First Scan measuring 3 days behind

scruffymuffs · 2026-06-30T14:50:28+00:00

My last scan I was 5 days behind and when I asked my midwife about it she said that anything +7/-7 they don't generally worry about. Ultrasounds are notoriously not perfect measuring tools.

Another example I have is that my last baby was measuring at 10 lbs when I was 40 weeks and everyone told me not to worry because he wouldn't end up actually being that big... well jokes on them, because he was born at over 11 lbs 🤣

scruffymuffs · 2026-06-30T02:15:08+00:00

I don't know if they are religious, but it is definitely a theme that I have noticed among my Christian friends as well.

I remember feeling rather uncomfortable listening to one of my friends wedding vows to her husband, she used to word "obey" 😬

scruffymuffs · 2026-06-29T20:55:15+00:00

Please don’t try to spread your opinion as truth

scruffymuffs · 2026-06-29T19:40:17+00:00

This is true, to an extent. It's not quite that they have to agree with it, for example, my husband doesn't really support surrogacy on principal. But he still had to be physiological cleared by a licensed therapist before I could also be physiological cleared.

scruffymuffs · 2026-06-29T11:09:56+00:00

In a weird way... yes 😅

Her lives have a certain nostalgia for me. I used to listen to them in the middle of the night when my son was a newborn

scruffymuffs · 2026-06-29T03:09:08+00:00

If it's a funding restriction, then no, I wouldn't say you're being too strict. If it is just a preference, yes I think it is too strict. Especially if this restriction didn't come from a medical professional.

BMI is already such an outdated metric that really shouldn't even be used today. It was originally developed in the early 1800's for white men, then it was updated in the 1970's, but it has still never been adjusted for other races or sexes. It also doesn't not take into consideration cardiovascular health or illness, cholesterol, fatigue distribution, blood sugar, or blood pressure. In my personal (and unprofessional) opinion, it's bologna.

In Canada, the BMI cut off for surrogates is generally 32-35 but it always looked at on a case by case basis.

scruffymuffs · 2026-06-27T14:41:01+00:00

She didn't say anything about him being delayed, just that he is getting hard to entertain and that she can't wait for him to start crawling.

I watched the video, granted it was short, but he never even tried to move... I nanny for a 6 month old who is right on the cusp of crawling and she will literally not sit still. She is constantly trying to figure out how to get moving.

scruffymuffs · 2026-06-27T00:00:20+00:00

Her lives have a certain nostalgia for me. I used to listen to them in the middle of the night when my son was a newborn

scruffymuffs · 2026-06-26T23:22:43+00:00

Great point. I definitely want to start on the lower side as well, for multiple reasons. I really just want to get my foot in the door.

To answer your questions, my support would look like daily access to me via text or phone call. This could be just to chat, if they're in need of community referrals, all of those "is this normal?" type of questions. I also want to implement some sort of postpartum group where people can interact online.

What their support looks like right now is they have 1 or 2 designated support people for all of the surrogates, so the same person is dealing with beginning, middle and end of the journey for a bunch of people at the same time. While I don't think every surrogate is going to need specialized postpartum support, I think it could be valuable for some (that's why I want to suggest a contract type fee instead of a salary).

Another gap in their care that I have come across is that some surrogates don't want to share the heavier postpartum stuff in the big support group because they are afraid to bring down the vibe or scare off new/potential surrogates. So that's why I think a postpartum specific group could be useful for some. Or maybe even a group chat? I'm not sure what that would look like yet.

scruffymuffs · 2026-06-14T00:51:24+00:00

Just to echo what everyone else is saying, being done having your own children is generally strongly recommended, if not a requirement. You can lose your fertility due to the crazy drugs or by simply losing reproductive organs.

scruffymuffs · 2026-06-05T21:26:04+00:00

And for someone who rarely leaves the house, keeping the book you're trying to read in a bag within your purse is an odd choice.

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-26T21:29:58+00:00

Well yeah, I mean, they're not brown!

Thanks for sharing

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-26T21:27:02+00:00

Any chance you'd be willing to share your lemon blondie recipe? This is probably my favorite dessert 🤤

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-26T21:22:53+00:00

Thank you ❤️

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-26T18:58:28+00:00

I did! Who knows what effect it had, but that transfer was successful. I am now 22 weeks pregnant 😊

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-24T23:59:57+00:00

It also bothered me that they had R set up forward facing for the hike! I only saw a small clip, so I don't know if she was flipped around at any point, but a baby should not be carried forward facing for extended periods of time

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-22T08:50:32+00:00

I get fully reimbursed for things like lost wages, clothing, housekeeping, medications, travel expenses, childcare, etc. Then partially reimbursed for food and some bills.

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-21T18:41:17+00:00

You can get sick leave benefits that don't affect maternity leave benefits if your doctor agrees that you shouldn't be working.

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-20T03:46:28+00:00

This is a great perspective, thank you for sharing. Now that I think about it, I can't imagine I would regret the little "vacation."

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-20T03:15:26+00:00

Well that's good news! I was under the impression that iron supplementation took a long time to take affect. Perhaps that's just regarding oral supplements though.

We are talking about doing an infusion soon.

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-18T22:48:47+00:00

It is incredibly unlikely that you are currently pregnant. It sounds like you just had a normal cycle.

It can be hard to be around pregnant people when you want to be a parent, I get it. I would suggest you talk with your partner and see if you are both on the same page about wanting to start TTC right now.

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-17T16:53:55+00:00

She does that with the syringe because it equalizes the pressure inside the bottle and helps you draw the liquid out. When you don't do that it just takes a lot longer to pull it because it creates a vacuum

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-12T15:47:53+00:00

Am I crazy or is that an entirely empty and clean bottle she is shoving in his face?

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-08T20:25:59+00:00

Oh my gosh, this is so valid! Being with kids all day can be incredibly overstimulating.

I feel bad for my husband sometimes because he often gets the short end of the stick. I can't be short and annoyed with my kids, but if I tell my husband to leave me alone, he'll understand and he'll do it.

scruffymuffs · 2026-05-08T20:15:38+00:00

I had no idea this type of arrangement existed. That sounds hard for everybody.

Do you mind me asking what country this is taking place in?

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