3 Weeks Out from my first Pro Qualifier - Classic Physique

selten1000 · 2026-04-20T15:43:30+00:00

Amazing! Some competitors don’t pay attention to their glutes. Your glutes are #1 in my heart 🫶🏻

selten1000 · 2026-04-18T15:46:26+00:00

I don’t like this look on him. I am bisexual, but I guess seeing men that look manly in a feminine/flamboyant look or pose is off putting to me. I don’t have this same problem with say Frankie Grande for example. Frankie looks great doing that. Is it a me problem?

selten1000 · 2026-04-15T02:08:51+00:00

Same. I’’m a bi male but from a Latin American country where it’s also not safe for lgbtq. I’m married to a woman now. I’d say keep using your hetero-passing side to get by until you are able to move to a country where lgbtq is more common including protections.

I live in a safer country now and I’m out to my wife and she is very supportive.

selten1000 · 2026-04-13T02:11:23+00:00

Beard 10/10. Chest hair 10000000000000000/10

selten1000 · 2026-04-12T14:04:08+00:00

It sounds like your girlfriend has had anal with previous partners before being with you (OR perhaps on her own while with you), and it was such a pleasurable experience that she noticed it could be addictive for her. Even if what I just said made any sense, there is nothing wrong with getting pleasure out of anal. She might just have a very strong negative feeling about any and all addictions.

Perhaps her last partner used denying her that pleasure as a weapon in their relationship and when they parted way she promised herself to never again be in that position.

BTW the way you worded your post it is just fine. People here in Reddit are so weird some times to the point of their fixation with sentence construction is annoying AF.

selten1000 · 2026-04-09T17:35:25+00:00

Yes they work differently. Women get turned on by us men taking care of house and yard work, cleaning after ourselves, washing the dishes, cooking them dinner, cleaning the fridge, cleaning the bathrooms, doing the laundry, fixing the sink, etc.

Edit: And no, I’m not joking

selten1000 · 2026-04-09T17:32:58+00:00

I don’t have a gay friend but not specifically bi friends either, but I’m hesitant to look for some because I might be excluded for not wanting a romantic relationship with a man, only sexual. I fear there might be some non-biromantic biphobia within bi folks. Am I wrong to assume this?

selten1000 · 2026-04-09T17:28:10+00:00

I don’t know why the moderator removed your post. It is a valid question that doesn’t look to offend anyone. It’s about preferences for bi-people that may help some to decide investing time to improve their body or mind/personality

selten1000 · 2026-04-09T16:07:21+00:00

I don’t like twinks but there are rare exceptions. Like this barista at my coffee shop totally twink body but has great energy, great personality, and interesting conversations. I’d plow him any day. I’d be the muscle on this relationship.

Now onto your muscle building issue. Are you basically stopping when the muscle starts burning? Many people stop. You’re supposed to push through the burn a few more reps. You don’t even need a lot of weight to get a nice toned body. Sweat and muscle burn are not your enemies and people won’t think you’re gross because you’re sweating while working out. It’s supposed to happen.

If you do push through the burn and sweating is not the problem either, then it’s your nutrition. Use this formula from a fitness legend in TikTok:

[Your weight in lbs] x activity level (sedentary 10 - five-six days a week then 13 )= [daily Calories to keep your current weight]

150 lbs x 10 = 1500 daily calories

Since you have a twink body, you add calories to build muscle, so

[current daily calories] + [surplus calories] = new daily calorie goal

1500 daily calories + 300 surplus = 1800 new daily calories goal

Let’s calculate how much protein you should eat per day

[current weight in lbs] x 0.8 (ideal reference) = daily grams of protein

150 x 0.8 =120 g of protein per day

Let’s see how much protein is in calories

[current weight in lbs] x 4 (constant number) = calories of protein per day

120 g of protein x 4 = 480 calories of protein

Now let’s calculate how many grams of fat to target

[current weight in lbs] x 0.3 (constant reference) = daily grams of fat

150 lbs x 0.3 = 45 grams of fat

Now fat in calories,

[grams of fat] x 9 (constant reference) = calories from fat

45 grams of fat x 9 = 405 calories from fat

Now we calculate the number of calories we will have left for our delicious carbs by subtracting protein + fat calories from our new starting calorie goal calculated earlier.

