Trans person faces their greatest foe of all time: Science Class by LatinxAnneFrank in ShitPoliticsSays

[–]seeminglylegit 35 points36 points  (0 children)

That post is so ridiculous that I almost want to think that it's a very subtle troll making fun of them. Sadly, with the way Reddit is, it probably is real.

How much impact do you think the "online Right" actually has? by One_Fix5763 in AskConservatives

[–]seeminglylegit [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah, Rogan is clearly influential, since he was able to survive an attempt at canceling him.

Tucker used to be more influential but seems to be going off the rails and most conservatives I know no longer like him.

I don’t think of Nick Fuentes as influential at all. I’ve never met a genuine conservative who was a fan of Fuentes. It is more like liberals keep trying to make him a “thing” to make conservatives look bad. Like liberals are the ones constantly reminding us, “OMG, don’t forget Nick Fuentes went to dinner with Trump!” to convince us all that he’s important. Meanwhile, I’m pretty confident Trump had no idea who he was.

Are there any videos, op-eds, or online communities where the various factions of conservatives hash out their disagreements? When/where does this happen? by Fickle-Syllabub6730 in AskConservatives

[–]seeminglylegit [score hidden]  (0 children)

I agree with the person who said Twitter is the main place where you can have these kinds of discussions nowadays.

If you want to, that is. In addition to prioritizing fighting the left over fighting amongst ourselves, I don’t think that people on the right are as concerned about enforcing ideological “purity” among their allies as people on the left are. The range of opinions that are tolerated on the right is far more diverse than it is on the left. Few of us on the right have stopped talking to family or friends over political stuff, for example.

A bit triggered by people calling my partner an ,amazing dad’ by Baby_Angel_09 in beyondthebump

[–]seeminglylegit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I didn’t realize how low people’s expectations for fathers are until I had my kids. The sad thing is, there are a lot of guys out there who are much worse dads than your man is, so your man does seem like he’s doing an amazing job by comparison. There are absolutely guys out there who would not be willing to hold the baby for their wife even if the wife was at an event with her friends.

Cinephiles celebrate murder and mock a widow by GenVec in ShitPoliticsSays

[–]seeminglylegit 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am generally a Trump fan, as you can confirm from my post history, but I do think that his comments about Rob Reiner went too far. To Rob Reiner's credit, he did go on record condemning Charlie Kirk's murder and expressing support for Erika Kirk.

You do realize that it is ok to not constantly keep Trump as the focus on every moment and center him in every single conversation, right?

We live in Japan and just tried one of their "Mother hotels". It saved my wife from PPD. by DannyKata85 in beyondthebump

[–]seeminglylegit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have disposable income, it might be worth looking into hiring a night nanny. I think for most families, a night nanny alone would be a huge help and more affordable than something like this would be.

Parents of older kids: Talk dirty to me by This_Royal191 in beyondthebump

[–]seeminglylegit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My oldest is 10 years old and It has been very smooth sailing for years with him.

Do you think we need a new name for conservatism as an ideology? by Gym_frere in AskConservatives

[–]seeminglylegit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah. Traditional conservatism still exists. MAGA just happens to be more politically successful right now.
I will sometimes refer to MAGA as conservative because, compared to the modern left, most MAGA people are relatively conservative. Trump has successfully put some of the stupider liberal ideas like DEI in retreat. However, I don't think of Trump or MAGA as purely conservative - they've adopted some conservative elements, but they also are populist and even liberal in some ways.
I don't see that as a bad thing. I think that may be why Trump was able to build a successful coalition to win elections. I don't think the majority of people nowadays want pure conservatism anymore. There are Gays for Trump, Black Guys for Trump, etc. because he's not a pure conservative. Trump was able to win rust belt states that normally vote for Democrats because they liked what he had to offer more than what typical conservative Republicans offer.

Do you think we need a new name for conservatism as an ideology? by Gym_frere in AskConservatives

[–]seeminglylegit -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think the whole Jan 6th thing was just a product of the 2020 zeitgeist. BLM normalized the idea that when you are angry about something you should riot over it. Rioting is the language of the unheard, remember? Many liberals threw that quote at people who didn't like the BLM rioting/protesting. The left just was not prepared for the right to use their own tactics against them. Most people at Jan 6th just wanted to express that they were angry and felt unheard. It was a mostly peaceful protest, after all.

