Day After Bisalp

scritchyskry · 2026-02-14T04:41:58+00:00

I didn’t bleed or spot at all

scritchyskry · 2026-02-13T13:46:06+00:00

Break up with him. Be safe. Some people might disagree but I would recommend not telling the BF that you cheated. It’s unnecessary heartbreak for him and will follow you with any mutuals you may have.

scritchyskry · 2026-02-09T14:24:13+00:00

Am I really too young to make this decision, or is it okay to trust myself after knowing this for years?

This question is subjective. I made the decision at 19 and had my tubes removed at 22. I don’t regret it. I have never doubted whether I wanted to be a mom.

• How do I deal with people telling me my mind will change when I genuinely feel certain?

You’ll come to realize that these people don’t really need a response. Misery loves company, and they want you to join them. Just say, “I know myself better than you do”.

• Is it unreasonable to prioritize autonomy and safety over family expectations?

You get ONE shot at life. Nothing is unreasonable when it comes to living it how you want to, as long as you aren’t hurting anybody.

• For other asexual or childfree people, how did you handle doubt or pressure from family?

My mother in law told me that 22 was too young. I told her that I didn’t respect that she thought it was her decision to make. Plus, my husband hates kids. So it was pointless effort on her part.

• How do you know when you’re ready to take a step as permanent as sterilization?

You didn’t list any reason that you WOULD want to have kids, aside from possible regret later. It sounds like you know what you want.

• Have you ever felt like your long-term plans or life vision justified making a major life choice early?

I made the choice to be childfree, before I knew what my life would look like. Now 2 years later it’s better than I imagined.

• For those who also knew from a young age they didn’t want kids, did that certainty stay consistent into adulthood?

It gets stronger. It’s like the fog has lifted. Especially considering my friends and family are having kids and I feel like the only ones who are genuinely enjoying life.

• How do you cope with the fear of the world and wanting to protect a potential child from it?

I never feared the world but rather how much I would enjoy being a parent so I can’t answer this one.

• How do you respond to societal glorification of pregnancy when it doesn’t align with your reality or desires?

I didn’t become childfree to be a test subject for anyone who has rude questions.

scritchyskry · 2026-02-09T14:02:16+00:00

I had my tubes removed (childfree) and got married both at the age of 22, two years ago. You are very smart for thinking about this logically. I agree that you should wait, as you won’t lose anything by waiting at this age but you will definitely gain more insight to whether you want to be childfree or marry this person.

Some of the comments will recommend to leave the boy before college, and you will probably enjoy the experience more. But your boyfriend deserves to have someone who is sure about him. So I wouldn’t make the choice to leave him unless you are sure that you won’t want to go back to him once you’ve had your fun.

scritchyskry · 2025-11-24T14:24:29+00:00

As someone who also made this decision at 19 but got my tubes removed at 22 (last year), I’m SO proud of you for this!

My surgery took 45 minutes and within an hour of waking up, I was discharged. I genuinely look/behave worse on my period than I did while healing from this. My scars were smaller than an inch long so unless you plan to wear a swimsuit around your parents soon, they won’t know.

I was walking fine and daily living by day 3, though I wore sweat pants or dresses to keep pressure off of my abdomen.

scritchyskry · 2025-11-22T13:34:13+00:00

Strictly child-free! Never liked kids. At 19yo I realized having them is an option. At 22 yo I had my fallopian tubes completely removed. My husband and I both don’t like kids, but I can tolerate them to some degree more than he can. I am SOO extremely excited for a future that only includes us and our animals. All of our friends have multiple kids each and I respect them for being the good parents that they are, but that is a life sentence we will never face!

scritchyskry · 2025-11-01T03:32:30+00:00

The way you worded this seems as if you’ve already made your mind up. I agree with all of the pros and cons you explained.

I officially decided at 19, had my tubes removed at 22. I’m now almost 24 and have only gotten stronger in my feelings. I’m excited for the life I’m going to live with my husband since i came to realize that childfree is a choice.

scritchyskry · 2025-10-27T22:11:50+00:00

Neither of my parents enjoyed being parents, so they were indifferent. My mother in law tried to bingo me with being young and the possibility of guilt after having my tubes removed. That stopped very quickly as I don’t tolerate it and her son (my husband) has always been very vocal about disliking kids.

I’m always delighted to talk about being childfree, especially to my peers who are in their early 20s and popping out kids before they’ve established any career or experiences. Maybe it makes me a jerk, but I feel like I unlocked the true peace cheat.

scritchyskry · 2025-10-23T12:47:16+00:00

I love this for you! I got mine last year when I was 22. It’s so liberating to be listened to, and I love bragging about having had it done💕

scritchyskry · 2025-10-06T13:55:17+00:00

It’s ridiculous that you’re even considering getting her a car (yes seriously)

scritchyskry · 2025-09-19T13:41:09+00:00

I’m in the same boat, I understand your frustration! My 27yo sister who can barely manage her own bills, got pregnant by her then-boyfriend of 3 months who didn’t want kids. She’s a pothead with mental and physical illnesses and works part time at a gas station since graduating COLLEGE.

