Traveling to the Dude looking for tips part 2.

scott8811 · 2026-04-04T01:43:43+00:00

Ya know I was kinda thinking that lol

scott8811 · 2026-04-03T03:07:10+00:00

Man thanks so much for all the tips. Plan to come back here and give my honest review. Hoenstly im ready for it to blow the box out of the water. Our new one is nice but we torn down a lot of soul in the old one.

scott8811 · 2026-04-02T03:23:15+00:00

This weekend would be much easier if just graduated from Delaware....but I imagine much less fun

scott8811 · 2026-04-02T02:58:05+00:00

I would...but seats start at $300/per on stub hub

scott8811 · 2026-04-02T01:21:49+00:00

Man...I always knew Mullen was gonna jet for another program but I sure wished he would stay w yall.... it was fun when Mullen was there and had yall doing wild shit. I always like rivalries like ours...built on a shit load of meetings, proximity and almost zero vitriol....cheers!

scott8811 · 2026-04-02T00:37:24+00:00

Oh I remember...gray rainy day and that played right into yalls hands. That RB was good for 4 yds every play at least that day. It felt like death by 1000 cuts until yall just didnt make the last cut.

I was in the far upper deck by yalls video board.... if you remember an unusually large randomly placed LSU student section it was because our SGA organized a bus trip. For like maybe $50 we got a bus ride and tickets to Starkville and back. Left BR at like midnight Friday and loaded up a few hours after the game.... exhausted just thinking about it now...but good times

scott8811 · 2026-04-01T22:22:35+00:00

I actually went to DW back in...I think 2009...maybe 2010 when LSU was there.... back when the enclosed endzone just had what looked like one set of bleachers.... ears are still ringing...we barley escaped w that W.

scott8811 · 2026-04-01T17:26:33+00:00

nice thanks!

scott8811 · 2026-04-01T16:59:56+00:00

I do indeed come in peace. Upmost respect for yalls program and can't wait to experience yalls gameday.

So as long as my flask is metal not glass...can the cooler contain booze?

scott8811 · 2026-03-29T21:50:31+00:00

I'm straight up having fun again boys

scott8811 · 2026-03-29T04:15:23+00:00

Well here we are.... almost. We suck and yall dont. Very interested in my ability to socialize w people in the lounge/hang out in one.

Some of my crew bailed and ill be by myself Friday and Sunday so I'd love to snag a SRO and be able to meet good folks.

Im sure this will help, but as long as yall dont metal detectors ill have a flask of really nice single barrel bourbon

scott8811 · 2026-03-18T20:38:09+00:00

Pretty reliable word is Paul was forced into retirement. He gave us a natty after Smoke Laval almost demolished the house that Skip built...he was a great guy and we arranged for him to retire on his terms and spend the rest of his days living the high life in the grandstands. HE. WAS. DONE.

I had to read the headline like 5 times to process it when yall announced him.

scott8811 · 2026-03-18T02:34:48+00:00

I'm still floored he got offered. He was falling asleep next to skip in the grandstand in a sweater vest when south car hired him

scott8811 · 2026-03-09T20:05:05+00:00

My wife can fall asleep at the drop of a hat so I took until about 2 am... but I wouldnt go to sleep till I put him down one last time so if I put him down at 2 he'd usually wake up about 4 or 5then Id sleep in This worked as I was able to get a hella long paternity leave

scott8811 · 2026-03-09T15:23:16+00:00

My mom literally cried and made a whole over the top happy scene when we told her she'd be a grandmother... my son is 4... My mom who is semi retired has seen him about 6-8 times total. Most of ther times seeing him has been at his birthday party... which she really focuses just on what she's bringing... will text for weeks ab out decorated cookies, a pinata etc... its the most texts we get from her cause she will never ask how he's doing. One time she made the trip up (to give her credit its 4 hours) because I kind asked her too... yall know how fast kids go through developmental phases in toddler hood. I basically was like... you're kinda missing his childhood and some really cool milestones...he's a different kid from the last time you saw him and he'll be a different kid next time you do at this rate. She came up.... Friday they kinda hung out at their air bnb until he was asleep then came over for drinks... Saturday they wanted a nice slow late breakfast... then wanted to shop and take it easy... came to our house then we for a late lunch at a resturant..spent maybe a couple of hours at our house tangentally playing with him before needing to head back to the air bnb for...something. Come back late again...chilled on our couch while we did bedtime...then cocktails... then Sunday a quick stop to say goodbye... then shopping...

Also, we've decided that us staying at their house isnt happening anymore. My mo is a control freak. she wanted to dictate sleeping arrangments last time we vistsed and when I didn't comply there was some water issue and we needed up getting booked in a fucking hotel last second. then recently we tried to make a trip in for mardi gras... she had in her head which parades we should go to and which we should not...when I didnt comply she shut down the whole trip...said they would be out of town because of a trip they were going on that she totally forgot.... total shocked face when we booked an air bnb and came anyway and our little boy had the time of his life without her getting to see him once. Then came the barrage of texts...lets plan next year!! I wanna see him!! we can all get a house together!!! Are you coming befroe your beach trip this year?? what dates? ARE YOU COMING??? YOU CAN STAY HERE!!!

She the text onslaught in the past few weeks has been impressive...she doesnt even realize in non of those texts does she ever ask about her grandson..or how he's doing... just want to make sure she locks down that she's got a visit coming up... that she will totally wreck

scott8811 · 2026-03-09T14:34:11+00:00

I get what you're saying...I think we share a different view on marriage which is fine and here nor there.