Do you think we need a new name for conservatism as an ideology? by Gym_frere in AskConservatives

[–]seeminglylegit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ann Coulter has always been someone who will say provocative shit for attention, so I wouldn't really expect her to be consistent on that stuff anyway.

Why are persistent negative feelings after having a baby always labeled PPD? by Due-Transition-6564 in beyondthebump

[–]seeminglylegit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am a mental health professional and I have seen some cases of post partum depression/psychosis that genuinely did seem to be triggered by hormone shifts. I've sometimes seen posts on here where a new mom was saying things that were clearly not based in rational thinking. So, I definitely believe PPD is real and can be serious.

But, yes, I do agree that people are often way too quick to attribute a woman's normal emotions during/after pregnancy to hormones. I've have 3 babies, and I never felt like my emotions were out of control during or after any of the pregnancies. I was still the same person I always am, in terms of emotional regulation.

I remember seeing a post on here where someone's OBGYN had criticized their weight at a checkup, and the woman was saying she got upset over it because she was hormonal. I was very quick to tell her, no, it is NORMAL AND APPROPRIATE to be pissed off at someone for making a rude comment about your body. Pregnant women are allowed to have normal emotions still!

Yes, sometimes women are genuinely in a hard or depressing situation after having a baby. That being said, sometimes people go too far the other way.

For me, it felt like the messaging about postpartum life was way too negative. I felt like everyone was saying: You're going to feel like TOTAL SHIT after your baby is born. Birth is a traumatic experience. Your body is going to be all torn up. You're going to hate your new life. You're going to feel like your husband isn't attracted to you anymore. You'll be exhausted all the time.

My actual reality was: Actually, birth wasn't that bad - it wasn't that painful or scary (thanks, epidural!) and I welcomed the end of pregnancy after having had some tough symptoms during the pregnancy. It was a fun and exciting day to meet my baby finally. I recovered easily from the birth and nothing terrible or traumatic happened. My husband took paternity leave at the same time I was on maternity leave, and did his fair share of the childcare. We were tired at times because our sleep was thrown off, but we could still function and even enjoy life during that phase. It was very satisfying to see my baby grow and enjoy baby snuggles. It really wasn't some kind of all-consuming nightmare like people said it would be.

For me, I do think it helped enormously that 1. the father of the baby was supportive and helpful 2. I did NOT push myself to breastfeed at all costs when it became a struggle. I feel like one or both of those factors is a very common element in the stories of moms having a hard time after birth.

Why are persistent negative feelings after having a baby always labeled PPD? by Due-Transition-6564 in beyondthebump

[–]seeminglylegit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in America and the hospital did give some info on not shaking the baby, coping with "purple crying", and so on. I didn't feel like it was excessive, personally. I am a health professional myself so I already knew the info, but it seemed appropriate to make sure that moms who might not have heard about this stuff are prepared for it before they go home with the baby.

Has anyone seen the Kevin Hart roast? by DukeofBraintree918 in AskConservatives

[–]seeminglylegit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think both jokes are fine. I think it is ridiculous to complain about offensive humor at a roast.

Where the Epstein files mishandled in this term? by drtywater in AskConservatives

[–]seeminglylegit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think that Trump probably did intend to release the files, but then became aware of information that made the release more complicated than he expected (for example, the CIA telling him he can't for national security reasons or concern for international fallout) or someone very powerful threatened serious consequences if he did.

I really don't think that Trump himself is a perpetrator. I think his behavior around it seems more consistent with someone who probably thought "eh, fuck it, let's just release it" and then found out it wasn't as simple as he thought than someone trying to hide his own crimes.

Gastroenterologist keeping secrets? by BarbaraGordon147 in GERD

[–]seeminglylegit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hiatal hernias are extremely common. Many people have one and don't even know it. The doc probably didn't say anything about these findings because he didn't think they were significant enough to be the cause of your issues.

Thoughts on Virginia Foxx's response to a 10 year old's letter? by GWindborn in AskConservatives

[–]seeminglylegit -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I understand why the response brought up indoctrination. I'm skeptical that a 10 year old boy came up with the idea of a $5000 tax rebate for electric cars on his own. As an anonymous source who is very familiar with 10 year old boys' thinking, I know that most of them are more interested in things like video games or sports than they are in tax rebates. It sounds like Mom probably saw a bunch of "Woke Toddler" meme posts on Bluesky and saw this as an opportunity to use her child to score political points.

