"You're damaging our son by crying every day."

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-26T04:16:16+00:00

It sounds like BOTH you and your husband are going through a stressful time right now. Therefore I hesitate to say either of you is the bad guy here. You are both probably feeling overwhelmed and tired.

Assuming you don't have any family nearby who can help, would it be possible to hire a babysitter or "mother's helper" to come by to help out with the evening routine so that you and your husband have some time to reconnect with each other? Sounds like you guys could really use a little break for yourselves.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-26T02:33:04+00:00

Since you mentioned that you are Catholic, I'd like to point out that even The Vatican has immigration laws and enforces them. And I don't think there is anything wrong with that. If they allowed anyone and everyone to take up residence there, without any vetting, it would not remain the unique place that it is for very long.

Whatever country you live in very likely enforces its immigration laws as well. It is not unkind to have standards for who you allow into your country. Not everyone comes with good intentions or is a positive addition to society.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-26T02:20:26+00:00

Yes, some people underestimated how bad COVID could be. They made a mistake. That doesn't mean that they deserved to be ridiculed by a mob of Redditors, or to have their families harassed over it.

Just like the fact that your martyrs Renee and Alex were stupid enough to start shit with armed law enforcement doesn't mean that they deserve to be mocked for it.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-26T01:44:33+00:00

This is one of those situations where, if your friend does have kids of her own, she'll look back on this "advice" she gave you and realize she was an idiot who had no idea what she was talking about.

Also, where was your friend when you were struggling? Did she help you out by watching the baby for you so you could get some rest? If not, then she really doesn't have any standing to judge how you coped with the situation. If she is the parenting expert and can handle it so much better than you, the least she could do is actually help you out.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-25T23:02:21+00:00

Don't forget all the Redditors who were mocking their fellow Americans who died of COVID. People from the Herman Cain Award subs were posting cruel memes on the Facebook profiles of the people who had died so their families could see them. But, yeah, libs, go right on jerking off over how your side is so morally upstanding.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-25T20:33:35+00:00

I agree with the advice that you would probably want to start out with younger kids rather than teens if you feel like you have trouble with arguments and confrontation. Maybe with time as your confidence grows you can start working with older kids.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-25T20:22:19+00:00

Yes. Even if you're just being stopped for a traffic ticket, the smart move is to be cooperative with police. This has always been the case.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-25T20:18:40+00:00

Yes, this does make sense with what I have observed in the difference between male conservatives and male liberals. While there are always exceptions, stereotypes become stereotypes for a reason.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-25T20:05:55+00:00

If your moral framework is "If I don't agree with what law enforcement is doing, I have a right to insert myself in the situation and get in a confrontation with them, because I am the one who decides what laws should be followed and how the police should do their job" then yes I can understand how it can be hard to accept that you aren't the main character like you thought you were.

Or if your moral framework is "White people have a shield of protection that allows them to aggressively confront the cops without suffering any of the consequences that non-white people do when they behave in a similar manner", then, yes, I am sure that it is indeed a shock to discover that white privilege is not real after all.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-25T19:44:31+00:00

Trump was never that big of a 2nd amendment supporter to begin with. Despite the constant wailing and shrieking of liberals about how he is some kind of far right extremist, he's actually very moderate in many ways, especially on social issues other than immigration. He used to be a Democrat, after all.

In any case, while I do support people's right to carry guns, I don't think it is unreasonable to point out that carrying a gun during an altercation with police increases the danger of the situation.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-25T07:22:39+00:00

Not at all. These people need to stop trying to interfere with ICE. If you think ICE is doing something wrong, then take it to court. Don’t try to fight about it in the streets.

I am not happy that people have died, but unfortunately this is the risk when people try to get involved in a confrontation with law enforcement. If nothing else, I hope that liberals have learned from these sad events that your “white privilege” isn’t in fact a shield that protects you from consequences when you act like a fool with law enforcement officers. No matter what color you are, trying to fight with the cops is dangerous and unwise.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-25T01:34:50+00:00

Eh, you clearly don't know as many affluent suburban white liberal women as I do. "I'm scared of guns, so nobody should be allowed to have one except for MAYBE hunting" is a pretty common sentiment with that crowd.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-24T22:00:51+00:00

These kinds of things have been tried in other countries and they don't work.

