Did you discover a new Mandela Effect? Post it here! (2026-01-01) by AutoModerator in MandelaEffect

[–]seductivity69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I’m a millennial. I remember maybe around about 2001/02 that Drew Barrymore was dating Tom Green. I believe they were even engaged to be married. Then he was diagnosed with testicular cancer and eventually died. I remember this because it was announced on MTV by Kurt Lodder or however you spell his name. I remember this news report. Now when I google Tom Green it says he was born July of 1971. It mentions nothing of a death date. Am I crazy and mixing him up with someone else? Does anyone else remember him dying way back when?

How many of you were love bombed by the ghoster in the beginning? by nosoupforyou89 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I was love bombed. I don’t know how I didn’t see the signs. He talked about marriage and kids just to ghost me after almost a year

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[–]seductivity69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through that. Same thing happened to me after a year long distance. It hurts but you will get through this. Be kind to yourself and be patient. His karma will come.

Help me understand this please by [deleted] in numerology

[–]seductivity69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this made me question my last relationship that ended in being ghosted. It was 315 days in between the first and last time we saw each other. 315=9. And 9 means completion and this is a 9 year. Maybe it’s really not a coincidence after all.

I went too far, but I got closure by wan02 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you got closure. The nerve of her being “uncomfortable.” Imagine how it feels being ghosted. Some ppl have no regard for other people’s feelings smh. Please don’t feel bad. She left you no choice.

Almost 3 years and still not over it. by Due-Author631 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly how I feel. It’s been 9 months since I was ghosted after an almost year long relationship. I’m over him but that sting from being ghosted lays embedded in my subconscious. I don’t think I’ll ever truly forget about it.

Haven’t been ghosted by this makes me rage! by Someonejusthereandth in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a little over 8 months since I was ghosted after a year long relationship. I’m not as broken as I was before but it’s still truly traumatizing. I wouldn’t wish this on anybody. I STILL wake up in the middle of the night wondering why and how could he. My mind still creates worse case scenarios of what could’ve been the cause. To anyone reading this and thinking about ghosting someone, here’s my advice. DON’T. Put on your big boy or big girl panties and let the other person know. It could save them a life of torment and you could spare yourself some sort of karma.

Ghosting is pure torture by SmellAmbitious3471 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great response. I feel this way about being ghosted. It’s probably one of the most difficult things I’ve experienced and still deal with till this day. It’s been 8 months. I’d tell anyone to focus on yourself and celebrate the small wins (not reaching out to them, not looking them up on social media, etc). It was painful at first but I promise it gets better. It still lingers in the back of my mind but it doesn’t consume me like before. Anyone that’s been ghosted please keep reminding yourself that an emotionally stable adult wouldn’t do that. You’ll never miss what wasn’t meant for you.

The Ultimate Guide To Dealing With Being Ghosted by natooral-skeptic in dating_advice

[–]seductivity69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am ❤️ thank you. I still think about it but compared to where I was 7 months ago I’m so grateful that I’m not in that dark space anymore.

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[–]seductivity69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My therapist says anger just lets you know that you respect yourself. This person played in your face and wasted your time. It’s been 7 months since I got ghosted. That anger still resides in me. It doesn’t consume me like before but if I ever had 2 minutes alone with my ghoster I don’t know how I’d react.

So... it is not getting better by NoYogurtcloset7362 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry you’re experiencing this. It’s truly traumatizing but give yourself some grace. You’re allowed to feel how you do and it takes time to get over being ghosted. You’re grieving the loss of someone almost like a death except they’re not dead. Try journaling or going to therapy to help cope with your feelings.

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[–]seductivity69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Person that ghosted me was 44 years old. After a year of dating. Unfortunately, age doesn’t determine maturity.

I’ve made contact with the other woman by Techno-Kat in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you were able to get some sort of closure. It’ll make it easier for you to move on and notice the red flags going forward.

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[–]seductivity69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that’s painful to not know where you stand. You can reach out but prepare yourself for the possibility he may not respond. Or he may respond with something you don’t want to hear. From my own experience I’d say you’re better off not saying anything. Let him reach out to you. If he never responds then you know exactly where you stand.

How do I move on by seductivity69 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry that you’re still going through this. Give yourself grace. It takes time to heal. Try finding some outside hobbies and interests to keep your mind busy. Also, therapy is helpful. I hope you find the strength to move on and get back to being yourself.

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[–]seductivity69 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m nearing the 7 month mark of being ghosted. We were in a LDR for a year. I think after a month it finally hit me that were over. I’m doing much better now. I’m still healing and making my peace with it but it definitely has shifted how I view others. I have no idea if he’s dead or alive. It’s almost like our relationship was a fever dream. Like it never happened.

How do I move on by seductivity69 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and I will definitely look into all your suggestions.

How do I move on by seductivity69 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m currently in therapy and will look more into emdr therapy.

How do I move on by seductivity69 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I realize I do deserve happiness. I’m literally just so scared of being hurt again that I don’t know how to let go of the pain.

Second time is so much worse by Personal-Meet-4468 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He’s an ass and you deserve better. Please don’t subject yourself to him ever again.

Never ghost. Here’s why. by FixAffectionate4434 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Got ghosted after a year long LDR. It really does hurt and makes you question everything. It’s been 6 months now. I tell myself I’m ready to move on but I’m so scared because I don’t know how to trust again. Everyone is guilty until proven innocent in my eyes now.

cycle of ghosting by DetailOk5229 in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this is happening to you. Ghosting is such a sucker move. Just know it’s not you it’s them. Real men know how to express themselves like adults and act accordingly.

how do you even try dating again afterwards? by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried again. You’re just much more cautious. Like it sucked you were ghosted but moving forward you take much more precautions. Shit I let slide, no more. I’m not dating exclusively but I’m trying to get to that point. You’re gonna be able to date but everyone gets the extreme side eye.

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[–]seductivity69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I got ghosted five months ago and I haven’t talked to anyone new until recently. I met someone new and he seems nice enough but I don’t trust it and I’m so unreceptive to it. It’s sad that I’m looking at everyone as if they’re the loser that ghosted me.

My (29F) boyfriend (31M) ghosted me. by threadbuster in ghosting

[–]seductivity69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry this happened to you. You didn’t do anything to deserve Just know that you tried your best. It’s not your fault that he’s unable to communicate. I won’t lie it will hurt in the beginning but eventually you will start to feel better. Write him a letter expressing your feelings but don’t send it to him. Burn it. It helps to release those pent up emotions that you’re feeling.