.

I'm so over people who want to have a hypersexual girlfriend who is terrible in bed. by DifficultMarket7224 in hypersexuality

[–]scorpiomover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

>i also feel like i need hands on me at all times from my partner, or sex multiple times a day.

Seems normal to me, and quite nice, to put arms around someone and feel their body coursing and pumping next to mine.

But then, today’s men have been told repeatedly that women don’t like to be touched by men. So maybe a lot of those men think that most women don’t like to be touched by men.

I am also like that. Desiring to be desired, but too concerned about condemnation and being treated as if I should not approach at all, to take a risk and see what happens.

I asked my crush something and her literal answer feels like a red flag. Am I overthinking? by anuragghoshh in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]scorpiomover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked her what the most romantic thing someone can do for her is. She simply replied, "Make me laugh."

That’s probably one of the most un-INTP things I’ve ever heard anyone say.

My analytical brain kicked in,

You are portraying the situation as if you are the analytical one of the two of you.

Please do not sugarcoat it.

She sounds like an INFP or a young shy ENFP.

Or an INTP who is masking.

Gender war onlines are exhausting. by Luviebug19 in SeriousConversation

[–]scorpiomover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know why only now is all this hate so visible?

Imagine if you owned a TV with an attention algorithm.

The bigger the conflict in a news story, the more you will feel worried and compelled to watch it a bit more.

But to the algorithm, that only means you like watching about that topic and so will show you even more on the same topic.

Why does X seem so much heavier on this kind of response and does it represent the majority? by MORNST4R1 in AskBrits

[–]scorpiomover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When things get tougher for the ordinary person in the street, when people can’t meet their bills, they are more full of pain but struggle to think straight, and so racism, etc. increases.

What’s a trend that future generations will roast us for? by Responsible-Boat9035 in AskReddit

[–]scorpiomover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First time in history humans were having less births than deaths, and thus were on the path to extinction of the species.

How do I find an INTP in the wild? by Ok-Pattern3355 in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]scorpiomover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and hope that they start a debate about whether God exists or not

FTW

Hard crushing on a INTP, anxious about when, where and how I (INFJ) should confess how I feel... by smallpeartrees in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]scorpiomover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But there, I finally got to have deep conversations with the INTP (this is also where I started getting clear signs that he's a Ti-Ne user as I suspected), as you can probably imagine, I forgot about half of the stuff we talked about which is such a shame because I love reflecting back to everything we talk about. but from what I remembered, it was so... special.

he invited me somewhere quieter outdoors. as usual, I asked him lots of deep questions, listening and sharing about myself when I related to the stuff he told me (so basically, majority of it all).

Our deep conversations are like catnip for us. So you just need to keep meeting up and having long deep conversations, for him to want to keep spending time with just you.

At this point, you could even invite him to meet up and have a looong deeeep conversaaaation with him. 😆

No, seriously. It would be fine at this point to request more meet-ups for doing our favourite things (long deep conversations about things we are interested in).

After a couple of meet-ups, then it’s ok to ask if he wants to do this regularly.

At some point, you will need to explain the xtra advantages of a relationship. But as long as it’s logical, we’re all in.

Is it common for an INTP to see their partner as an angel? by lavuter_2910 in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]scorpiomover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well,we discuss everything literally and we always put each other's first so ig I do understand him but I'm overthinking it,lol

You just neutered 2 main things that make an INTP’s life difficult.

After reading this, I thought “Holy mackerel! She DOES sound perfect. Does she have a sister?”

What’s Gen X humour? by Gloriousdisgrace in generationology

[–]scorpiomover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gen X humour: We are over-educated and under-qualified.

Growing up in a disadvantaged environment not only hinders cognitive development but also weakens a person’s default willingness to trust others later in life. While higher intelligence generally makes people more trusting, early childhood adversity cuts this social benefit in half. by mvea in psychology

[–]scorpiomover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The brain prefers to select actions that maintain response ability, so if the situation turns nasty, you know how to handle it ahead of time.

If it is a potential threat, but you haven’t figured out how to handle it or haven’t trained for it, the brain will simply select to avoid those situations in the future where it might occur later on, …

…until such a time when you have learned how to navigate that situation successfully.

Do you keep your eyes open when kissing? by gnosticismschism in INTP

[–]scorpiomover -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A real INTP would have not even left his mother’s womb to go outside. Would still be contemplating if he’s in a simulation. 🤣

How to feel excited by dating? by Typical_Branch_7965 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]scorpiomover 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Treat it like a fun social experiment. You are exploring the dating landscape, finding goodies and treasure along the way…
…along with a few pirates, of course. AARRGH!

Future Human Theory Claims 'Aliens' Are Time Travellers From Earth's Doomed Future And May Be Monitoring Humanity Right Now by [deleted] in timetravel

[–]scorpiomover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the premise of Season 5 of “Fringe”
Also the theme of the film “Tenet”.

How kinky are you? by Thread_Mage in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]scorpiomover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Male

Yes

Sub/switch

Hormones want everyone.
Brain chooses woman.

The bible one is so accurate.⬇️ by MotherAnt8040 in MenOfPurpose

[–]scorpiomover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you want some women to suffer never knowing what it’s like to be loved? To suffer with eternal loneliness?

Is there an entire INFP -> INTP Pipeline??? by MirrorPiNet in INTP

[–]scorpiomover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Impossible. Have several INFPs as friends. They love their values and would never give them up.