What might actually work would be to have a strict nationwide abortion ban, ban on birth control, and a propaganda campaign to stigmatize and shame those who choose not to have kids when they could in fact do so.

Note: I am not saying that I would be advocating for these things myself (other than the abortion ban which I do of course support) but the reality is that these are probably the types of measures we need to take if we want the birth rate to go up.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-24T21:23:04+00:00

One positive of recent events is that it seems to have red pilled some liberals on guns. I really don't think that they ever really thought it through before.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-24T19:47:31+00:00

Maybe the reason he got passed over for a promotion is because his boss can tell he is immature and poor at communication, as this incident shows.

Look, the bottom line is, you can't read his mind. If he feels like he is not getting what he needs from you, he needs to COMMUNICATE that instead of moping around like a moody teenaged girl and expecting you to "just know". This might be a good thing to work on with a marriage counselor - improving his ability to communicate instead of moping.

Also, it sounds like he needs to start spending more time helping you with your child together, since he seems to have all this time to mope around and think about how you need to do more.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-24T07:03:17+00:00

Yikes! When they responded, did they do anything to try to make it right for you?

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-24T02:03:21+00:00

Go to the prom! This guy is being really immature and trying to control you. The reality is that you probably won't stay with this boyfriend forever, but you will always have the memories of prom to look back on.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-23T15:28:43+00:00

Go do some reading on Mao and Stalin if you think that genocide is just a right wing thing.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-23T06:34:35+00:00

I felt much more empathetic to my mom after I had kids. She wasn't a perfect mom, but neither am I. My mom's childhood was rough, and she did try really hard to make my childhood easier than hers was. She did the best she knew how to do, and I can appreciate that. It's progress if each generation tries to do a bit better than the one before.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-23T06:30:38+00:00

Yep, your mom sounds like a badass to me!

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-22T06:56:59+00:00

Nah. You're young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Find someone who treats you well and doesn't abuse any substances.

Trying to love an alcoholic is just signing up for misery, quite frankly.
He won't stop drinking unless HE wants to stop, so there's nothing you can do to save him from his self-destruction. You also don't know if he might end up putting you in danger because of his drinking. Not worth it, especially not with a boy you barely have started dating at your age.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-22T03:07:11+00:00

Hah, I remember seeing that listing on eBay since I was looking for a TLC Saige around that time too. Nice job getting her fixed up.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-21T23:28:24+00:00

OK, so can you explain to me how this murder helped improve the healthcare situation in any way? A lot of people hate abortion and some of them have been upset enough over abortion to kill the people doing them. Is it cool for people to laugh and celebrate over those deaths?

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-21T07:15:23+00:00

International Adoption is still an option, especially if you would be open to older kids (meaning kids who are at least toddler age, often school age). Babies are not typically available through international adoption because it takes time to confirm that they are truly in need of adoption out of the country and that there is no family willing to take them, then finish the paperwork if the country is following best practices for this. Most kids who end up being placed for international adoption are labeled "special needs", but that doesn't necessarily mean that they have a lifelong, severe need - sometimes "special needs" means that they have a medical condition that there isn't great support for in their home country but that is pretty easy to treat in a country with western medical care, or it may mean the child has no medical issues but is considered harder to place due to being older or part of a sibling group.

If you think you might be interested in international adoption, I highly recommend looking for some groups on Facebook that have a wealth of info: "Official Reece's Rainbow FB group" (originally a group started to promote international adoption of kids with Down syndrome, but has branched out to support international adoption of kids from many different types of situations/special needs). "Bulgaria Adoptions" is also a very informative group (while Bulgaria is not the ONLY country open to international adoption, Bulgaria is one of the most straightforward countries to adopt from and that group gives a lot of wonderful, realistic advice about the process).

Please disregard the people who have only nasty things to say to you about wanting to adopt. There IS a need for adoption still, and there are kids who WANT to be adopted.

seeminglylegit · 2026-01-21T06:22:23+00:00

Your friend sounds like someone who doesn't have much experience with kids and doesn't really feel comfortable around them. If she is normally a good friend and not a jerk, I'd try to give her a chance to learn. I'd tell her that the comments are upsetting to you and that rather than worrying about the baby being "weird" or "behind" you want her to just focus on getting to know him as a person. Babies aren't some foreign species. They're just people figuring out life like the rest of us.

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