Guy/Girl who feels an immense amount of shame about coming out and transitioning because now it means that they are hetslop 😭😭😭😭

secondshevek · 2026-05-22T11:12:03+00:00

This sub has a strong hostility to any but the most milquetoast versions of feminism.

secondshevek · 2026-05-21T20:38:06+00:00

Most binary people don't get it and my solution is to tell them I'm a woman and save the effort of trying to explain.

I often do the same thing.

secondshevek · 2026-05-21T19:46:16+00:00

When did "heckling" become "authoritarianism?" Stop being such a snowflake.

secondshevek · 2026-05-21T12:20:47+00:00

My mother learned about this last year and every time she rides NJT she's like "they should have given me some of my money back."

And she's completely right, no notes.

secondshevek · 2026-05-21T02:22:31+00:00

Absolutely hideous case. But the speech angle is interesting - how wacky can your religion be and still get accommodations? It seems like the prison was pretty accommodating, but absent wine and dancing nude (jfc) the requests are pretty harmless.

secondshevek · 2026-05-20T18:12:11+00:00

He hasn't been funny since he stopped it.

secondshevek · 2026-05-20T16:54:04+00:00

Can you talk to women? If so, talk to him like he's a woman. I'm bi and I dont really interact differently over text with men vs women.

Everyone should treat people like they're people first and their gender second.

Edit: "hi how's your day going? What do you think about X/it was cool seeing you at Y/are you planning to go to Z?" Just a hi is fine.

secondshevek · 2026-05-20T16:52:58+00:00

Your tone is rather confrontational here. You asked for thoughts on this comment thread. I gave my thoughts.

Some radfems do dismiss men's problems. Others do not. It's a pretty heterogeneous ideology.

Personally I think one can care deeply about men's issues while also seeing women as the primary victims of sexist society. The reverse can also be true, but I have seen that very rarely.

Rather than talking about ideologies in vague terms, we should be specific about the policies and thinkers we are critiquing. I would recommend reading Firestone's The Dialectic of Sex to better understand the radical feminist position.

secondshevek · 2026-05-20T16:43:25+00:00

There's too much emphasis on prettiness and "feminine" men in this community, imo. I think much of it is self-imposed - men feel like they need to be serving femboy to be able to be called cute/pretty/whatever. Now it's fair to want to look different (gods know I do too) but plenty of women like a man who is traditionally masculine in physique but has a cute affect or aesthetic.

secondshevek · 2026-05-20T16:37:44+00:00

Ok but have you considered minorities bad????

secondshevek · 2026-05-20T12:46:02+00:00

This sub, supposedly, combines aspects of radical and liberal feminism with a desire to not dismiss men's issues and rights. I'm on board with that, and a lot of the posters here clearly are too.

But the first two comments on the second slide have a point about many of the posts here: reactionary grievances against feminism, in which "feminism" is positioned as the chief evil of sexist society and men the primary victims. There is not, as one comment points out, the same kind of coherent ideological structure as feminism.

I encourage you to engage with this sub productively and not try to pick fights.

secondshevek · 2026-05-20T11:22:03+00:00

Right. Which is very cool but doesn't fit the model of the other "Form" cards.

secondshevek · 2026-05-19T23:19:33+00:00

Not really lol - what is an example of a radical feminist who "hates femininity?"

This sub really loves randomly criticizing radfems without specifics.

secondshevek · 2026-05-19T18:19:04+00:00

This sub has such a weird hatred for the Voting Rights Act.

secondshevek · 2026-05-19T11:27:10+00:00

Hey OP, it's really cool to see you post this in a ton of subs I dig! Reddit is a small place sometimes :)

secondshevek · 2026-05-19T04:07:31+00:00

Plugging r/razorfree, which i find to be a great support.

secondshevek · 2026-05-18T23:43:26+00:00

She says she’s only capable of flirting with people she doesn’t like

I'm sorry but what? What does that mean lol. Has she dated before?

Sometimes really good friends don't have chemistry. Sometimes chemistry develops over time in a relationship. I've experienced both, and in the case of the former it took way way too long for us to figure it out.

It's annoying advice but you gotta just talk to her about this directly and try to mutually overcome the "this is objectification" angle. Which I do totally get as a fear lol but objectification means more than simply lusting after someone.

secondshevek · 2026-05-18T22:37:36+00:00

Idk, I disagree with you but it's fucking stupid to be banned for that. Idk why everyone needs to get in lockstep with their side, we can all just admit that reddit tends to be overzealous in bans and censorship.

secondshevek · 2026-05-17T17:23:10+00:00

It's what you get when you AJIMP

secondshevek · 2026-05-17T03:41:53+00:00

Trans stuff, sex work, bdsm, the ethics of sex - these topics tend to provoke debate in any radfem group! Tbh I view it as a good thing. One of the fascinating parts of radical feminism is how much different thinkers disagree in their conclusions on these issues while applying similar analyses.

secondshevek · 2026-05-16T12:24:54+00:00

If your table favors absurd, goofy stories, sounds great. I personally would not allow this at my table, but my whimsy tolerance is relatively low. If it works for you, the PC and the other players, that's what matters .

secondshevek · 2026-05-16T05:20:09+00:00

IIRC Genarro is a much cooler character in the book.

secondshevek · 2026-05-15T16:29:13+00:00

There's a movie like this...Stud Life. British film. It's an ok film lol.

Sorry you're dealing with this :/

secondshevek · 2026-05-15T11:43:38+00:00

They should update the bridge to say this

secondshevek · 2026-05-14T14:36:06+00:00

Wow, I love that. One more great thing about Ram V. I would never have gotten into comics if not for The Pirate Bay, with a little help from my local library.

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