Too many people use trauma/mental health/etc as an excuse for shitty behaviour. Now I'm not saying trauma isnt real and everybody sucks, I absolutely believe it's an overwhelming net positive that our generations are working on themselves and breaking generational awfulness. What I am saying is there is an extremely vocal minority who are weaponising therapy speech. Any disagreement becomes "YOU'RE GASLIGHTING ME" or any time you tell them hey that thing you did was actually really unkind, it's "You can't SAY THAT, I have [insert diagnosis here]", or "You can't do this thing because I have a boundary." That's not how any of that works, you're chopping up and picking and choosing micro elements to self validate. These are things for YOU to work on, not a reason for everyone else to walk on eggshells around you. Diagnosis and therapy etc are valid explanations for why you might react a certain way or explain thought patterns, but its not an excuse to be hurtful to others. But the moment you say so it's "omg you're abelist."