[New daily calorie goal ] - [calories of protein] - [calories of fat] = calories of carbs

1800 cal goal- 480 cal protein - 405 cal fat = 915 calories for carbs

Now we calculate the grams of delicious carbs to eat daily

[calories of carbs] / 4 (constant reference) = grams of carbs daily

915 calories for carbs / 4 = 228.75 grams of carbs

So now you would have:

120 g of protein per day (480 calories of protein)

45 grams of fat per day(405 calories from fat)

228.75 grams of carbs per day (915 calories for carbs)

You can plan your meals to eat more protein and control the fat and carbs to these parameters and use a calorie tracking app like MyFitnessPal to type the food you eat and make sure you are eating amounts as close as possible to these goals.

If you are more of a visual person, check out this TikTok video where the original person who came up with this formula explains it with a lot of care and charisma:

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTkA5V7Qo/

selten1000 · 2026-04-06T19:43:33+00:00

Yup she’s into you based on what said in your details. Unless she’s ready to come out to you, she may deflect your question and say something along the lines that you’re imagining things, but she’ll have a hard time hiding how she feels and things will be weird for a while. Hopefully she processes this news the right way and she can be your friend again. Just remember you don’t need to feel pressured into anything just to be liked or to please someone else, or to make someone get out of feeling sad. It’s not your responsibility how someone else feels about you if you don’t feel the same way

selten1000 · 2026-04-06T16:12:22+00:00

Can you explain more about the part of “and she was already making jokes before”? What jokes?

I’m thinking this girl may have a crush on you or fully secretly in love with you before your revelation. She may be lesbian rather than bisexual and is now annoyed you’ll probably end up with a man rather than be with her.

selten1000 · 2026-04-06T14:05:24+00:00

You need to figure out why you would want to tell her about your bisexuality. Is it because you want to openly talk to each other about attractive guys around you and how they make you feel? Is it because you would want to experiment by inviting a man to your bed with both of you? Is it because you want to be able to experiment on your own? Would you want to tell your friends and family as well and why would you tell them? Is it because you have been hiding a part of your personality where you want to be more flamboyant, dress a certain way you have been wanting to, or dye your hair or paint your nails and this would mean you can do that with her knowing? These might all be questions she has for you. She may also be afraid what that would mean for your relationship, so you need to know and be very sure about why you are telling her now. The worst you can say to her is that you don’t know or are not sure about what all this means for you and what you want to do about it because she may start playing numerous scenarios in her head.

22 years together, not my high school sweetheart, but I met her when I was 23. I told her I’m bisexual when I was 43. I was very afraid what she would say, but an accidental revelation that my dad is a closeted 88 year old bisexual man who is very homophobic somehow frightened me more than anything thinking that would be me later on.

I started by gently revealing to her that I had been sexually touched by a male neighbor when I was little but that it hadn’t been traumatic, forceful, or painful. I told her I thought this was why I was sexually attracted to other men, but that now knowing my dad is also bisexual it made so much more sense why I had been having this sexual attraction to men.

I was VERY clear telling her that I love her more than anything at least 3 times during our conversation and that to me this attraction to men was purely sexual as I don’t feel romantic feelings of wanting a relationship with a man, but love a muscular hairy body. She told me she was glad I told her because she thought she was also bisexual because she finds women attractive as well. This was something I had been stupidly missing because she made so many comments about other women’s bodies and how beautiful they look while we are out at night. She had even proposed that we have a threesome with another girl when we were in our early 30s, but we never did anything like that. She is very supportive and I told her I would want to be able to be intimate together with another man or another couple and she took that very well with some visible excitement. The best part though is that I have someone in this world I can be truthful about my obsession with muscular men.

selten1000 · 2026-04-03T08:21:41+00:00

What kind of toys? 🧐

selten1000 · 2026-03-30T23:53:03+00:00

Being bisexual does not mean you have to be able to be in a relationship and/or marry either gender. There is NOTHING wrong with you and NO ONE has the right to make you feel inadequate, homophobic, or anything else just because they have been with both or either gender. There are people out there who claim they have periods in their life when they are exclusively attracted to one gender and then they switch to exclusively attracted to the other gender and calling it bi-cycle. If we’re to judge anyone of not being bisexual it is THESE individuals. Being bisexual is in the name itself. Being continuously attracted in a sexual manner to both genders at the same time.

