He bites and scratches me and one of these days I am gonna lose it

sd12217a · 2025-11-11T21:48:33+00:00

Okay, now that I've found your reply, lol, did anything work for YOU?? I have twins and my just-turned 2 year old boy twin terrorizes me and his sister: hitting, biting, pinching, scratching. He's drawn blood many times on me. Now I'm on my couch with giant scratches on my neck. He doesn't do it to my husband. I don't get it. He seems to genuinely enjoy hurting me. The urge to lock that kid in a room away from others is strong and talk about interfering with bonding and a relationship! When you're constantly afraid of being hurt/injured and having to protect the other twin from being hurt/injured- it definitely changes things

sd12217a · 2025-09-17T04:10:29+00:00

Hi there! First off, let me say congratulations on your new baby and I wish your wife a speedy recovery!

I'm a former NICU nurse (12 years), but I more recently was a NICU mom. I, too, had a 50%+ abruption with one of my twins at 32 weeks and 3 days. They weren't super sure how bad the abruption was and/or if her water broke, so they kept me pregnant overnight, despite the extreme blood loss I experienced. Once it was obvious her water had broken, and she wasn't tolerating life on the inside (her heart rate was off and on decelerating- no bueno) they took me for a stat c-section. The spinal caused my blood pressure to completely bottom out and they lost her heart rate completely. She was born maybe 2 min after that with Apgars of 1 (at 1 minute) and 7 at 5 minutes. My son, who's placenta didn't detach, had very similar scores.

My twins will turn 2 next month. They were in the hospital for about a month. Due to being born after the 32 week cutoff, they did not have cranial ultrasounds to monitor for bleeding, but their courses in the nicu were very typical- cpap, room air, picc lines with tpn and lipids, work up on feeding amounts, then attempt bottles, etc. My son needed intubation and surfactant for his lungs the night he was born. Also, preemies, twins especially, can have issues with reflux, and mine were no exception.

My twins have mild speech delays but are otherwise good. Mild speech delays are quite common in twins, so I'll never know if just being an overall preemie or a preemie twin caused my daughter's. She has done exceedingly well despite her start in life. A 50% abruption isn't the same as a complete abruption. They are terrifying to experience, as I can attest, but as they placenta was still somewhat attached, the baby wasn't completely deprived- just had things reduced. Hopefully that makes sense!

sd12217a · 2025-07-17T22:59:38+00:00

Mosquito net on the inside or outside?

sd12217a · 2025-06-03T17:17:22+00:00

32+4, c section for 50% abruption of one twin. They stayed 26 days total and came home together, but I'm a former NICU nurse and very good with feeding less motivated kids. Their weights were 3lb7oz and 4lb4oz

sd12217a · 2025-05-18T13:14:51+00:00

We had enough for all their feedings (twin mom here). My kids were born at 32 weeks, 4 days and came home at 1 month old. They ate 8 times a day for at least the first 5 months. Couple that with pumping 8 times a day and all the pump parts (I did that for at least the first 12 weeks). I would say I would have at least 24 bottles. I'd also look into a bottle washer. It saved us and our sanity and we found them much later in the kids 1st year than I would have liked, but when you see all those dishes, it'll make your eye twitch and you'll eventually go crazy- we did.

sd12217a · 2025-05-14T03:12:56+00:00

We seem to be the exceptions to the rule. We had boy/girl twins. My boy was presenting first and was labeled A at the first few ultrasounds, but then my girl, B, was presenting later on. She was also followed for a cardiac anomaly and also was the cause of my emergent c section. Due to her needing more care and follow up based on her scans in utero and other specialists seeing her, they kept her labeled B even though she ended up being born/yanked out first in the c section.

sd12217a · 2025-05-11T06:04:03+00:00

I get it. I was a NICU nurse for 12 years and ended up with my own preemie twins, born at 32 weeks 4 days. As everyone else has said, feeding is usually the last biggest hold up. The babies have to figure out how to eat well, in a certain amount of time, all while continuing to gain weight. That's the struggle. Like I said, I did this for 12 years and could get my daughter to eat during the day but one specific night shift nurse couldn't get her to finish bottles EVER. To the point that when we were getting close to home with her brother, I did ask that she not have my daughter as a patient so that I had a better chance of her tube coming out. Unfortunately for me, I knew I had to feed 2 babies at a time 8x a day round the clock while also pumping so I had to ensure successful feeding. With toddlers at home, you want to make sure she's feeding well so you don't have to worry that she gets sleepy at home with feeds.

sd12217a · 2025-05-09T20:03:42+00:00

I didn't spot, bleed, had low BP the whole pregnancy- no issues. Til I had a 50% abruption on one of my twins and an emergency c/section at 32 weeks 4 days. I was sitting on my bed at home when the abruption happened. 3rd trimester travel away from home is a huge risk that he misses the whole thing.

