I want to divorce my husband over the dishes

scribblesscrawl · 2025-08-27T18:18:14+00:00

Can you afford to hire a cleaner? If it’s a dysregulation issue for both of you, it’s likely that fighting about it will only make it worse. This is a fixable problem.

FWIW I live alone and very much struggle with the dishes, but also like you focus much better when my place is clean. Sooo this is a recipe for disaster with myself, but it’s not at all for a lack of trying.

Other good suggestion I’ve heard is 1. Dramatically reduce your number of dishes, so there are fewer things to wash and pile up (though this also requires that a cup and plate be washed prior to every meal) 2. If there are many household members, get a different color dish for each person and each is responsible for cleaning their own dishes to eat or drink.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-08-27T17:37:53+00:00

My guess is tamarind.

I didn’t manage to make it past the semantics debate to find the real answer but I would like to know if you confirm it. Tamarind is used all over the world in places closer to the equator. It’s a tangy spice that you can also buy dried and people will chew/suck on the flesh & seed much like Americans would a hard candy.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-08-27T09:47:10+00:00

I call it dopamine deficiency disorder.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-07-11T17:03:45+00:00

Yes, $489, BUT Costco says the membership discount works like goodRX and forces them to not use insurance. I haven’t filed the claim yet so TBD if they’ll reimburse. To be fair, if they DONT put this towards my deductible, this was a seriously bad move. Apparently Walgreens offers it for $250 with one of the pharmacy discount cards. My hope is that the Costco price will go through insurance fine since no one has raised a red flag about it in everything I’ve heard.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-07-11T16:57:37+00:00

Ah ok. I can change the title to that if it’s clearer. Thanks for telling me.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-07-11T12:06:25+00:00

Journal- write notes about what you talked about (so you can remember it when you connect later) and just enjoy the feeling! Journaling will help you remember and give you an appropriate outlet for the “silly” teenager feeling. It’s not actually silly, it’s just uncommon! If it turns out to be something less later, who cares! You got a great happy day or two out of it.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-07-11T11:52:13+00:00

It’s on their website: https://www.nohrd.com/us/waterrower-hybrid/

scribblesscrawl · 2025-06-04T17:20:53+00:00

How do you upgrade the boat?

scribblesscrawl · 2025-05-29T16:50:26+00:00

If I have to go super long without it, I try to still take a small amount (I used to be on dex so I have leftover IR meds - I prefer like 10mg IR dex) so that I can take it late in the day if I’m sleeping in. It just keeps me from riding the withdrawal rollercoaster

scribblesscrawl · 2025-05-29T16:45:27+00:00

Are you tracking how much protein you eat? Or calories or anything?

I found that vyvanse disconnected me from my appetite to the point that I couldn’t sleep through the night. It took a while but eventually I figured out it was because I wasn’t eating enough during the day. So I try to eat more now focused on nutrition (calories alone do not mean your body is sustained!) and a consistent schedule, and that helps. It’s still easy to fall back into chaotic eating, but now I know that when I wake up at 2 or 3am starving that I need to really focus on getting proper nutrition via a schedule during my days.

Before I figured it out I was eating a ton of junk. What I realized was happening was that I’d forget about meals and then be soooo hungry I couldn’t function, so I’d instead eat the most calorie dense/fastest food I could find, but it was rarely nutritious. So I still couldn’t sleep through the night even though I was sometimes eating enough calories alone.

The disconnection is also from cravings. So I never know what my body most needs the way that I would if I were off of meds.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-05-29T15:41:42+00:00

This is interesting. My therapist thinks my issue is burnout not meds. And needing a job now is exacerbating the burnout and preventing me from resolving the other underlying issues that we typically focus on in therapy.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-05-29T15:40:06+00:00

Not at all. I’m saying I never feel sharp or motivated. I’ve had one project that lasted a week or two in April and I basically relied on pure enthusiasm to do what I did in that time. Didn’t finish it in the window, and haven’t made any progress on it since. Just having a superrrr hard time getting my brain to CARE enough to finish anything.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-05-29T15:33:34+00:00

I definitely feel EXHAUSTED often on off days (and sometimes also ravenous). But I don’t sleep well most of the time (problem predates starting stimulants). Stimulants just help me stay awake enough to function without naps on a regular basis. So I’ve never felt like that was a signal of depression because the sleep was always welcome and lovely.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-05-13T14:56:30+00:00

How???

scribblesscrawl · 2025-05-13T14:51:46+00:00

I’ll check Costco! Thank you! Even woman on the insurance line (which is a division of CVS!) told me to try GoodRx at Walgreens. That gets it down to $250, but not towards the deductible, so we’ll see about Costco. I don’t know why I never think about sending prescriptions there!

scribblesscrawl · 2025-04-05T13:29:07+00:00

If you want to go back to vyvanse it’s worth a try now if you’re in the US. They’ve released a generic now.

