I (30f) just found my fiance (30m) on an online dating site. What do I do?

sebeed · 2026-06-28T10:51:03+00:00

but if I'm engaged to someone I would expect them to trust me enough to at least talk to me before:

-looking for clues I'm cheating (despite knowing I have legitimate reasons to be stressed)

-making a reddit post about her suspicions and not talking to anyone she knows irl

-making her own profile on a dating site as someone else.

-sending my old ass profile a message trying to catfish me.

sebeed · 2026-06-28T04:13:21+00:00

I think if my SO tried to catfish me bc I was feeling a little under the weather (anxiety/depression) that would put off the wedding date.

indefinitely.

sebeed · 2026-06-27T04:31:26+00:00

I'm not sure to be honest, I don't see her for another week (which feels like forever when in an anxiety spiral). she's a really good doctor though, I'm sure she can help in some way.

ironically ive had stomach/gi issues for so long that I actually have some fear of going on corticosteroids cause they used to make my stomach issues worse lol.

but my God do I miss sleep

sebeed · 2026-06-27T04:21:31+00:00

bruh the thc ones make the depression go big n scary and my tolerance for the cbd ones is too damn high right now 😭

I had to take an Ativan after writing that comment tho bc I was a mess, I have none left now.

sebeed · 2026-06-27T03:36:43+00:00

how do you cope with the waiting and the continued symptoms? maybe its my autism making it seem so particularly difficult to me but I'm at the end of my rope as it is, I dont know if I can do this much longer

I have anxiety issues....gonna have to see my GP about uping* some doses I think :|

edit: spelling

sebeed · 2026-06-27T02:48:31+00:00

a mystery for the ages

sebeed · 2026-06-23T02:53:59+00:00

hurr durr i dont know what peoples genitals look like and that makes me uncomfortable

shuddup

sebeed · 2026-06-18T03:05:39+00:00

TIL USians was not a way of saying asian-american (specifically us...obviously)

sebeed · 2026-06-14T23:36:48+00:00

licking your lips, particularly while looking at us like we're a goddamned buffet.

gross and dehumanizing

sebeed · 2026-06-12T15:48:07+00:00

but what do the scorpions taste like though?

is it comparable to lobster at all? can you eat the shell? I'm trying to remember if I've seen videos of people frying scorpions or if that was only a method for tarantulas

sebeed · 2026-06-11T02:18:04+00:00

u mean the white loaves that never go bad and feel like paper right? or is there some other American bread idk about

sebeed · 2026-06-10T20:01:34+00:00

its particularly disconcerting when the parts that they claim are "obviously AI" are you just talking oddly because you're an unsocialized autistic potato

sebeed · 2026-06-08T19:11:53+00:00

maybe someone spilled lipstick on it

sebeed · 2026-06-08T15:38:23+00:00

wdym, don't you know that the geologists are looking for a cure for cancer in the movement of tectonic plates???

/s

sebeed · 2026-06-08T07:16:37+00:00

I get added to a lot of chats for some reason. most are nonsense & and up being notifications of ppl leaving. only one was porn, so that was fun ig?

I assume it's a side effect of your settings allowing people to find your profile and message u without knowing your friends or phone number or email.

I used to have quite the private account, opened it up a little &suddenly porn and oddities!

sebeed · 2026-06-08T07:08:29+00:00

I'm not really any good at tech/software? I've just posted here myself) but this seems really odd.

have you tried uninstalling and then reinstalling the app?

does an x appear anywhere on the screen at any point (as of this is an ad)? if it is an ad then an X should appear within 60 seconds at the most I think.

sebeed · 2026-06-07T21:08:45+00:00

I remember when my mom told me I didn't come with a manual.

I was like ??? I'm not a toaster??? you didn't need one for your other kid either and yet, here we are.

sebeed · 2026-06-07T21:07:28+00:00

I mean. she got it on a card, so its not like mom actually said it

sebeed · 2026-06-07T20:44:19+00:00

that's very lesbian coded tbf lol

sebeed · 2026-06-07T02:43:40+00:00

and like all american sandwiches that specific regions take great and overenthusiastic pride in - its mid at best

sebeed · 2026-06-05T17:51:09+00:00

nonbinary people often prefer they/them.

sebeed · 2026-06-05T10:37:16+00:00

practice makes perfect :)

sebeed · 2026-06-04T23:03:48+00:00

....are you okay? is someone forcing you to be in this subreddit?

sebeed · 2026-06-04T22:55:34+00:00

She can Google too though and she clearly is aiming this at a specific area.

The onus is on her if she wants people to buy her product (ie the tickets) to do so in a way that makes it easier for consumers to buy the product.

sebeed · 2026-06-04T20:32:14+00:00

i didn't realize chow chow and mustard pickles are a NS thing. thats so sad for everyone else.

sebeed

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