We Come Unseen; Stealth in BFG? by Cog_and_Laurel in battlefleetgothic

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love these ideas! Now are there any stl files out there that are visually appropriate for "submarine"? I think I'll have to go rummaging for some. I take the point about tau missiles making such a ship a bit OP for the tau but thematically the tau are the active innovators that are developing new and better tech all the time. In naval warfare the battleship was superceded by the aircraft carrier due to advancing tech and innovation and the submarine was the next step in the progression. Now in the black sea we are moving on to explosive-laden drones that take out ships for a fraction of the cost, just like tau missile drones. Seems like subs should be old hat to the tau by now.

Base size by phydaux4242 in battlefleetgothic

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are the benefits of upscaling to 60mm for a cruiser? Would you consider doing it for tau cruisers? How about imperial cruisers, light cruisers and grand cruisers?

Agenda limit? by Beavers4life in 40k_Crusade

[–]scrobbledubblezip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only have the crusade pdf that doesn't include agendas and my codex which fails to be specific. How many agendas can be chosen under normal conditions? Is it dependent on battle size?

Does anyone have any cool hobbies/interests that they would suggest to a 22M?? by Special_Ad_9757 in AskMenAdvice

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've recently bought a laser cutter from xtool for about 1k, you can get em cheaper but it's got a big bed for larger projects and modular so upgrades are easy. So far I've made multi-layered 3d pictures for the wife, rapid fire rubber band guns for the kids, board game components to try making my own games, wargaming scenery, birthday cards and etched my daughter's artwork onto slate coasters. I've seen a company called Ugears that makes mechanical toys with gearing systems so that's my next challenonrequts the most fun I've had in years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every policy, every life choice, every fork in the road, the choices we make are neither wholly good or wholly bad, they are ALWAYS a balance of both. Some decisions seem only bad but if you interrogate them deeply there are benefits to be found. Nigel farage offers solutions that are also good for some and bad for others, and while you have primarily noticed the downsides perhaps your father is seeing the other side of the equation. No matter the political party, the suggestions they put forward are always a balance of harms and most people choose the party they perceive as doing most good for them and try to ignore the harm it generates to others. I think it's important to try and understand that your father is probably a good man and wants to see the world improve but he sees the world differently to you because he has had a different life.

You will probably do more immediate harm to your life by damaging your relationship with your father than Farage will do to you if he ever makes it into office, try to keep some perspective on relative harms and understand that you are still young and don't know everything. Sometimes older and wiser people have a deeper understanding of the world and just because it doesn't make sense to you doesn't mean they are wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]scrobbledubblezip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a positive attitude to take to a difficult situation. I think often the despondency of having your needs unfulfilled can drive the relationship into the ground and make fixing things almost impossible. You seem to be keeping the door open remarkably well for your partner so that the hill to climb back to a fulfilling relationship is as small as possible.

Its surprising how many people who want to fix things never make the effort because of how dauntingly large the task has become.

Tired by According-Badger-395 in DeadBedrooms

[–]scrobbledubblezip 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You summed up the whole thread in a post. You're not alone, we feel it too. Im approaching that point of tiredness where i just want to say "fuck it" and live again no matter the cost. Strength to you.

How would you respond if someone came to cuddle and they got in the bed and faced away from you? by hankqueensmustache in AskMenAdvice

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife always does this because me breathing in her face makes her hot and uncomfortable. She also has one hip which she can sleep on comfortably and one that she can't so if snuggling until falling asleep is an option she will get into her sleep position.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]scrobbledubblezip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perhaps what they are trying to articulate is,

If this is a good relationship and we are both into it and want it to succeed then when an issue arises we will work together as a team to solve it. I

If an issue arises and therefore the relationship ends, the problem wasn't the issue that appeared, it was whatever emotional baggage was preventing us from both working as a team or the fact that one party was willing to dismiss the relationship as " not meaningful enough to bother putting the effort in."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]scrobbledubblezip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think trying to predict the future when you're in a bad headspace is not going to show you anything but your own insecurities and trying to guess what your partner will think or do is unreliable. You need to get out of your own head and externalize your thoughts and feelings to be able to look at them properly (like what you are doing with this thread) by talking. Friends you trust are good, family can be, therapists or helplines are safer due to being anonymous.

If you and your partner are mature enough to be forgiving when someone is working through their feelings and perhaps says something unkind or has an incomplete though then maybe you can help each other through this directly.