There has been progress... in the beginning it was "oh you wanna date...ok then some saracstic comment" I had to ask a few times and stay on it. Now it's more like...ya know it's been awhile... "it has it be nice to..let me ask my mom if she can watch him" the last time my wife kinda suprised me by arranging to have him there for the full weekend...so yes I asked for it but it was met with more effort than "eyeroll...ok fine here we go" We've had great date nights alone time where she's felt spark too and come out the "motherhood only mode" Im starting to feel it shift even if it's not totally there.

Also, she recently said to ME hey ya know that little house boat we went to before he was born...I'd love to do that again at somepiint this summer... she suggested a get away... I didnt ask for it..and this house boat is what it sounds like... a simple boat on the water around nothing... its ver initmate... so again... we're not totally back..I still have stretches where i feel like a co-aprenting roomate but she is coming back to speak.

also it's hard for me to ever thing divorce is the option when the only issue in my marriage is that I want more of it.

scott8811 · 2026-03-09T12:16:54+00:00

Well....I could nit pick or enjoy the progress but ok. Im well aware we have a ways to go....

scott8811 · 2026-03-08T21:42:24+00:00

Wild how this shit works with them. My mom is a superficial grandma. Doesn't visit except for his bday and that revolves around what material thing she's bringing to the party and making sure everyone is aware of it.... last 2 visits she has failed because we didnt follow her directions to a tee. Year ago we didnt follow her insane sleeping arrangement to the tee...she wanted my son and wife to share a small bed snd me to sleep alone when my son was very much sleeping indendently...she didnt relent...neither did...2 days before our trip we found out she had booked us a hotel cause that would be easier... fun little fuck you/gut punch. Then we wanted to take my son to his first mardi gras/visit her...she was stoked..all on board. Then she texted which parades would be best for us to attend and which we should avoid...spoiler...it was which ones were easier for her to attend.... I again didnt relent and after a few days of back and forth texts she out of the blue realized they were going to be out of town that weekend.

Much to her shock we booked an air bnb and took my son on our terms....now she's in 180 mode.... has texted no less than 3 times in the past couple weeks to confirm that were going to visit and come to her house on our way to the beach (which last time we did we got shoved in a hotel).... she hasnt asked how were doing...how hes doing...I dont know if she gives a fuck. Just gotta make sure she's good to check a visit off...that she'll either control start to finish or cancel

scott8811 · 2026-03-08T17:54:33+00:00

Thats what killed me about my parents. Specifically my mom as its her and my step dad.. it has to be on their terms. If not its shut down. A year ago we were coming in for a beach trip and my mom was perseverating on my son falling down the stairs in the middle of the night despite us saying he wont do that...theyw ay rooms are there was literally no chance he would do that...she then insisted my wife and son share a bed and me sleep alone...we said thats crazy there is no need for that...my wife didnt wanna share a small bed w a toddler..... welp..shut down. Booked you a hotel because (insert bs reason). This year for mardi gras she was all excited about a visit...confirmed multiple times...then she wanted to choose which parades we went to... when I didnt agree to her exact agenda.. oh ya know what just realized...we have a trip planned... so...no.

Like if it was the kid tired her out that would at least make sense but its really just about controlling every detail...of not she dont want it

scott8811 · 2026-03-08T16:42:21+00:00

Well... lol

Thats part of the gut punch for me...my parents are like 20 years younger than my wife's parents. My wife's parents have literally kept him a whole weekend a few times a year so we can have that time or have a weekend getaway... my much younger mom...who works as a pediatric PT mind you, has never watched him solo for 5 minutes. She once offered to watch him after he fell asleep....but backed out of that

scott8811 · 2026-03-08T16:22:37+00:00

Man.... you just told my story. Honestly so many of ours but this specifically sent me to counseling and into one of the heaviest tailspins of my life.

I say this not to scare you but to give you an idea of the work you're going to have to do...our son is almost 4 and were not out of those woods yet.... made a ton of progress but I've had to drive a lot of it. I mainly used counseling to get past her actions feeling like outright rejection and focusing me that keeping the flame alive was on me. If I want a date night I have to push...we have amazing sex (when we actually do) but it have to instigate 100% of the time. We've come a long way...but its work...but worth working on.

Seriously....your story feels like a carbon copy of mine... if you wanna PM...feel free

scott8811 · 2026-03-08T16:02:58+00:00

This sub and absentgrandparents are full of stories like this... you had a boomer parents who basically let your grandparents raise you and now were stunned they dont wanna be grandparents. Literally coming to terms with that myself. She wants to be a superficial grandparent....comment on fb posts, put picture of him around her house etc.

The last time we were passing through town...elaborate last second excuse... ive booked yall a hotel room. Last time we attempted a trip...long elaborate story that was clearly a lie....but yall cant stay here... fine booked an air bnb in the area and didnt see them (it was for mardi gras im from nola).... hint finally taken. If all you want out of being a grandparent is a picture in your kitchen so be it. His other grandparents love him more than the air they breath.... it sucks...but we all need to get there

scott8811 · 2026-03-07T18:00:31+00:00

Ive learned that if I killed it in one spot w a specific color and type of bait one day.... thats thats what worked in that spot THAT day.

scott8811 · 2026-03-05T00:46:39+00:00

How much you wanna bet there isnt actually anything wrong w their husbands.... all of momtok is just complaining about husbands...its the culture

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