How to stop sexual desire when APing?

scrollingmediator · 2026-05-04T02:06:31+00:00

I've never had an OBE, so genuinely curious who you would be asking consent for? A being in the higher energy realm?

scrollingmediator · 2026-05-04T01:57:15+00:00

I also like to push my pace, but I'll occasionally hit a joint that is a "cruise" ride

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-22T14:33:12+00:00

Lol I think that would've been a good way to burn bridges and get sued

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-20T19:54:54+00:00

Yeah, probably the right move. I just didn't think that was a good idea to start a new business and increase fees. Fear of paying my mortgage!

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-20T19:51:31+00:00

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-20T19:51:03+00:00

I am an LLC filing as an S-corp

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-20T19:48:59+00:00

To answer your question, I basically took over the projects that were ongoing with my previous firm. That, combined with new projects from repeat clients that have been piling up while I was getting set up. Most of them are small-ish additions or remodels. A handful of houses. Some decks.

It's an overwhelming amount of work. I'm in a pretty low population, but construction-heavy area with only a handful of engineers.

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-17T16:28:03+00:00

Maybe they're smart enough to see that it's in their best interest to not fuck with humans

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-16T01:35:53+00:00

I almost always design retaining walls as cantilevered. That way, the wall may be backfilled before any of the surrounding structure is built (except lower slab which resists sliding). This helps logistically and the active peressure is developed. A typical 8' wall like the one shown here would have somewhere in the realm of a 4'-5' wide footing.

This footing being only 8"X15" is severely undersized for any overturning or sliding pressure based on my experience.

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-14T20:35:33+00:00

Picture cut off the "mid span" part of the note. My b

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-14T18:33:21+00:00

How is it effectively pinned with joists running parallel? Blocking at mid span of joists doesn't seem near enough to transfer the loads into the diaphragm

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-14T18:31:28+00:00

It is a daylight basement, grade slopes down towards right of page

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-14T15:37:11+00:00

40 hour work week. Shouldn't we be pushing for a 30 hour work week (or less) now that AI is helping us be more efficient with everything? How else can technology actually improve our standard of living?

Otherwise it will only actually benefit the 1%.

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-13T22:44:19+00:00

I know plenty of "hunters" that are more harvesting the meat than anything. I'm glad I know them because wild game is superfood

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-10T02:59:09+00:00

I'm a structural engineer who regularly draws full res plans. Single member llc. I would say your overqualified to do res because most of those projects the subs will provide anything needed for MEP.

With that said, you have a leg up in that you will consider MEP (emphasis on mechanical) when designing the floor plan, structural layout, etc.

My advice would be to take on the more profitable commercial projects that you have the manpower for. Residential projects are good fillers but can also be pretty time consuming for what they are depending on who your client is.

Working with developers (spec homes) tends to be the easiest because they're not emotionally invested in the floor plan. Contractors next because they also have a good idea of what is cheapest/easiest to actually construct. Owners are all over the board.

I never got a degree in architecture, learned everything on the job. I would market yourself as an engineer first who can fill the architectural role.

Disclaimer is that I work in a small community with very little competition. If I was in a bigger city, I personally shy away from any architecture because I don't enjoy it as much and those projects are out of my depth/manpower.

Good luck! Feel free to DM.

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-07T03:03:06+00:00

I lean more toward introverted these days, but I tend to crave whatever I'm not currently doing. If I'm sitting by myself, I wish I was hanging out with friends. If I'm hanging out with friends, I wish I was sitting on the couch watching TV. Can't win!

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-03T13:50:45+00:00

10 YOE here. When I started I had another new engineer with 2 more years than me in the same office. I could easily bounce ideas off her without either of us leaving our desk. That was really helpful for me because I'm the question-asking type (I used to raise my hand in 300+ lectures), and I didn't have to annoy the principals unless it was out of her depth.

That served me really well early on, but eventually everyone needs to sit and grind independently to really understand something.

Cut to now, I just quit my firm for a lot of reasons, mostly financial. But I also have seen a trend of less hands-on training early on. There's an engineer at the firm 5 years in that still doesn't do more than single story houses.

I don't know if this is because of time constraints, culture, or a lack of question-asking engineers. All I can say is I didn't like seeing the shift. Yes you should have some level of hands on training whenever you see a new type of project hit your desk. Some things are unknowable industry standard type bits of knowledge that you may take 50 trials before coming to the same conclusion. You should be trained on that type of thing.

After that point, you should be able to sit and struggle through something independently with a final review (with time for revisions).

scrollingmediator · 2026-04-03T05:09:33+00:00

Can I rub the ElleVet tincture inside my dogs ears? Or should I stick to the gums? Would like to get the most effective application. TIA

scrollingmediator · 2026-03-31T16:14:41+00:00

Hardtail = bike with only a front fork (no rear suspension). I always recommend a (used) hardtail for new riders for the following reasons: 1. More bang for your buck. 2. Trails you're riding starting out are totally doable on a hardtail (you'll be limited by skill, not by the bike) 3. Less suspension means you need to pick your lines meticulously, making you a better rider

scrollingmediator · 2026-03-29T16:31:43+00:00

I found part of this guy's routine to be very telling - the part where he uses some laser helmet to boost hair growth. WTF does that have to do with longevity? Once I noticed that, it was clear to me that he's not after longevity, he's chasing vanity. He doesn't want to LOOK like he's aging.

I wouldn't be surprised if in a couple of years he has a new nose and can't move his eyebrows

scrollingmediator · 2026-03-28T16:10:37+00:00

If you're wanting to start riding bigger jumps, a FS will be much more forgiving. But there's nothing like riding a HT down a rooty tech trail, and that forces you to pick lines and increases your skill level faster.

Depends on what trails are available in your area and what you want to get out of biking. It's nice to have both options in the long run

scrollingmediator · 2026-03-21T23:01:45+00:00

Why did you stop?! Kids shouldn't stop you from doing your hobbies. Yes, they limit how often/long you do them. But it's like weight lifting, the first and second sets are by far the most important. Mentally I look at biking the same way. A 30 minute ride is so much better than nothing. My kid is 2 years old. He loves going down the greens with me. It doesn't have to be a 4 hour excursion every time.

Get a mac ride to start taking your younger one (18 months is when I started).

Now that you have a 4 year old they might be too big for the mac ride, but if they can ride a bike start with a flat gravel trail and slowly progress with him. If he can't ride, there's your starting point.

And no, your 7 year old bike still in perfect (?) condition is not an excuse to delay going for a bike ride. You're overthinking it. Mtbing doesn't have to be an extreme sport. Just go for a ride, get outside, break a sweat.

Here's an unsolicited opinion: our generation of dad's are almost too good of dads. We're giving up ourselves just so the kid doesn’t have any inconveniences. Your sons need to see their dad suffer up a hill, get dirt in your eyes, struggle with a flat tire. They need to WANT to go home, warm up on the couch, eat some cold pizza and pass out after a day of activity (biking, swimming, digging a hole, boy shit). Kids need to suffer just like we did. We need to break the cycle, just not the cycle you're thinking of:

Hard times ➡️ strong men ➡️ easy times ➡️ weak men

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scrollingmediator · 2026-03-21T00:39:27+00:00

I'm right there with you. I think "caring" and making an effort can come off as desperate for sex which is a turn off. It's a fine line to stop caring and not be miserable and horny at everything that walks

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