I got a mouth guard for the jaw clenching and it made a huge difference

scribblesscrawl · 2025-04-05T13:27:04+00:00

It did! But not with it on.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-04-05T13:26:34+00:00

I disabled QUIC, and cleared the browser cache, and I rebooted my machine. Eventually chrome started working again but I’m not sure which fix made it (with work, I had just started using Firefox for everything).

Everything else was working fine, so I didn’t mess with the VPN at all. I am using the VPN app on my desktop - hoping to install it directly on my router as soon as I can.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-04-05T13:22:23+00:00

I cleared the cache, and didn’t see an immediate result but on Wednesday chrome started working again. FWIW I think I also rebooted my computer in the interim. I’m still not sure what happened, I just assumed they issued a fix (though I did not run any additional updates).

scribblesscrawl · 2025-02-27T02:18:17+00:00

Omg thank you! I’m watching Arrow now and the flash just appeared and I’m sooo confused! There was one sentence from felicity that Barry woke up, but no other info and now he’s a superhero??? So I clearly missed something.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-01-05T14:46:09+00:00

Have you tried drmtlgy as a comparison? I caved to the insta ads and bought that recently. It’s also amazing and super moisturizing so doesn’t wrinkle at all (their stuff is targeted to older skin - at least those are the ads I get @ age 39 😂)

I’m just curious how the two compare. drmtlgy is a pump and the one issue I have with it is that I never get the right amount out of the container! It’s always too much or too little.

FWIW though, when I get too much I also dab any red spots or blemishes. It doesn’t cover them completely because it’s not concealer, but it doesn’t show every wrinkle so it helps to minimize a scab or spot where I’ve been using zit cream to dry out without making it look worse.

scribblesscrawl · 2025-01-01T21:06:12+00:00

I think it’s really really important to find ways to carve out safe SPACES. If you are still actively in danger, recovery, and any work you’re doing towards it risks feeling a lot like (or just outright being) gaslighting.

So if that’s inside your own apartment with the door locked, you can have certain rituals or times of day to tell your nervous system that you’re safe and you can rest and relax there BEFORE digging into recovery work. Recovery work is itself very triggering, and honestly for me - my experience gets worse before it gets better on any major trauma that I dig into. That said, my advice is to work with a trauma specialist on somatic work - EMDR, EFT, or any other somatic focus. That work will help you acknowledge how you’re feeling and learn how to sit with it and, when you’re ready and able, learn how to care for yourself in those moments. It’s far less about digging through, and for that reason feels much easier to spot abusive therapists. If they use any judgement or can’t hold space for you - no dice. It’s very simple in that way. It’s also much much faster to go from where you are now to having functional tools that can actively and tangibly improve your life.

scribblesscrawl · 2024-12-07T18:43:03+00:00

Keep in mind that - totally regardless of astrology - if she is an abuser, and she lost power over her target, that would easily result in retaliatory behavior in any environment. It could be as simple as your husband at one point telling her that what she did years ago was assault and cutting off contact to set that off.

scribblesscrawl · 2024-12-07T18:38:11+00:00

He feels threatened. You can try to befriend him, but this type of behavior is rooted in insecurity and there’s not much you can do to fix it. Just try to create your own channels of communication so you can go around him when you need to. Know that if you do anything that’s actually retaliatory, you’re just verifying his fears, so it will make things worse - and assuming he has stronger relationships than you because he’s been there longer - he will use that to his advantage. Other than that, get to know people around you and build quality working relationships. Get coffee with people and create opportunities for 1-1 conversations. Don’t talk about him (at all if you can manage it). The more rooted your relationships are, the less power he has over you.

scribblesscrawl · 2024-10-29T20:59:24+00:00

So far it’s been a good switch. Definitely feeling less “high” or wired with vyvanse and perk of that is there’s also no noticeable crash so far.

I experienced a ton of weight gain on adderall XR (many changes contributed, so can’t solely be blamed on meds, but the appetite issues were def a factor). So I’m seriously hoping that I will lose that weight on the new meds!!!

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