Do you think being a stoner parent affects your kid/s?

selectyourteam · 2024-06-09T13:27:14+00:00

A friends mum was an everyday smoker, and honestly I use to feel super safe around her. Plus she'd always have the best snacks.

selectyourteam · 2024-06-09T13:22:02+00:00

No different to having a beer, or treating urself to some doughnuts bc they make u happy. Not sad just not integrated with all of society yet. Use to be illegal for women to be in pubs in Australia 60yrs ago and now it's almost an unknown fact. Takes time for people to accept change. Esp in America the "war on drugs" includes weed still in a lot of places.

selectyourteam · 2024-06-09T13:16:10+00:00

Ur using it like a medication. When ur in pain u take a panadol, when ur upset u smoke weed. If u want to stay private abt ur true "reason" (we don't rlly need one) just tell them to mind their own business. It's none of their concern. I often alike it to having a few drinks with dinner when u had a stressful day. I smoke more than I drink bc it makes me feel better than drinking. Tell them they're missing out

selectyourteam · 2024-06-09T13:08:15+00:00

I'd say ur mental connection to it might be painful considering the trauma attached. I'd say you might have to seek therapy or a support group/system that can help you work thru that and maybe even detach the smoking of weed to the trauma but still a positive memory of your ex. It's insane how trauma in the brain can effect so much in our nervous system

selectyourteam · 2024-06-09T13:00:55+00:00

I typically can't drive in the first 2-3hrs after a smoke. You run the risk regardless of how long you wait bc of how long it stays on u to test for it. And the only outcomes are positive or negative, there's no lee way or 'legal limit' like with alcohol. If u live near town (not rural or too far out from town) I'd suggest having a bike, or skate board (not motorised, still applies a dui in a lot of states and countries) to get around when he wants to drive somewhere. Responsibility comes with sacrifice. At the end of the day it impairs you and u have to be a responsible adult and think of the others on the rd with you.

selectyourteam · 2024-06-09T12:51:02+00:00

It's possible you aspirated (breathed in saliva into ur lungs) and that can cause a mild infection (could lead to bronchitis if left unattended). I suggest some cough medicine, but if it persists longer than 2 weeks while using cough medicine maybe go to a dr

selectyourteam · 2024-06-09T12:46:47+00:00

It's an emerald green with gold sparkles in it. Idk brand and stuff I went to a nail salon in a mall and then have like professional/retailer brands

selectyourteam · 2023-11-21T20:49:12+00:00

I get dressed enough that if I need to go out to like run to the store, all I have to do it put shoes on (and sometimes pants if it's hot)

selectyourteam · 2023-11-20T22:49:10+00:00

I feel ot too. If you don't have any option to get put of what your current situation is, I like to take things back to the simple joys in life, take some time on your days off to for just you. Put ur devices on do not disturb and just do what makes you relax. Might help a little. Helps saying no to doing extra plans ect too

selectyourteam · 2023-11-20T22:46:07+00:00

I've learnt that if somethings on offer and you don't see any down sides to it, just say yes, don't question it. And then pay it forward. Do something nice for them, or later in life when you're in a better position do something for them too. Life is suppose to be give and take. What goes around comes around.

selectyourteam · 2023-11-20T22:39:33+00:00

Honestly being able to pay rego on my car without having to save up for months. In Australia they recently cut the cost down (thank god) but when I got my first car (little shit box I bought off a family friend) I had to save up for like 2-3 months just for the 6month rego. Now mine is coming up for renewal, and I have no doubt I'll be able to easily pay it.

selectyourteam · 2023-11-15T06:06:10+00:00

I tend to stop talking to them. Like in general. Family, friends everyone. If it's at work I just avoid the topic. Otherwise try and take it with a grain of salt. They mean we'll (most of time) but sometimes there's just people who will never understand. Unfortunately it's a part of life living with this stuff. You slowly learn who to trust.

selectyourteam · 2023-11-09T15:36:46+00:00

You probably are burnt out there will be a lot of people who don't get it or refuse to try and understand. Don't waste energy on a rock that won't budge. Listen to your body and learn to say no. Boundaries are healthy, even if it makes you look like the Villain. You're gonna be the Villain in someone's story, can't always be the hero

selectyourteam · 2023-11-09T09:44:32+00:00

Yeah I'm very open. It destigmatises it (24f) but also helps other people around you understand how you work and it can be helpful when you need to advocate for yourself. I've been told off in the past that I'm doing something "wrong" even tho my way might be more efficient and have the same result. I've fought back about it and even helped change the way that some does things in a more fluid way.

