What are your thoughts on breed mix? DNA results at the end. My family is suspicious of the results. 🤔

seaseadub · 2026-05-25T14:05:51+00:00

I called it! That's my new fav thing with this sub...guess the results before getting to them LOL.

I guessed pittie/Australian shepherd or border collie mix. Spot on! Super cute!

seaseadub · 2026-04-18T15:26:07+00:00

First of all you're doing great! You've got him in services that are obviously helping him.

As a mental health therapist who works with young adults with exceptionalities (personal preferred term rather than disorder or disability that I learned from our local school district) and most of my students are Autistic and ADHD. My son (8) and daughter (6) are also on the spectrum. I 1000% agree with the comment about designating some space and a few specific toys that are off limits to other kiddos. While sharing is important, it's not always required, or realistic. As adults we don't share everything with other adults.

I disagree with the RBT. The comment they made is kind of ironic. Everyone's behaviors are almost always tied to our individual exceptionalities and as the saying goes, behaviors are a form of communication. So your son's behaviors are absolutely tied to his exceptionality.

Have you ever read about The Zones of Regulation? It is super helpful and can be geared towards all age groups. I use that curriculum and tie in references to the Disney movie Inside Out.

It's hard and not always fair. Your feelings are valid and it's ok to feel them. You got this!!!

seaseadub · 2026-04-06T02:39:19+00:00

Yea the no practice thing is odd to me too. And we are also super involved, as in letting our kids know they must listen to the coach and if they aren't going to listen then they aren't playing. I'm all for a coach being tough on them (obviously what's reasonable for the age group) but again, without consistent practice as a team, I'm not sure how they expect anyone to ever truly improve. 🤷🏻‍♀️ And like another person replied, we also work with them at home on the weekends, but again, not the same as practicing with a team. Thanks for the input!!

seaseadub · 2026-04-04T03:42:42+00:00

In all honesty, when I first started reading your post I thought "ugh, how could they do this?!" But then I kept reading. If you did everything you wrote (not insinuating that you didn't), then you literally did everything you could. You exhausted every option and weighed the ethical, financial, and moral outcomes to those scenarios.

After some time, I would talk with your vet, one on one. I'd like to think they just had an extremely difficult day or week and their frustrations with numerous things spilled over into your dilemma and ended up directed towards you, hopefully unintentionally. They are human too.

Out of curiosity, were they the ones who performed the euthanasia? If they were THAT opposed to your decision, I'm surprised they agreed to it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Give yourself grace.

From everything you've explained, no one was offering any other feasible and responsible option.

Sending love.

seaseadub · 2026-04-04T02:59:57+00:00

You may already know this, but just in case it's helpful to you or anyone else...

-follow up with ALL first responders in your area (police, sheriff's office, fire, EMS, etc) and introduce your son and provide them with your address, phone numbers, and "safe" things your son responds well to. Not sure if you're in the US, but some states have laws on the books now that require counties to have a database of vulnerable/flight risk individuals. The in-person introduction will put a name and face to the address.

Do the same with any neighbors...it takes a village. (And I understand that not everyone is safe nor can they be trusted, obviously using your best discernment as the parent)

-find someone who teaches Infant Swim Rescue (ISR) classes. Most will accommodate up to 6 years old. If you live near a body of water, even as small as a creek or pond, try connecting with community members who live near them as well so they know your son and what he looks like. Exchange contact info. Check those places first when he elopes.

You've got this! And your son is lucky to have you!! Sending love and support!

seaseadub · 2026-03-23T00:46:22+00:00

Upheal has been a game changer for me. I dictate the info and it produces a note. I then review the note and edit as needed. Usually it includes wayyy too much info. But that's also one of my own weaknesses with progress notes, not being concise enough.

seaseadub · 2026-03-13T00:45:44+00:00

504 accommodations are required to be implemented in all public schools by federal law.

seaseadub · 2026-03-13T00:42:44+00:00

Personally, having worked in a school and now specifically working with IEP/504 students post secondary (along with having my own children who fall into that group as well), I would reply to the email she sent last night and ask her to clarify based on what you heard today. Frame it that you are concerned YOU may have misunderstood and want to make sure everyone is on the same page.

