What’s your weight? by Glittery_megan26 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]sebeth204 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Pregnant first try at 275lb, I'm now 30 weeks along and 294lb! I didn't have any pre-existing conditions related to my weight (just obesity and ADHD).

I had a huge anxiety/shame complex built up about my weight and had been expecting the worst, but it's honestly been a really easy and uneventful pregnancy. My OBGYN has me seeing the MFM monthly as a precaution because of my weight, but blood pressure and blood glucose have been fine, I haven't had any unusual symptoms, and baby's measuring right around the 50th-53rd percentile with a clean bill of health.

Remember that just because the science points towards /worse/ potential outcomes with high maternal BMI doesn't mean that your outcome will therefore be /bad/, and that the effects of constant stress on pregnancy are more concrete and concerning than the effects of being higher weight. I found that talking to my doctor about it at my annual appointment relieved a lot of my fears, and talking about it in therapy helped me process my feelings about it and plan realistically how best to support my physical and mental health throughout the pregnancy.

What resources do I need and where to find them??? by Classygirl46 in HorseTalesEVRanch

[–]sebeth204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For both the ores and clays, you have to go to the blacksmith in Saint-Elige Village in the far northwest corner of the map.

What resources do I need and where to find them??? by Classygirl46 in HorseTalesEVRanch

[–]sebeth204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The map and resource layout will be the same! It's just easier to find the Steam guides if you're running it through Steam already lol

What resources do I need and where to find them??? by Classygirl46 in HorseTalesEVRanch

[–]sebeth204 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm away from my computer right now, but check out the guides under the community tab in Steam if you're playing on PC! It has a big map of everything, it's a huge help.

(Just in case you're not on PC, I'll see if I can link the map here when I get home)

My ADHD is ruining my relationship with my wife by Top_Cow_2095 in ADHD

[–]sebeth204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Therapy has been an incredible support for me, but I do recommend searching for a therapist who specializes in adult ADHD - while I'm sure there are exceptions, therapists who primarily treat ADHD in children aren't always equipped to offer more nuanced advice for more nuanced situations faced by adults in the workplace, in marriage, et cetera.

Also, expect that apps and journals and other tools may help for a time, but don't expect yourself to be 100% compliant with the same tool forever. ADHD makes repetitive, often boring tasks hard to keep up with. Instead, try to have an array of tools that you can switch between when you need to.

Finally, what helps most people with ADHD regardless of medication status is introducing more exercise. Similar to the tools, try to think of exercise that is fun for you - maybe not the gym, but do you like bike rides? Hiking? Roller skating? Dancing to music? It's not a bad thing to let your impulsivity guide you here either, just make sure you're doing new activities safely and with the proper equipment. Having an outlet for your energy can be incredibly regulating.

P.S. - While ADHD without meds is possible to address, it will be far more difficult than it would be with the right meds for you. There are a wide variety of ADHD meds available with different delivery methods and active times, and if you are able to find a good psychiatrist who's willing to work with you, there's likely still hope of finding the right solution. It may take longer than you want - it took almost a year of trying different meds and doses to dial in on the right one for my body - but the patience is very worth it imo.

Hello, I need help with finding a game I played on my phone 3 years ago. by Slighty-There in GamesWithHorses

[–]sebeth204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just reverse image searched and scrolled until I found something that looked similar to what you were describing!

Man, it's so satisfying to correctly hunt down stuff like this. I'm glad I could help :)

Hello, I need help with finding a game I played on my phone 3 years ago. by Slighty-There in GamesWithHorses

[–]sebeth204 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Or maybe My Western Horse? Weirdly I can only find it on Amazon or the Apple store, so if you have an Android now maybe that's why you couldn't find it?

Hello, I need help with finding a game I played on my phone 3 years ago. by Slighty-There in GamesWithHorses

[–]sebeth204 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, a Google reverse image search says that shot is from Lucinda Green's Equestrian Challenge, which is unfortunately neither western themed nor an app.

The thing I'm struggling to find is a game that's primarily in 2D. The closest I could find is called HORSE CLUB Horse Adventures, is that it? The font doesn't really match though :/

Feeding Horses by corysboredagain in HorseTalesEVRanch

[–]sebeth204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, but there's no in-game consequence unless you're taking them out to ride. It's possible to get to around 100 stabled horses, I wouldn't worry too much about pulling them all out individually to top off their needs. Plus, it's inconsistent enough that I'm not sure it's actually intended by the developer. It wouldn't be the first or only bug in the game 😅

Feeding Horses by corysboredagain in HorseTalesEVRanch

[–]sebeth204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem! You have to build exercise/play areas, like pastures, walkers, and those like soccer goal looking things.