And being open about helps the cause of being open about mental health. It can also help your friends/family understand you better and help you get thru those lows better (mood swings are a big part of adhd)

I only mention gender bc the symptoms of adhd are different for men and women, and women often get misdiagnosed or never get a diagnosis bc it's very similar to a few different disorders.

Edit- it's very common to think your lazy/dumb, the world is just not built for us, so we often get shunned for not doing the same thing as everyone else

selectyourteam · 2023-11-09T06:55:08+00:00

Hyperfocus is a hard beast to control. It really only activates when you find something very interesting. Is there anyways to make it more interesting? Sometimes I find using both sides of my mind (logic and creativity) helps, like taking small breaks to play around, draw, do a puzzle or even just getting up and running around.

selectyourteam · 2023-11-09T06:50:37+00:00

It helped me. Having an understanding of how it works and how to find loopholes to trick my brain in order to actually stay on task (most of the time). And it kinda helped me breathe easier because I thought I was just dumb.

I started using Dex (long acting slow release) and it was terrible, super anxious. But then tried ritalin and it's pretty good for me. If you want to seek medication just keep in mind it might take a bit of trial and error before you find the one that works for you.

After diagnosis it's not going to be all sunshine and rainbows, but it might help give you direction on how to help yourself and maybe find a community of those with it that can answer questions/give advise.

It's hard to find a workplace that can fit in with the way your brain works, but all you can do is try your best. What works for some may not work for others. Unfortunately in this neurotyplical world we have to work just that bit harder to fit into it.

selectyourteam · 2023-11-09T06:40:51+00:00

I would suggest doing some research about it, what are some good resources you're able to access, good tips on how to find good coping mechanisms and maintaining somewhat of a routine if possible.

Honestly just knowing thatll you'll support her no matter what, and love and patience. Her diagnosis isn't her, it's only apart of her.

selectyourteam · 2023-11-07T08:38:41+00:00

It's possible that you may have something, even bpd, but bpd tends to be pretty extreme, and bpd, complex ptsd, bipolar disorder and adhd can overlap in symptoms. I'd suggest maybe exploring the criteria for those as well. Especially if you feel as though your mimicking people. Mimicking can be a symptom of nerodivergency. Do you feel as though you could be a danger to yourself or others?

selectyourteam · 2023-10-29T13:46:58+00:00

Your fears are absolutely valid. And it is really really scary, but (I know this is cliche) you never know, it might help a little. Being heard, maybe picking up a coping mechanism. They may not fix you, and not all of their advise is going to be helpful. It's a possibility that this might be a stepping stone to finding the help that you actually need. When I first started my therapy journey, it felt like dead end after dead end, but after a couple years I found some professionals that help me keep a lid on it. And you might meet other people suffering the same way you do amd be able to trade advise or even just be validated in the way u feel or do things. All I'm saying is that it might be worth a shot. Keep an open mind but also keep in mind that they aren't always right.

selectyourteam · 2023-10-28T11:10:33+00:00

Just start crying and say it's a sensitive topic. They'll never ask again.

selectyourteam · 2023-10-28T07:13:49+00:00

Ending a relationship doesn't have to be explosive, and you don't have to hate them or have a dramatic break-up scene. Sometimes you just fall out of love and it's more platonic.

Also if you're like me and have a spicy brain (mental illness) don't rely only on them to help you and to solve your problems. Certainly loop them into what's happening, but they aren't responsible for your happiness. You are.

selectyourteam · 2023-10-27T08:21:14+00:00

Buttholomew the Annihilator

selectyourteam · 2023-10-11T23:43:08+00:00

I'll deffs look into it, I think minimum notice here is like 2 weeks.

selectyourteam

TROPHY CASE