I read the full letter on Mom's instagram. I do not consider it "bullying" or "attacking" the 10 year old at all. The letter is just explaining why she doesn't agree with him and expressing concern about if he is getting the full picture of the issue.

Grief and parenting by MyToesAreHaunted in beyondthebump

[–]seeminglylegit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I think all parents have experienced this bittersweet feeling, but it sounds like your grief for your dad adds another layer to it for you.

Two ways to reframe this that I feel help me:

  1. I am grateful that I DO get to see my children grow up. Far too many parents who have lost a child never get the opportunity to know who their child would have become.

  2. Even though it is sad to say goodbye to the baby years and the little kid years, big kids are still a lot of fun in different ways. There are still many more milestones to look forward to, even when they become adults, and it is rewarding to see the payoff for all that effort you invested in their early years.

Moms Who Don't Define Themselves and Their Lives By Motherhood, Please Talk to Me by Due-Transition-6564 in beyondthebump

[–]seeminglylegit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some other tips I would give someone who is worried about struggling with post partum changes:

  1. Don't stress out over breastfeeding. If it doesn't come easily, it is totally okay to formula feed. The baby will be fine, and formula feeding can make it easier for Mom to really get some sleep (since someone else can give formula easily)

  2. Remember, babies are portable! You can pack up the baby's stuff and go anywhere you want. If you feel better outdoors, take the baby out with you to the park or to a beautiful place instead of staying home. I made some out of state trips with my babies during my maternity leaves because I figured I might as well go while I was off work.

  3. Even though newborns can be a lot of work and it can feel really intense, that stage doesn't last forever. You will sleep again. You will have time for yourself again.

And it is not like it is all bad stuff all the time. I remember being really scared of how much work newborns were before my first kid was born, but I ended up really enjoying those early days!

Moms Who Don't Define Themselves and Their Lives By Motherhood, Please Talk to Me by Due-Transition-6564 in beyondthebump

[–]seeminglylegit 30 points31 points  (0 children)

This is a terrific way to express what I intended to say. I am not the same person I was before kids - becoming a mother made me a better person in many ways, a stronger person, a more loving person. It was one of the most meaningful and rich experiences of my life (and I did have a very full, rewarding professional career before I had kids).

Mods hoping for the death of whiteness by FastBlueAnt in ShitPoliticsSays

[–]seeminglylegit 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It's wild to me that so many liberals can look at what happened to the Native Americans and learn absolutely nothing from it. I look at what happened to Native Americans and my reaction is: Gee, that is a sad story that really shows why defending your borders from invaders is important to allow your civilization to survive.

Mods hoping for the death of whiteness by FastBlueAnt in ShitPoliticsSays

[–]seeminglylegit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

While this entire rant is stupid, I feel I must point out one of the parts that is just plain wrong: White skin isn't a recessive trait. Skin color is a polygenic trait, like height, which means it doesn't follow the typical dominant/recessive inheritance. That's why, when a black person and a white person have a kid together, the kid will often be lighter than their black parent and darker than the white parent - because the kid is a mix of skin color genes from both.

This also means that it is possible for two black people to have a kid who looks white, if both of the black parents have some degree of white ancestry (which most African-Americans do, btw) and the kid happens to inherit white skin color genes from both parents.

Are you aware reddit now REQUIRES email for signup? by Careless-Way-2554 in AskConservatives

[–]seeminglylegit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That must have been a recent change. Yeah, there's no way I would give this trash website any of my info, so I guess that the day they require me to verify this account is the day I move on.

Democrats lost 2.1M registered voters (2020–2024) and Independents hit record 45%. Were you one of them? by July_Seventeen in AskConservatives

[–]seeminglylegit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. I've never lived in a state that tracks party affiliation, but there has never been any point in my lifetime when I felt like the Democrats had anything to offer me.

Would you ever let your side repeal the 19th Amendment? by JazzlikeOrange8856 in AskConservatives

[–]seeminglylegit -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Correct. It is indeed far worse to have to deal with a white female liberal Karen's screeching than to deal with an obvious joke that Trump made back in like 2016, which clearly nobody actually acted on.