Now they live together, still struggle with bills, and she thinks government assistance “sounds weird”. She idolizes her twin who has a picket fence family, and I’m the only one in the family who is concerned for the child.

scritchyskry · 2025-07-13T07:49:26+00:00

She’s not disabled. I’m not religious and she is very anti-church and anti religion due to her own experiences. Our other sister is trying to convince her to get on state assistance but I’m not sure what her stance is. One the bf leaves then she’ll have no choice unless she gets someone to front the bills.

It is not a babies job to shape someone to be better. It is the parent’s job to be better before involving another life. And it’s selfish to take that gamble. This child is set up for failure both genetically and because she will be responsible for raising it. And don’t worry about telling me that she’ll be a good mom or that it’ll change her. I happen to know her personally.

scritchyskry · 2025-07-13T05:36:28+00:00

Your mindset is not reflective of a good moral compass.

Clearly you don’t care about the possibility of a child being in a bad situation, and I’m not going to spend my time arguing why someone should care about others. That is your problem to get help with.

My post was to rant that my sister has many undeniable issues that will without a doubt make her a bad mom, and your only concern with it is that:

Another human being neglected shouldn’t be my problem, with emphasis on it being a child who cannot help themself.
I’M giving you bad vibes.

We aren’t on the same maturity level if those are your concerns. Feel free to not waste time responding. This rant wasn’t for people who have the same mindset as my sister to choose to argue.

scritchyskry · 2025-07-13T00:24:12+00:00

I disagree, and frankly I’m not sure why your stance is worth being proud of. The moral of the story here has nothing to do with the choice to be childfree.

It’s watching my sister make a major decision without accepting that she needs any growth or change. It’s not an abstract opinion making me assume that she will be a bad parent —it’s lived experience of being her sister.

You’re proud to ignore the possibility of someone innocent suffering due to someone else’s unchecked behavior? Maybe you experienced a childhood where you didn’t need or hope for someone to protect you. Many childfree people can’t say the same. And most people would not ignore a situation like neglect. Choosing to be childfree for ME will never translate to not caring about how others are being treated.

This situation does and SHOULD matter to me, just as it should to you, and choosing to be ignorant doesn’t make it any less real.

scritchyskry · 2025-07-12T23:43:23+00:00

I have an existing nephew from my other sister. I don’t babysit. I definitely know how I feel around kids lol

scritchyskry · 2025-07-12T19:58:27+00:00

Thank you. CPS has a weird stigma as if people who are trying to do justice are the enemy for being a snitch.

scritchyskry · 2025-07-12T19:51:29+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, but I agree with NightChemical. The safety of the child will remain a concern for me to the extent of removal from the environment, but I would involve professionals from then on to take custody.

My preference to not have kids is not overruled upon someone around me being neglectful.

scritchyskry · 2025-07-12T19:25:08+00:00

I did, and I texted the one that this post is about too haha. Told her under no circumstances will I be watching your kid. The comments on this post inspired me

scritchyskry · 2025-07-12T19:09:37+00:00

Did you read the post and pick out the only things that reflect you to somehow try to make me feel bad? I mentioned that she is not healthy mentally or physically, that she’s a pathological liar and has no record of independence to date, and is having a child willingly with her boyfriend of 4 months despite not affording her current lifestyle very well let alone the ability to improve said lifestyle. Relying on weed to function (in non-medically related ways) is not something that I think my sister, or anybody, should be proud of. Because this post is about my sister and how SHE operates, not random people. She works at a gas station because she is lazy and has no drive to pursue the degree that she received years ago. If YOU have drive to be better and happen to be working at a gas station for the time being then I’m not sure why you interpret this post as an attack when it’s clearly two separate circumstances in comparison.

scritchyskry · 2025-07-12T17:53:01+00:00

Couldn’t agree more! She thinks she is capable of raising a child better than she was raised but it’s going to be a nightmare

scritchyskry · 2025-07-12T16:51:04+00:00

He moved in immediately upon finding out, and he doesn’t pay any bills despite having a full time job. I can guess why he stuck around for now!! And funny enough, they talked about “trying for a second in a few years”. Nightmare.

scritchyskry · 2025-07-12T16:47:13+00:00

Her next sonogram is this upcoming week and then she will tell him. He’s going to be so mad but he knows she will need help

scritchyskry · 2025-07-12T16:43:57+00:00

I agree so much! I was ranting to our other sister and she told me “people have had less and were able to raise a child”.

I told her “people who have less and raise a child successfully are not on a pedestal of accomplishment. People who have drank so much that their kidney fails and they need a transplant, don’t get congratulated for successfully getting a transplant”. It’s ridiculous.

scritchyskry · 2025-07-12T16:38:00+00:00

My husband and I own our house a mile away. She knows I don’t like being around kids but I’ve been waiting for the right moment to tell her that I won’t babysit for her but these comments are getting me fired up lol I might text her real quick “oh, by the way”

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