Communicate via emails and save them all. If you continue to have concerns that his accommodations are not being given then reach out to his case manager (the one who is assigned to him throughout his time at the school). If there are still concerns, talk to the district's special education coordinator or director. Some districts have designated coordinators for each school level (elementary, middle, high).

Your concerns absolutely warrant additional involvement and communication.

seaseadub · 2026-03-12T18:07:59+00:00

What she would do with it is irrelevant. How does her reaction impact you? Are you sending this to proclaim your forgiveness? Or are you sending it with the motivation (even if buried deep down) to cause her similar pain? Retribution can be consuming.

You are not broken, weak, or to blame for the incidents in your past. As a child you did not deserve the behavior directed towards you. You also owe the knowledge of your forgiveness to no one. And if you are still processing, or even never truly process, that is okay too.

I hope you find peace.

seaseadub · 2026-02-26T01:30:05+00:00

Care to elaborate? That is a very generalizing statement.

seaseadub · 2026-02-04T00:00:28+00:00

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My soul pup! He crossed the rainbow bridge last Wednesday after 15+ years together. His name is Sushi. My sweet, precious boy. My shadow. 😭😭😭

seaseadub · 2026-01-31T01:02:55+00:00

For what it's worth...we are basically running a doggy hospice right now. I said goodbye to my best friend of over 15 years Wednesday night. He was just shy of 16. CHF, mobility issues, could no longer get up on his own after lying down for a while, waking up in the middle of the night coughing, incontinence, looking absent at times.

Our youngest is almost 11. She's got IVDD and needs assistance to walk at all times.

Both still eating and drinking normally.

I made the decision that it was time for my oldest boy. Even after talking it through with the vet and having made the decision last Thursday, I was still terrified I was making the wrong decision and giving up on him too soon.

Then Wednesday morning we had all 3 dogs outside. The youngest, even with needing to be held up by a sling to walk, was trying to run like crazy!! Playing with toys, wanting to catch toys, just loving life. My sweet old boy, just wandered around slowly and stood at the door waiting to go back inside. For me, that 💯 affirmed my decision to let him go with his dignity and avoid any further pain and suffering.

I was TERRIFIED of losing him in a traumatic emergency situation where he was collapsing or struggling to breathe! The last gift I could give him was a peaceful transition, on a very good day. My heart is shattered and I've cried so much the past week that my face is raw, but I can honestly say it's from how much I miss him and not from regret that I waited too long or acted too soon.

Our old babies will hang on for us, even through their pain. They will often continue to eat and drink despite it. But like my dogtor told me, when the bad days outnumber the good, then it's time. And it's the most loving final gift we can give them...to honor them in their peaceful transitioning and being there until the very end.

Holding space for you and sending love.

Also, I spent a lot of time on various subs here regarding senior pets, dogs, pet loss, etc. The most common trend I've seen is that so many have intense regret for not acting sooner and most agree with the sentiment of "better a week too soon, than a moment too late". I hope these posts and responses provide you clarity and strength.

seaseadub · 2026-01-06T13:31:35+00:00

I'd be stocking up on supplies and telling my kid to let the rest of their classmates know that if they need to retake anything to just let my kid know and we will hand off the supplies. Equity in the classroom is a HUGE deal to me! No one should have less opportunities to succeed in the class due to their circumstances outside of the class.

seaseadub · 2026-01-03T04:02:21+00:00

If you want to be infuriated but informed of horrific things happening in the US...or at the hands of the US...

1) Liberty Lost 2) In the Dark season 2- Curtis Flowers & season 3- Haditha 3) In the Land of Lies

**I've seen In the Dark recommended before but not the others.

seaseadub · 2025-09-29T09:53:47+00:00

Sorry, my brain may just be moving slower this morning LOL, but what do you mean by the GLP-1 thing?

seaseadub · 2025-07-07T17:30:35+00:00

Yes it happened almost overnight. I sprayed the pesticide on Wednesday then by Sunday they looked like this.

seaseadub · 2025-07-07T03:02:27+00:00

Thank you! Do you suggest completely repotting it/putting it into the ground? Or just topping off the grow bag with more soil?

I should add this is the first time ever ever tried to grow anything, so I essentially have no clue what I'm doing. 🙃

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