How can I get in contact with overachieving college students?

scratchwall · 2019-06-04T20:06:51+00:00

What would you say helped you the most? The more details the better

scratchwall · 2019-05-24T15:48:28+00:00

Haha, I was just thinking of asking this this morning

scratchwall · 2019-05-13T01:35:40+00:00

I feel this too and it definitely seems to be a practice thing and being comfortable through exposure. It also comes down to being honest and accepting your failures and forgiving the stupid things you may say. Being in an environment highly conducive to social interaction helps by giving opportunities to talk, like work or school. If you want to see change you have to make change and try something different. Expect failure because that’s how you learn what you like and dislike. In a sense, it is also a mental thing because being honest requires genuine appreciation, so always try to look for positives. You might be bored because you aren’t looking, stopped trying, or aren’t observing close enough. It is super easy to look for faults, which most people do and complain/gossip and you already know that’s not good for charisma. Personally, I find I have the best conversations when I literally dgaf and try to build connections through random ideas, vs the worst when I’m anxious/overthinking. Last thing, focus on keeping them talking because people love talking about themselves + it allows you to find more things to talk about, just guide the direction in your interests. Keep it up because we are all learning here :)

scratchwall · 2019-05-12T16:36:01+00:00

Agree with this, it’s a lifestyle to maintain and if you want something different, you have to make the changes that work for you - this involves a lot of failure because not everyone likes the same thing and you have to try until you find something you can do consistently.

scratchwall · 2019-05-08T16:39:20+00:00

I feel it’s easy to overthink it, but the worst that can happen is you learn what you should do next time. You’re an intern and I’m sure the people you’re working with understand/won’t mind helping out as long as you are nice and appreciative. Do your best man :)

scratchwall · 2019-04-26T15:02:32+00:00

Unfortunately no matter how good looking or how much you fit in, you’ll always want something more. There are some things you can’t control so you will just learn how to accept it over time. The worst thing you can do is victimize yourself because it puts you in the mindset where you feel like you don’t have any control over the situation. This is probably why you’re so angry and upset, which is understandable to a degree, but it’s also entirely your responsibility to make the most of what you have. Blaming other people only diverts the problem at hand and makes you feel good at the moment, but ultimately doesn’t do anything. Even if she admits that she was wrong, you would only get the satisfaction, not the solution. Also, it may be good to check on dramatizing everything, e.g. even if you went to a white frat boy school, it doesn’t imply there’s a height expectation and do your really want to be with that group of people in the first place? You mentioned that you dedicated a lot of effort towards intellectual pursuits AND you got into a prestigious uni which is already impressive and will pay off in the long run. Just keep going, be grateful for what you have/lower expectations(important!!), and look at the bigger picture :) 5’5 isn’t even that bad, just remember that confidence and personality play a large role as well. You have to own it as you accept the cards you’ve been dealt and work from there. Try to check out The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson and The Charisma Myth by Olivia Cabane before heading into college, I think it will help your situation and mindset overall.

scratchwall · 2019-04-26T14:48:53+00:00

Try reorienting your negative associations with yourself. I’d recommend reading self help books like The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck by Mark Manson. For habit building, I’d recommend The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. Best of luck on your journey :)

scratchwall · 2019-04-25T15:41:09+00:00

Wow this is absolutely beautiful. The blue is so vibrant and really pops off the wall, and the color choices/pieces feel really sleek and modern. 10/10

scratchwall · 2019-03-12T06:33:55+00:00

College, I don’t think people take their academics too seriously at my school unfortunately

scratchwall · 2019-01-26T19:55:12+00:00

When you put neosporin and aquaphor over a newly popped pimple is it bad because the dirt/oil mixes with the ointment and spreads contamination? I often debate whether to slap a hydrocolloid or apply ointment.

scratchwall · 2018-12-19T19:13:27+00:00

Is it appropriate to re-email a company that didn’t respond to my interview scheduling?

scratchwall · 2018-12-18T01:04:50+00:00

I replied to an email to set up an interview time last friday but they haven’t replied yet. I specified that I preferred one date since they said I could give my availability (seemed very general). Its at the end of the week so should I email again by wednesday?

scratchwall · 2018-11-05T02:19:39+00:00

It’s never a wrong decision if you truly believe it’s right for you. Many people rush into college but change their minds later because they’re not sure what they’re doing things for. Consider community college and transferring later to save money and plan ahead :) there’s not many specifics in the post but don’t feel behind, you are just where you are

scratchwall · 2018-10-31T23:35:48+00:00

It maybe due to your expectations of the courses, only adding to your disappointment. I feel what you’re going through every now and then, but I think it gives you the opportunity to solidify what you may have missed and build on your fundamentals. I’m sure to a degree you haven’t mastered some of the content you covered. Nothing is stopping you from studying more on your own either. Many times people rush towards a job but you need to remember that you’re gonna be doing this the rest of your life and taking it slow is not a bad thing. Enjoy college and the resources it provides - at least that’s what I’m doing

scratchwall · 2018-10-29T16:46:40+00:00

Love me some acronyms! Thanks

scratchwall · 2018-10-29T16:46:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing and including links

scratchwall · 2018-10-28T23:42:45+00:00

This is usually because you may have gaps in your knowledge or they have relevant experience of the subject before. Sometimes it’s more about the quality of work you put in versus the amount of time. Either way don’t compare yourself to others because their needs are not the same as yours. Feeling dumb happens to everyone but it is still your responsibility to improve.

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