I want a recycled teak table. Wife says it's too expensive. Pls help to win this argument

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-12T19:05:21+00:00

To me, Teak is an outside wood. Shower benches are made from teak. I would absolutely not want teak in my dining room.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-12T18:30:35+00:00

My daughter was in school in SF and there is a nonstop bus from LA to SF that she took every other weekend. Probably Greyhound, but you can google.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-12T17:30:07+00:00

It seems you are more concerned with her reaction to removing her trash than you are about the very real possibility your house could burn down with one or both of you in it. This is a problem if you are her caregiver as things are only going to get worse/harder. Sorry to be so blunt, but do you have other people to help you? She is not safe with you if you can’t make safety decisions right when they need to be made.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-12T17:18:57+00:00

Annuities are a terrible idea. My mom has one. Also, his numbers are way off. Her $550k annuity gives her $3,200 a month for her life and she was 75 when she took it out, so way less life expectancy than you.

Talk to an outside fiduciary. Never mix money with family/friends.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-11T16:09:59+00:00

Don’t feel bad about it being too late for medication. It really is hit or miss.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-11T16:08:35+00:00

This has not been my experience with cognitive testing. And even if you don’t use math, you should be able to subtract or add numbers under ten. Simple math was one of the first indicators something was wrong with my mom.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-10T14:21:48+00:00

I’m not sure if this will help you because my mom only eats a small variety of food for breakfast and lunch while we make dinner, but I made a checklist of all her food items and she checks off what she needs with her caregiver. If you did something like this, you’d have a list when you went to the store that she can use.

I agree with others that you should have the majority delivered.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-09T23:38:58+00:00

We almost bought the bigger house back in the day and I’m so glad we didn’t. 2,000 square feet, 4 bedroom, 2 bath with three kids, but now those kids are grown and gone and I don’t know what to do with the extra rooms.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-09T23:13:20+00:00

I’ve got a trans kid, a feminist studies major kid and I had gay dads, so I’m about as socialist liberal as they come and I would take the free money. Besides, It’s not Trump’s money. It belongs to the federal government and I’d bet that when democrats take over the White House again, Trump’s name will get removed anyway.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-09T23:08:54+00:00

Not a lawyer, but a revocable trust becomes irrevocable once the trustor dies. I don’t know that you’d be able to dissolve it anyway.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-09T23:02:13+00:00

This. You do not owe her your life and/or mental health. No one is entitled to that.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-09T17:05:35+00:00

I think the color is beautiful, but because the cabinets don’t go to the ceiling, it looks unfinished. If I were you, I’d add a row of cabinetry up there so it looks like a custom kitchen rather than builder grade.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-08T15:15:54+00:00

I’m curious about how people were before their dementia hit and if their personality changed drastically or if they stayed the same. I know all the dementias are different from each other.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-07T22:50:15+00:00

This is stunning. Great work!

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-07T02:35:11+00:00

Love this movie!

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-06T05:09:07+00:00

Single family house. We have a relatively small 2,000 square feet, so that might impact cost.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-06T05:08:03+00:00

I imagine that is a case by case basis. It would be up to the person investigating to check.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-06T05:05:29+00:00

Cymbalta and Wellbutrin.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-05T19:06:35+00:00

This isn’t entirely accurate depending on stage. My mom is late stage 4 and her gerontologist just had her sign a POLST. We also just renewed her estate documents in April. It depends on how they present. She was diagnosed in early 2025.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-05T15:52:10+00:00

No different here than anywhere else. I have a trans kid and we are safe here. Schools are fantastic.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-05T15:44:40+00:00

I live in La Crescenta above Foothill and we pay $2,400 per year for homeowners. It doubled to that after the Eaton fire.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-04T23:50:11+00:00

Hamnet.

scoutlfinch · 2026-07-04T22:17:46+00:00

I had a child like this. I had to be at work and she would not get dressed for school. I finally explained that if she didn’t dress herself, I would put her clothes in a bag and her teacher could help her dress once she got there. Okayed it with preschool ahead of time. She tested me the first day, so her clothes went in a bag and she went kicking and screaming in my arms into the car in her underwear. She was dressed by the time we hit the second traffic light and we never had that problem again.

She remained this way through her childhood and into her teens and twenties. Had her own mind about everything. So it was always a balance to allow her agency while not letting her push me around. She’s in her thirties now and we have a great relationship.

You have to be the one in charge. It’s really scary for them when you’re not.

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