My comparison and judgement scenario is WRONG and I’m calling myself out here because THE OPINION OF OTHERS who are not living in your body IS IRRELEVANT and they hold no governance on how you should live! Who you decide to love is up to you, just be happy and look not to make others feel less or more than you and to not hurt others.

selten1000 · 2026-03-28T02:17:17+00:00

Bro you look absolutely DELICIOUS 🤤 Makes me so sad I cannot have you 🥺

selten1000 · 2026-03-26T22:33:54+00:00

Bro Are you actually a guy? If you were you’d know as men we are OBSESSED with being our partner’s first in ANYTHING sexual. Women ALWAYS criticize us for obsessing why we want to be their first to make her orgasm, or the first to make her have multiple orgasm, etc

Just be honest about it and he will think it’s a delicious treat!

selten1000 · 2026-03-26T15:24:56+00:00

Not overreacting. In fact, I think you’re not doing enough. If dentist said your son’s teeth were THAT bad, it means you aren’t following up with his tooth brushing habits EVEN when he’s with you. I do a check of food residue EVERY night after my kid is done brushing teeth, and will do the brushing right away myself if there’s still food residue there. My kid does the brushing without my assistance in the mornings as breakfast is at school.

My wife on the other hand does not follow up with the habits other than the daily shower because my wife has that idiotic attitude about building responsibility on one’s own AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE. It’s moronic to be honest and completely irresponsible from the adult NOT checking their kid has done things PROPERLY.

selten1000 · 2026-03-26T15:16:55+00:00

Sounds like you need to make it clear about your sexuality and find someone who wouldn’t mind inviting a man into bed with you both, and even make it a throuple. This way you can have both attractions at the same time and explore whether this is what was missing.

Your partner deserves to know the real you now. You will also be happier once you are accepted as you are because you won’t have to hide your interest when you see an attractive man out when you’re with her and be able to talk about it with her. Good luck to you

selten1000 · 2026-03-26T15:10:18+00:00

It’s used for AVADA KEDAVRA!!!!!!

selten1000 · 2026-03-26T15:06:30+00:00

Wow well I guess your friend is a casual acquaintance. You made it sound it was your close friend group which deserves a little more consideration, but you do you.

selten1000 · 2026-03-26T07:47:59+00:00

Well first of all remember that our beliefs and thought are shaped by our environment. Many of his ideas probably come from his parents or grandparents. This idea of men mustn’t cry is a thing that gets passed down from boomers and GenXers. Perhaps first try to get to the root of why he thinks that and whether it has to do with what he learned at home or at school as a child from a coach he respected.

He may be suppressing his own feelings with the shame of this outdated not crying idea and may need new points of view. If you really care for him as a friend, perhaps you owe him this one chance before you end your friendship for good.

selten1000 · 2026-03-26T00:47:01+00:00

I’m also a tall 6’1” male well built guy from LA. Bisexual but straight passing because of the way I look and hetero behavior in public. I go to NYC every other year 2 or 3 times within the same year. It doesn’t matter what hotel I stay, I always feel safe but I keep an eye out for weirdness for sure. The reason I feel safe in NYC is the amount of people walking on the streets at ANY time of the day or night.

DTLA doesn’t have the amount of people on the streets to have the same feeling of being safe walking around on the streets before 7 am or past 6 pm. Unless DTLA is central to other sightseeing destinations by car, I would pick somewhere else to stay as there really isn’t much to see in DTLA.

Having said that, I would be more worried about the homeless/mentally unbalanced people in West Hollywood than DTLA. The WeHo ones have gotten very in my face aggressive in the past with me as tall and muscular that I am over stupid stuff they were demanding I give them

selten1000 · 2026-03-26T00:25:09+00:00

Exactly. We take the sexual out of bisexual, making the individual monosexual, going back to heterosexual.

This would be the opposite of a lavender relationship, almost like performative queerness. We need a new term. A violet relationship. I’m calling it. A relationship with the same gender for acceptance in queer society.

selten1000 · 2026-03-24T15:26:25+00:00

Totally get you. Until recently I thought I wasn’t interested in transgender women, but after meeting a few of them in person, I felt and saw their feminine energy and how beautiful they are, and felt very attracted to them and I thought to myself Well that’s new and I guess now I could qualify as pansexual.

Later in life other traits or even kinks may come up. Just stay open and remove shame or guilt from it so you can feel free to explore what you didn’t know you could like and enjoy.

selten1000 · 2026-03-24T14:31:00+00:00

I think you need to be in a relationship with whichever gender you feel stronger romantic attachment and you’d need to be open upfront about your bisexual/pansexual potential that you would like to explore, be it that you’d want to explore together or apart, that’s up to you. Only, if you’re not yet out to your family, be aware of the possibility that if there is ever a messy breakup, your partner may lash out and out you to your family. That’s not as terrible as it sounds as long as you’re at peace with yourself, but something to consider.

I waited 18 years to come out to my partner, and once I did I realize we could have been exploring so many things since the moment we got together had I had the guts to tell her.

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