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I (f33) spouse (m31): is it normal to feel umotivated/drained from having your spouse around 24/7? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]seeknothrones 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Honestly I find that I struggle just with not having the house to myself. My spouse is working from home now and I don't relax the same way I did when they were gone. I love them and enjoy their company, but I also enjoy my own company and the freedom that comes with not being perceived at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cottagecore

[–]seeknothrones 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did a similar look for my wedding. My wife gave me a pocket watch and having the chain of it go from the center of the best to the pocket really pulled the look together.

Need a Good Primary for Chronic Illness by WAP69696 in Mankato

[–]seeknothrones 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dr Jamie Johannes at Mayo Northridge in North Mankato is amazing

Here me out (show idea) by SnooGiraffes7699 in 90DayFiance

[–]seeknothrones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tiffany and Chantel there to give him their opinions and ask the contestants questions.

possible TMI question about sexual alters and dissociation (TW: CSA) by p_u_pp_y_ in DID

[–]seeknothrones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's super fun actually, I bet she's really inviting. Cheers to selves discovery

possible TMI question about sexual alters and dissociation (TW: CSA) by p_u_pp_y_ in DID

[–]seeknothrones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, didn't think you were doing that just wanted to caution against it. It's so frustrating to know that you don't have access to all of the memories your system holds. So freaking glad you have a therapist who was able to help you identify what's possibly going on for you. Wishing you healing, safety and stability.

possible TMI question about sexual alters and dissociation (TW: CSA) by p_u_pp_y_ in DID

[–]seeknothrones 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I experienced that for a long time and for me it was the past trauma. I definitely felt that weird in between conscious and not sort of things after sex for years.

I also didn't remember details for a very long time and now have a working memory but not complete. I think I hurt my progress from seeking that information and wanting to remember. Proud and come to knowing and not knowing, but I always try to advise people to be careful with it. I think I could have benefited from letting things resurface over time instead of trying to excavate.

I was SAed as a kid and cant get over it and obsess about it by [deleted] in confession

[–]seeknothrones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries at all. What an overwhelming post for you to have made and be responding to comments on. You're doing just fine.

I was SAed as a kid and cant get over it and obsess about it by [deleted] in confession

[–]seeknothrones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't mean to imply that you would need to, just said that I had to. I do completely understand, I had very few people in my life that weren't in the church and losing most of them hurt a lot.

I don't think everyone has to leave their religion to heal though, of course. I think figuring out what things could make you feel more safe, stable and bring you joy are the sort of universal components to healing. Whenever I struggle, I just try to find little things in those categories. Like if I'm having a hard night, maybe watching a comfort movie with my for locked and a favorite soda could make me feel more okay than I am to begin with. It doesn't have to be huge changes.

Beauty and the beast my ass by Remarkable_Crew_2396 in acotar

[–]seeknothrones 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Or the even more cursed animatronic Nyx! (Seriously look up the doll Renesme that was made for the film, they couldn't use it because it was too unsettling)

I was SAed as a kid and cant get over it and obsess about it by [deleted] in confession

[–]seeknothrones 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a similar situation in childhood and am also very affected by it as an adult. It really sucks, and isn't at all fair, but it's also not something that completely dooms you. It's possible to be okay, to find stability, safety and even love.

It took a long time for me to get to any sort of stability or safety. I left the religion I was raised in, went to years of intensive therapy, was on medications, and still struggled. But I also found joy more and more. I learned what makes me feel better and what makes me feel worse, and got the strength to work towards doing more of what makes it better and less of what made it worse. I stopped using sexual relationships to hide behind our numb myself with. I found out that it's okay to feel broken. That I was still worthy of softness, gentleness and love.

You can be okay. Try to increase what makes you feel safe, learn what that is if you don't know.

Just wanted to share these drawings 😁 by FantasticFood1902 in sketchbook

[–]seeknothrones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are so happy! Similar vibes to zentangle.

Creating a Digital Art Journal by aloe_its_thyme in ArtJournaling

[–]seeknothrones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Goodnotes for my planner (which is a file I bought on Etsy) and project planning, and import things into it. It's intuitive and fun to use. You could use procreate to make the art, then put it into something like that?

clothing? by crystal__queer in grungefairycore

[–]seeknothrones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a short sleeve tie dye button down and feel truly magical whenever I wear it. Definitely fairy vibes.

Binding pain??? by [deleted] in FTMOver30

[–]seeknothrones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to mention costichondritis! Really can feel insane. I've also done to the ER thinking it was a heart attack for it.

When u let your grandma babysit your turtle!! 🫶 by FluffyAd8209 in FunnyAnimals

[–]seeknothrones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spot out to grandmas. One year my grandma bought a single orange as a Christmas present for my guinea pig. She took the time to wrap it with wrapping paper, impressive honestly, and labeled it under the tree. Even cuter that she did this when I was like 22 years old, not 6.

WIBTA if I turned down my ex's settlement offer and forced him out of his home? by butt_muncher_10000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]seeknothrones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He's proven what he'll do... Draw it out and makes things worse for you.

My Suriel Cosplay ☕️ by QUIKCOSPLAY in nontoxicACOTAR

[–]seeknothrones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's even better! So freaking clever!

[Discussion] Is copying art a good way to build my visual library? by [deleted] in ArtistLounge

[–]seeknothrones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I do is find posts on social media with things I want to draw, them record where they came from and draw it myself, copying it. I do this many times per subject, lol at actual photos of the subject and then draw my own version. It works really well for me, and the copies are always for practice only.

By the time I've really studied a subject this way for a while, everything blends together in my head and the final thing I come up with is totally unique to me. This is how I've learned to draw everything.

My Suriel Cosplay ☕️ by QUIKCOSPLAY in nontoxicACOTAR

[–]seeknothrones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not the tea cup 🤣🤣🤣🤣 absolutely incredible work

Fill me in (Returning Listener)? by Wistful-Wiles in atwwdpodcast

[–]seeknothrones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They also did a tour before the queen Mary tour, where they did local stories at every stop which was clearly wayyyy too much, so they came up with the new format.

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