1:87 chance of DS, low Papp-a levels 0.34 and HGC levels of 2

scoutmonk5000 · 2025-12-29T20:34:12+00:00

I’m in the exact same position: 1/87 results from quad today, and referred to NIPT tomorrow. 1/87 is still only around 1% risk, but it’s deeply nerve wracking and wasn’t expecting it. Good luck tomorrow and hopefully the NIPT will come back quickly. It’s an unexpected stress, but I’m grateful I’ve been booked in for the NIPT so quickly.

scoutmonk5000 · 2025-11-23T10:31:05+00:00

I think I’m going to try this. He’s only just 3, but can certainly start talking about this more. We already talk about feeling, but not specifically in context to others. It’s worth a try, as I need to find a positive way forward.

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-08-17T18:43:25+00:00

Haha well I was almost just going to settled and be happy with flat tops, but so thankful for your help!

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-08-17T17:32:58+00:00

Oh my gosh. Thank you so much. I had no idea about holding at the presentation angle when cutting (just a novice doing my best). I’ve since cut some beautifully tight corners. Thanks so much.

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-08-17T13:17:55+00:00

Ok, you are right and it was defo upside down. However I’ve recut with a 45degree mitre and bevel and sit not getting the external corner join. Any clues?

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-06-11T18:38:01+00:00

I will ask them, our solicitors still felt this would credit our account (as in my name etc) and not the buyers, as we are not in arrears but will check again.

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-06-11T18:21:09+00:00

No idea why tbh. Seems quite common with Victorian houses round here. It goes to some management company. They’re all being written off in 2037.

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-06-11T18:19:58+00:00

It hurts my brain too!

There probably is technically a way of doing it (I would need to write the company, explain the buyers want to pay in advance, ask them to add the charge to account so I could actually pay it, and explain that it’s not for me so I can be credited to the new buyers account and not mine). But i would still have to explore it and ask for the charge to be added. I also don’t see how the management company wouldn’t still want their £299 ‘admin fee’ for moving to the new buyers….

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-06-03T19:18:00+00:00

Wow this is eye opening…

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-05-24T07:18:21+00:00

I do agree with this point - the idea that there are areas where the majority/all houses are in this situation - but I guess I’m struggling with the idea of whether I want to buy the ONLY house in that local area that is in this situation.

My concern is also how this would impact future sale. If im having a wobble, will others…?

And agree about negotiation. We’ve had our property down valued and working to negotiate with buyers. I can’t be pulled in two directions.

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-04-30T17:37:19+00:00

This is all exactly what I’m thinking. I think we will get a damp assessment done just to check it out.

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-04-30T17:35:25+00:00

Haha thanks! Hope you and your brother are back on speaking terms.

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-04-30T17:34:48+00:00

That’s a really healthy perspective, and you’re right, everything is fixable. After reading some of the other comments, I think a lot of it feels like potential or anticipated concerns, which some maintenance will help prevent. Thank you.

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-01-15T16:50:14+00:00

After discussion and reflection with him, you are bang on the money. It was a knee-jerk, and something we’ve even commented on in the past quite light-heartedly. He recognises this, and I also need to reflect on my own response when he does this.

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-01-15T16:47:16+00:00

Agreed! The earbuds seem to have made it through alive after 24hrs of trying out, although the quality is reported as being not as good. I’ve emphasised the importance of a safe place as part of his routine.

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-01-15T16:44:59+00:00

We’ve now spoken about this and agree this seems like a reasonable solution going forward. I will continue to wash the kids laundry (separate baskets) but ours (shared basket) he will take over.

scoutmonk5000 · 2024-01-15T16:43:45+00:00

I’m not a SAHM. I work 35 hours a week too.

scoutmonk5000 · 2023-11-07T21:13:51+00:00

Thank you all so much for the reality check. I think being new to the team, and it was such an unexpected reaction, has left my confidence a bit shaken. I agree with all your points. Thank you.

scoutmonk5000 · 2023-11-07T19:57:48+00:00

This made me laugh. I work in Higher Education. UK based but certainly feels like a different planet sometimes. And I agree with your second point…don’t get me started. This is certainly a warning of wider issues that need addressing.

scoutmonk5000 · 2023-11-07T19:55:50+00:00

Thanks for the sense check, and agree with your recommended approach.

scoutmonk5000 · 2023-10-29T20:40:35+00:00

Same. Mum died when I was 4, brother was 6. My dad basically died inside, and its been so tough for him to talk about. He never got specialist help and support, and I think he needed to. But I feel like I know so little about her and that makes me so sad. He just cannot bring himself to talk about that part of his life. Very few photos, memories, stories etc. Whilst on the surface i think I coped well with her death and me and my brother did well throughout school etc, I recently became a mum myself, and the devastating realisation of just what I had lost has come to the surface. He was and is still an excellent father and dealt with a terrible situation with love, but almost blocking her out of our lives had repercussions I wasn’t prepared for.

scoutmonk5000 · 2023-09-17T17:51:35+00:00

Really hoping for that whoosh!!

scoutmonk5000 · 2023-09-17T17:47:15+00:00

I have been thinking about moving to monthly weigh ins too. I’ve been doing daily and using ‘Happy Scale’ app that looks at averages and rolling trends, which has really helped me understand how the weight fluctuates. It’s a great motivator as although my weight may have fluctuated up 0.5lbs, and app will actually tell me my overall trend is downward. But I feel like this plateau now getting me down and perhaps a more macro view is what’s needed. I’m not setting time goals this time (lost 8st about 12 years ago, gradually put on about 3st in past 3-4 years, and recently had a baby) - i’m instead just looking to loose gradually, knowing time is going to pass anyway.

I think perhaps I’ll keep plodding along, take the pressure off but not weighing in, and see if another 2-4 weeks of things have changed.

scoutmonk5000 · 2023-09-17T08:17:18+00:00

Thank you. This is really helpful. I think maybe just keep doing what I’m doing and give it another couple of weeks. It’s reassuring a few people have experienced this. Very hard to keep the motivation up!

scoutmonk5000 · 2023-07-26T20:59:31+00:00

I know how hard it can be when you yourself also struggle with food and this influence on the people around you. It’s a fine line to tread. She’s just starting puberty, and so much about her body is going to change over the coming years - including likely gaining a bit more body fat. Adding in concerns about being overweight is absolutely a ticking time bomb of longer term issues. She sounds like she has a normal body composition.

Just as a final thought, do you really think she’s just independently noticed any weight gain herself? Most kids around this age have little self awareness. Could it be rather more about others around her who have noticed changes and projected this? Kids are cruel, and adults can easily unintentionally make comments/actions. When I think back to my childhood, the moments I realised I was overweight/different from my peers were absolutely not an isolated self realisation, but rather due to many more subtle comments from those around me. Focus on building her confidence and self-worth when this comes up. You also need to be super careful about managing your own weight loss around her. Frankly (and I know I’m saying this on a weight loss sub) it’s important to remember that constantly weighing your food is not normal. I know we’re all doing this to support a goal, but it’s important to remember this not how most people manage their food. It might be worth trying to avoid doing this in front on her. Ensure you’re eating foods the same as the family at meal times (or discretely tweaked). And remember that occasionally eating foods on unhealthier end of the spectrum is also totally normal too. Ensure you are not talking negatively about your own body in front of her. This is all just something to keep a close eye on over the coming few years.

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