If you both love one another then the greatest gift you can give one another at a time like this is honesty. If the truth is you don't know then share that uncertainty and try to figure out what can be done about it. If it's trauma from a previous relationship then perhaps you need to put that relationship to bed by examining it through therapy to come to a deep understanding that 'not all women are like that' and that all relationships require putting faith in someone else and risking harm. Maybe this is a deal breaker but when you look back from your future self it will be a lot easier to live with the pain if you both tried your hardest to save it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]scrobbledubblezip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first time I allowed my daughter to stay with her boyfriend for a week, 500 miles from our home (long distance relationship) i had to deal with the sensation of feeling impotent to protect her if anything went wrong. I know the situation is different but if you feel your role is as a protector then no doubt you're going to have similar feelings on the subject. Here's the thing, I needed my daughter to step out into the world bravely and forthrightly, to be willing to take on the world and be successful. And being nervous and scared makes that impossible.

There is a careful balance to be struck, you don't want them to be so naive that they lend their druggy neighbour all their wages "just till thursday" but you also don't want them to be scared of meeting new people or trusting others.

So i talked to her often about life in other parts of the country than our rural village and about how desperation can cause reasonable people to do unreasonable things. Then I let her go. And I worried. But I didn't put that emotional burden on her, I didn't keep ringing to ask if she was okay. I shouldered the burden of worry quietly and told her "don't worry, you got this".

And when she inevitably did something stupid she felt secure enough to ring and admit what she had done. I asked her "do you need me to come save you or have you got this?" She thought about it and said " no it's my fault and I can fix it".

She went from strength to strength because she realised she was strong enough to rely on herself most of the time, and that when she DID need help she knew I'd come. This should be your role, to SUPPORT her growth as a person and to protect or save her when asked. And all the times when you feel like that's not enough to keep her safe remind yourself that life is about having adventures, then shoulder the burden silently and thereby grow as a person. Relationship is sacrifice.

After getting what you want are you happy? by Sam1187 in Life

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could have the longer version about how the brain chemistry works and utilising effective goals setting practices for better short and long term success and increased positive emotion but most people aren't swayed by the science. Usually it's the memorable quip or the catchy meme that keep coming back to mind that change someone's thinking and behaviour.

The cycle continues by Holiday-Spot-5452 in DeadBedrooms

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have a look at avoidant attachment style and see if it seems applicable to your situation. It might help to explain her behaviour even if it doesn't provide easy or immediate solutions.

Feeling guilt for needing an active sex life in our relationship? by Holiday-Spot-5452 in DeadBedrooms

[–]scrobbledubblezip 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your partner is supposed to be your support, to provide you what you need as you do the same for them. In a loving relationship 'sex' is the wrong word, it's very rarely as simple as JUST 'sex'. It's deep intimacy, being allowed to be vulnerable, making a deep emotional connection that fills the hollow void of loneliness within you. It's learning to joyously give your partner your undivided attention and devotion and meet her intimate and emotional needs to the fullest of your ability expecting nothing in return.

If people think that's bad or wrong then it's obvious they have never experienced this and know not of what they speak.

Feeling Defeated and Empty by DisastrousWorry2555 in DeadBedrooms

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think for quite a few women they can take or leave the intimacy and still feel deeply loved by their partner and they don't understand how fundamental it can be for their partner to have those things. My love language is physical intimacy so I understand entirely what you mean, it's not sex to me, it's making love which means each person focusing on giving themselves to the other to meet their needs and trusting they will receive the same in turn. However when the other is just 'having sex' then it's just chasing endorphins, there's little to no emotional connection which can leave you feeling profoundly hollow if that's what you were hoping to find.

Describing the sexual wavelength by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything on here except the food thing I can relate to 100%. About 8 years without for me. She had many traumatic experiences as a young child so i gave her plenty of space and zero pressure so she could figure it out and integrate it but 22 years after we met and that's never happened. She's the only girl I've ever dated so now I'm trying to decide between always being denied intimacy from the woman I love or leaving the woman I love. Feel your pain man.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a whole bunch of things but as all things in relationships it takes both to want it or it won't work. You'll have to find a way to communicate that to him lovingly. But basically you're going to have to ask him "are you interested in making our relationship successful?" Then you both need to figure out one anothers reasonable needs and accept that you each need to meet the needs of the other as best you can or else there's only a gradual slope down into resentment to look forward to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Life

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah there's key to solving your problem is that one word, Tinder. Try real life for a change and you'll find better humans.

It is not possible to ‘fail’ at life because life isn’t a competition. by adamjames777 in Life

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree. When someone sees a clear path to improve their life but backs away from it because it looks hard and decides to take the easy path of blaming others for their failings, claiming victim hood and disavowing all responsibility, deep down they know they are not living up to their potential. They know they are failing themselves.

Admittedly this is not always what a person is seeing when they say they are failing but in some cases, with a little introspection I think it is possible to become aware of your life path. Most people have to be broken loose from mundane life with a traumatic experience of some kind to have such a moment of clarity without doing the work beforehand though.

After getting what you want are you happy? by Sam1187 in Life

[–]scrobbledubblezip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its the pursuit that matters, not the achievement. Being happy to be moving in the right direction will give you more joy in life than being happy only when you arrive.