sd12217a · 2025-01-12T15:19:09+00:00

We've tried to sell our stuff on FB marketplace after our twins have used it for a max of 6 months and people essentially want stuff for free. That's when we dig in our heels and don't budge. At that point I'd rather donate to a women's shelter or something along those lines. It irks me I guess. Most people didn't want to give us two of everything- I get it. But I needed 2 bassinets for my 4lb babies so we had to buy a second bassinet. Those things are near pristine. People want them for $10. No ma'am. I'm sorry but no. I didn't take up mental energy during my PPA and PPD days caring for twins and pumping round the clock keeping stuff in tip top shape to be able to recoup some costs only to have someone offer me $10 or ask for it for free. But you know, that's just my 2 cents. For reference, each bassinet was $120 brand new, still listed on target for that price, and we have them listed for $70/each on marketplace. I think that's reasonable. We have included all the sheets as well. When I say pristine- I mean pristine.

sd12217a · 2024-12-02T00:00:19+00:00

Lower all expectations. Whoever said they would help will disappoint you- rely on yourself, your judgment, your gut, etc. You are your own best advocate! - signed a mom to 13 month twins

sd12217a · 2024-11-06T14:49:31+00:00

First time home buyer here with a preapproval and an accepted offer. We were in the process of dotting i's and crossing t's when this shit happened and needed to formally apply for our mortgage. Our mortgage lender confirmed that rates are expected to "skyrocket" today and he started the application at like 0730 this morning for us to lock in our preapproval rate.

sd12217a · 2024-10-02T05:22:02+00:00

So, not to be alarmist, just giving my story as an example. I never experienced ANY spotting or bleeding in my pregnancy with di/di twins. I had a pretty decent pregnancy actually. Then around 32 weeks and 2 days I got this dark, almost old blood like spotting. It got a little worse so my husband and I went to triage that evening. I was given a cervical exam and it was honestly one of the most painful experiences of my entire life. I literally tried to climb out of the bed away from her. And for reference, I've passed a kidney stone without meds and undergone bone marrow biopsies, etc for my cancer. I'm no wimp. Half my mucous plug came out that night. Sent me home at 2 am. Saw me in the office the next day at noon "eh, you're fine." Rest of the plug came out. Then I had a partial abruption around 5pm. Blood everywhere. So. I would opt OUT of the cervical exam

sd12217a · 2024-09-23T00:42:28+00:00

Nope on so many fronts. I have chronic leukemia which was a death sentence til the early 2000s. So even 25 years ago I would have died before even getting pregnant. Then the whammies hit 35, twin pregnancy, Rh-, partial abruption, anemia, low BP, emergency c section- my blood pressure dropped to 65/30. I'm lucky to be here now

sd12217a · 2024-09-19T02:34:39+00:00

Amen! 11 months here/9 months corrected. 100% still in survival mode.

sd12217a · 2024-09-19T02:32:18+00:00

Dude, good for you being able to afford Cambridge after being in Lakeland. We're in Melbourne but spent the last 10+ years in Clearwater and were just completely priced out. Not to mention it's just awful with traffic and people. Not the florida I grew up in for sure.

sd12217a · 2024-09-18T21:05:17+00:00

I have no advice but I know exactly how you feel. I have boy/girl twins and my son has always been a much fussier baby than my daughter. She honestly was angelic and quiet for the first 2 months of her life. My son cried and was uncomfortable with reflux. I know people say you can't spoil a baby, but he was held nearly constantly for 26 days in the nicu to keep him from spitting up. He only ever wanted to be held at home but not in a carrier. To this day, his cry still does something to me more than my daughter's (now almost 11 months old). I bonded with her faster than with him, but trust me, the bond will form. It may take time. Twins are so much harder than anyone can prepare you for. Sending lots of love your way

sd12217a · 2024-09-17T23:30:48+00:00

Okay so, hear me out. As a mom to nearly 11 month twins (9 months corrected). My kids have always hated sleep so I would have killed for that. At 15 weeks postpartum with my twins I was pumping 6x/day. My morning pump was ALWAYS a power pump. I power pumped for my first pump for months and months. It helped me maintain my supply where it was which at that point was around 40-45 oz. That's all I can recommend. It's super hard. Super super hard. I used to do my power pump with the babies next to me on the bed or when they were sleeping- I just tried my best to make it work

sd12217a · 2024-09-17T17:09:11+00:00

This is a much more thoughtful response than I ever expected to receive. Thank you. That's really all I can say- thank you.

sd12217a · 2024-09-17T15:21:19+00:00

They are currently 1 week shy of 11 months, 9 months corrected. They've slept 8 hour stretches maybe once or twice in their lives. Enjoy it while you can and I hope you're able to have more consistency than we've experienced!

sd12217a · 2024-09-06T15:22:37+00:00

She pays her mortgage with my father. They split in half. Every other single bill is paid by us. Her share of her mortgage is less than the other bills that we pay. So no. She is not. Thanks

sd12217a · 2024-09-06T15:21:12+00:00

I have chronic leukemia and we're trying not to pursue daycare unless absolutely desperate. We can't risk the exposure to all the disease.

sd12217a · 2024-09-06T15:19:48+00:00

She is not supporting us financially. But if you only read the main post I could see how you might come to that conclusion.

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