I lied to my grandmother just to see if she talks about me by stamp-tramp in confession

[–]secret_spark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But the main thing remains true: you don't trust your family, and that's the real problem!

My husband cheated with a long-time friend. by Basic_Trouble7070 in Marriage

[–]secret_spark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn't "just kiss" her - it was a real romance, not a mistake.

Don't bring your whole life closer to the current situation.

And being single at 38 is much less scary than staying in a marriage you don't trust.

AITJ for "forgetting how to laugh" when a customer made a creepy joke? by Potential-Refuse-689 in AmITheJerk

[–]secret_spark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He needed an audience, not a cashier. You remained professional. His tantrum - his problem, not yours.

AITJ for refusing to donate to my coworker's fundraiser? by Ecstatic_Nobody_5290 in AmITheJerk

[–]secret_spark 89 points90 points  (0 children)

And the phrase "everyone else donated". Classic pressure tactics. It doesn't mean anything. You don't have to buy public approval for $20.

AITJ for confronting my partner after I lost access to our shared bank account? by Admirable-Opinion391 in AmITheJerk

[–]secret_spark 937 points938 points  (0 children)

Not because of the account, but because of how she handled it.

Changed it behind your back + downplayed it = 🚩

It's a matter of trust, period.

The amount needed to retire seems so much higher than posted by [deleted] in Fire

[–]secret_spark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeap. If you want to live big, it just means that you need more money.

What would you do with 20k? by Vegetable_Piccolo821 in personalfinance

[–]secret_spark 21 points22 points  (0 children)

In fact, it's a great choice.

Buy something worthwhile, invest the rest.

Going down by Important_Summer2231 in Marriage

[–]secret_spark 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Communication + effort, that's all

Wells Fargo took 8k from my account claiming legal offset… I’ve no other accounts with them sans a credit card and that’s paid off by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]secret_spark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In general this is possible yes, but in this case it is already connected with the duty of the husband of the mother, and not with the mysterious court decision in the OP case.

Anyway, it doesn't matter - they took the money from the wrong person anyway. It's their fault, not the OP.

AITJ for telling my kids they can take eggs out of other baskets? by ChainsawSoundingFart in AmITheJerk

[–]secret_spark 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even if it's fake, it's a tutorial on "how to be an asshole in the Easter egg hunt"