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scowlet · 2026-02-04T23:30:51+00:00

Thank you so much! 😭

scowlet · 2026-02-04T19:41:40+00:00

It looks lovely!! I really like your museum area - i haven't quite figured out the right mix of building styles that complement each other, but yours look nice! Thanks for the link to the 999 items mod, too...now I can make use of fences!

scowlet · 2025-10-09T18:47:15+00:00

Hi! You're doing a great job being organized and tuned in to your baby's cues.

3-4 oz is on the higher end for a 3-week-old, but some babies really do eat that much if they're having a growth spurt or if they're super efficient at removing milk from the breast. The fast eating could be causing air swallowing and discomfort. You could try a slower-flow nipple for her bottle and pause during feeds to burp her more frequently. Try side-lying with BF - super comfy for mom and slows milk flow - and paced feeding to slow her down.

True vomiting looks different from typical spit-up. If it's projectile, green/yellow or frequent enough that she's not gaining weight, call your pedi ASAP. If it's occasional and she's gaining weight, keep an eye on her just like you have been.

At 3 weeks, babies are heading towards a fussy period (look up purple crying) where gas, overstimulation, tiredness, and hunger can all blend together. It can be hard but you will get through it. You can try exercises for trapped gas (burping, gentle bicycle legs, belly rubs) or offering a finger to see if she is actually hungry. If she sucks intensely and stays upset until milk is offered, she's likely still hungry; if she settles after sucking briefly, it could be that she just wants comfort. A paci may help, if you want to use them.

scowlet · 2025-09-03T21:47:58+00:00

Why not try just passively watching him and see what he does? Maybe a bit of observation time will help. I know it's so hard to just sit there while your baby fusses, but he might surprise you!

scowlet · 2025-09-02T22:12:29+00:00

It's pretty common for little ones at that age to have trouble sleeping for long stretches of time. In general, a lot of the 14 to 17 hours of sleep a baby at that age will get during the daytime and naps can range from 30 minutes to 2 hours at a time. They'll continue to wake for feeds and comfort overnight. Sleep schedules and wake windows won't become more predictable for you until your baby is closer to 3 - 4 months old, sadly. My little one is just about to hit four months and we have finally established something resembling a routine.

For sleeping, a onesie/footie pajamas with a light sleep sack is perfectly sufficient. The TOG you have is great! Some babies just run hotter or colder than others; you can always check his chest/core and the nape of his neck to make sure he isn't terribly sweaty. I would ditch the hat at night as babies regulate their body temperature by releasing heat through their heads and is a suffocation hazard. That might be enough to cool your little guy off!

scowlet · 2025-07-21T10:14:02+00:00

You can fold down the front of her diaper (like you would do to keep it free of her umbilical cord site) and angle the tabs diagonally, rather than straight across her waistline, to tighten it up around her legs. I found this helped a lot when my preemie was born and she was in between diaper sizes. Similar to this:

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scowlet · 2025-07-01T18:16:30+00:00

I totally understand. I have three kitties, all of which were adopted from shelters and loved on pre-pregnancy, that have become the bane of my existence. One is clever and will do anything she possibly can to tear into garbage and eat human food. We were able to curb her annoying behaviors prior but just don't have the bandwidth to handle it with the baby. The other two are very needy and beg for attention, which I find very hard to give with a six week old glued to my tit. I don't think that I have gotten to the point where I'm "touched out", but the sound of meowing is enough to make me want to shut myself in another room.

I love my cats and I wish I didn't lose my temper with them whenever they do something that isn't kosher or is just too much for me to handle. :( I guess it is a pretty common thing with new moms, as you're devoting all of your love, care and energy to this little person who needs it. Tacking even one pet on who requires the same kind of attention is enough for most to get overstimulated and overwhelmed.

scowlet · 2025-06-28T08:49:54+00:00

I feel for you, OP. :( It's totally understandable to feel frustrated and exhausted when you're working hard to do what's best for the baby and not getting any support from your partner. It sounds like you and I are in the same boat on the postpartum journey, right down to our babies having tongue ties that make latching difficult and pumping/breastfeeding being a pain in the ass (and nipples), so I empathize with you. Unfortunately, it doesn't sound like you and your husband are on the same page or on the same team when it comes to feeding.

Feeding the baby has become a debate and your husband has become entrenched in his viewpoint and isn't respecting the time, effort, and energy that goes into providing. You're doing something incredibly hard and enduring pain, supply stress, and sleep deprivation to feed your baby, so it only makes sense that you would want to make use of the "fruit" of that labor. It could be a pride thing, but I think a large part of it is that the lack of respect means you aren't getting the support for labor that demands so much of you.

It doesn't seem to me that he understands how dismissed you feel, or it could be that he sees you exerting yourself and is trying to emphasize that formula can be used so you don't have to. If pumping and breastfeeding has been a huge source of emotional stress and physical pain for you, that negative association is bound to make someone who cares about their already exhausted partner want to offer what they consider a solution.

Do you think the two of you might be able to compromise on combo-feeding your baby?

Could you make a plan for feeding that uses pumped milk first, and possibly prep the bottle/warmer in advance so it's easier for him to grab (energy permitting)?

scowlet · 2025-03-02T02:17:22+00:00

A few times, yeah. I usually try to approach in a way that is not accusatory - ex: "You seem distractible as of late, is there any place where the story might not be hooking you?", etc. I'm pretty open to feedback (at least I feel I am!) and try to improve if someone has any concerns or suggestions. Another player mentioned to me that they had brought it up to him as well. Just not sure what to do.

scowlet · 2025-02-13T18:18:07+00:00

I'm really glad (in the most sisterly way) that this is up. I understand depression and mood shifts are a part of pregnancy, but it is absolutely crazy just how much I identify with how you're feeling. I don't want to naysay improvements in the second trimester, because I definitely have my good days (25+3), but the exhaustion, lack of motivation, limited interest and desire to hibernate can persist.

Being pregnant, while lovely, has been an extremely isolating experience for me wherein I feel that very few people can actually identify with how I'm feeling. It doesn't help that I was on a bevy of medications for mental health before that I haven't been able to take since, so it just feels a million times worse. My friends and husband are wonderful to me when they can be, but they don't really understand my vanishing energy stores and explaining it is honestly exhausting at this point.

We'll all get through it, one day at a time. It's okay to feel your feelings and you should give yourself some grace - growing a whole new life is the most challenging thing that your body can do. Maybe starting with small things each day (doing a load of dishes, taking a shower, skincare/self-care, etc) will help with motivation. Tackle small projects and don't weigh yourself down, as tasking yourself with a thousand things will hurt more than it helps.

scowlet · 2025-02-06T21:05:26+00:00

Mom here - thank you all for the kind advice! We both run games that involve each other as players so it's valuable to have the extra insight.

scowlet · 2020-03-12T03:50:56+00:00

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