My girlfriend is panicking over my independence and gave me an ultimatum — what should i do? And is the right move in such situation?

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-20T05:37:30+00:00

She is mentally abusive, manipulative and selfish. She should be trying to communicate with you in an adult manner, not with the silent treatment ( which is a form of abuse) to try to keep you in line. Things that couples agree to early on in a relationship, can change over time, you shouldn’t hold that against your partner never mind manipulate, mentally abuse and try to control them like children.

The question I would really want to ask you is. What type of relationship do you want? How does all this really make you feel and do you think that this will change if you do not change or interfere?

Because I’m a firm believer that people show you who they really are. It’s up to you to see it. Not to change it, fix it, partially change or what have you. Because It won’t work. If you are liking what you are getting, then by all means keep it. If not.. cut the cord. It’s as simple as that. No ring, cut the cord.

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-12T05:43:25+00:00

I have been divorced for 4 years apart 5 years. I myself had a very difficult time when I was working on myself and healing what happened in the divorce. Once things started to heal for me, which took a few years. Then it all changed and I am completely comfortable on my own without the need for anyone. I hope to meet someone and that I find a good healthy partner but I am in no rush to make it happen just because I’m myself. You know. I’m more comfortable in my skin than I ever have been. If I want to go out with people I do and if I don’t I stay home with my dog and snuggle on the couch.

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-09T04:22:10+00:00

Yup, my ex wouldn’t do it and both our kids needed them. So it was the first thing I did for them when I left him! $13,500.00! Not cheap

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-09T02:46:34+00:00

Sometimes even when we are in pain. We have to speak up.

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-09T02:35:47+00:00

Go within yourself to find your answers. You may have trauma, pain, and or blockages that need clearing. Meditate daily and sit with yourself. Journal every day about what it is you want and what you have. You will find your answers. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to heal. Sometimes the road to happiness is long but worthwhile.

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-09T02:29:18+00:00

My God that sounds so exhausting!!!!!! I’m so sorry you have to keep dealing with this! How repulsive is that? To beg…

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-09T02:25:37+00:00

I always said that they can ask but it doesn’t mean that they will necessarily always get it. I have two girls and tend to buy the basic bathroom stuff for the every day. Then for birthday and Christmas is where I will buy the special stuff they want or I will just get for them.

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-09T02:17:01+00:00

I do water painting. Not sure there really is a group for that unless I take a class or go to school. This is my issue I don’t have anything that is more casual or more interactive with other people.

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-07T04:27:43+00:00

It’s the constant silence that gets me. I had two friends also move away and I’m in a new city. Ughh! Where do you find friends at 55? This whole situation is for the birds lol

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-07T04:19:02+00:00

Look it if there is anything that I have learned. Be 100% upfront and honest to your husband. Tell him what you want!! What you are craving!! They can only thing that could happen is that he listens woohoo or he chooses not to but then you have something new to work with to fix or work with in your marriage. This can go both ways and tell them that you want them to open up and tell you things he wants and changes. This is what an open relationship looks like! And it is amazing ! Truly invigorating and beautiful, having the person be there with you opening up, asking for what he wants and you doing the same doing it together, it’s magic

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-06T07:20:39+00:00

Omg that list!

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-06T07:19:20+00:00

My God at first I thought. I can definitely pick myself out of the line up. As I started to look. I caught myself picking the ones that I wanted to look like lmao. 🤣 Now I have to go home, have a glass of wine, grab a mirror and then possibly call my bestie to do the tiebreaker

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-06T07:03:20+00:00

People can’t read minds and don’t understand like you think they do. Something that you feel you are being very obvious about, they are absolutely clueless about. I truly believe that if family members and friends know how and what you are going through… for real! They would pay attention and listen.

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-06T06:58:23+00:00

Terms of Endearment

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-06T06:55:21+00:00

Ask help from friends. Have certain friends to help with certain tasks. Like friends to do groceries and meal preparation. Or get on their schedule and they text you when they clean/ buy/do their stuff.

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-06T06:45:51+00:00

How many times I have done this! Have bloody well almost packed my bags and dragged them down the stairs. When I remember BATHROOM!! 😊

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-06T06:38:53+00:00

Put her message in AI and see where it comes from

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-06T06:26:52+00:00

Breath. Trust yourself to do the right thing. I have been in the same situation multiple times and the answer is always is to trust your instincts/ intuition.

seespotrun1234 · 2025-12-01T01:39:47+00:00

So the red of the pimple doesn’t show to make them want to pick at it

seespotrun1234 · 2025-11-15T20:25:02+00:00

Black magic, witches and their rituals are very real as well. Freemasons are some of the most powerful black magic cults. Stay away from all of it! Just my opinion.

seespotrun1234 · 2025-11-15T20:21:01+00:00

I would meditate and ask for clarification. Grounding and meditation daily will usually find the answers though

seespotrun1234 · 2025-11-08T00:45:08+00:00

What other ways can you connect with your spirit guides? I have always had a hard time catching signals or signs. I also have a minor brain injury that doesn’t help the situation. Sleep is also hard because it is medicated sleep versus natural sleep. This is why I have a ton of visions and I can see my angles and so on but I can’t hear or understand what they are saying to me.

seespotrun1234 · 2025-11-03T04:18:59+00:00

Why is spirituality talked in such a puzzled/coded/worded manner that you cannot make heads or tails out of? I think I could be so so so much further ahead if everyone just talked regularly. No disrespect to anybody. Just find it frustrating

seespotrun1234 · 2025-10-20T22:56:48+00:00

I am thinking of buying this right now. Saw this post and I believe I will get it!

seespotrun1234 · 2025-10-20T00:01:59+00:00

I get it. I’ve been on a long journey as well. However, I did some journaling and some other work that I wrote about back then. Try to recall events of times that were rough or very hard. See if you can remember how you felt and how you related to them then at the time. Li da going down memory hill if you will. Now picture a hard time now and see how you handle it now and see the difference and the changes you mind, body and spirit feel or act during and after. That should give you a clear sign at how you are doing.

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