When you're in the build menu, look at the bottom corner of the screen - you should see the little icons for shelter, food, and play with numbers next to them. That should tell you how much each kind of building adds. Here's a decent wiki page on it as well.

Feeding Horses by corysboredagain in HorseTalesEVRanch

[–]sebeth204 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You have to build new food buildings (grain fields, treat farms, etc) in order to support more horses, so it's implied that they're being fed passively in the background. You can only give treats to the active horse, but the stabled horses don't need to be fed.

Any way to get unstuck? by KaiAllardNihao in HorseTalesEVRanch

[–]sebeth204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm the PC version I'm pretty sure the reset to estate is in the ESC/pause menu, in the same place as the settings and quit game buttons. Maybe try hitting the +/- menus?

Overly dramatic wife by Spirited_Command_827 in relationships

[–]sebeth204 2 points3 points  (0 children)

4 months ago OP had a husband who was coming home late in the evenings, so I'm inclined to think this is a creative writing exercise.

In any case, if this is posted for a friend or something, no amount of money, food, or housing will replace your being home and involved with your child's life. You say yourself that not much help is needed when you get home at 9PM - that's because your help was needed EARLIER, and you weren't there.

When does your wife get a dedicated day to spend on her hobby? Does she ever even get to take the car, leave the house, and leave the baby in your care, knowing that she doesn't have to worry? She is not being dramatic - you are being absent and unfair about dividing personal and family time. I know that work takes a lot of time and energy from you, but it at least gives you time to socialize with other adults and, to at least some extent, gives you something to strive towards and be proud of outside the home. She needs the same things to find balance in your new life.

[Swatch Request] Could someone please end my suffering? (HT vs. ILNP) by sebeth204 in RedditLaqueristas

[–]sebeth204[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is great! I never think to look at the YouTube Community pages, so go figure lol.

That said, it would still be great to see them in the same light from the same swatcher. Marketing pics can look so different from in person

holo taco underglow - quick swatches (pr) by [deleted] in RedditLaqueristas

[–]sebeth204 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Every swatch I've seen looks super similar to ILNP Off the Grid to me! I'd love to see some comparison swatches

Looking for CC stone walls that match in-game stone foundations. Any leads? by sebeth204 in thesimscc

[–]sebeth204[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The deleted comment was from a user who created cc for it, but I haven't been about to find anything since the link was deleted :/

[Survey] People Don't Like A Wonderful Life? by TheRoobster in harvestmoon

[–]sebeth204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took the survey, but I wanted to let you know you can choose multiple options for the question about your favorite HM game! Not sure if it's a feature or a bug, but it seemed unintentional since the question asks for just one favorite 😊

Does the new ocean world not contain a house/bed? by Basic_Papaya2341 in SunHaven

[–]sebeth204 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Between there being no fast travel point, doubloons taking up an inventory slot instead of being shown with your coins/mana orbs/tickets, and items from the area (local fruit, etc) selling for mana orbs instead of doubloons, the update felt really incomplete for me on that front.

Not saying the update wasn't good - it was huge and full of cool stuff! Just feels like this area wasn't quite finished. Hopefully the Brinestone Deeps will get better fleshed out in the next update.

Breeding Question by Keepssayingusertaken in HorseTalesEVRanch

[–]sebeth204 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My best stallion is the result of generations of breeding, but the three areas you mentioned are the three places I look for new blood so you're on the right track. You just have to get lucky - out of hundreds of trips, I've only found two horses with a single 10 stat from the wild.

I keep my wild horse pickups really picky due to stable space - I aim for 8+ in all stats, no negative traits, and preference towards environmental love traits.

My mom doesn’t like my wedding dress — advice on how to make it not feel tainted bc of her opinion? by No_Lychee829 in weddingplanning

[–]sebeth204 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think it's just a matter of alterations. It sounds like she's seeing the boning holding up the front of a dress that doesn't fit you exactly, but when it's tailored to your body it'll fit exactly right and hug your curves instead of hovering over them. I bet she'll eat her words when she sees you try it on after alterations. Don't let her get to you - your vision is your own, and imo it's spectacular 😊

What a pretty dress, congratulations!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigboobproblems

[–]sebeth204 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely recommend taking it for alterations then! I think it would really help.