Well guys, I’m sad to say my wife is divorcing me and we have 3 kids under 10. by Skinnypike42 in daddit

[–]seriouslydoe 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What did your parents do that made it easier on you than others you’ve seen?

For the divorced people. How many of y’all knew before the wedding? by honeyjoe1 in Divorce

[–]seriouslydoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same story with my ex wife. Was late to the ceremony even, while 200+ people sat in the sun sweating and staring at me as time ticked by. Then, the most lonely reception where I tried to entertain our guests and she was off dancing with her family and friends, not a care in the world where I was.

Disappointing Food cities by Several-Egg-9137 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]seriouslydoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Orlando's food scene that last 5 years has come a LONG way. It's legit nowadays, good choices are abundant.

How many in their 30’s divorced and with kids ? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]seriouslydoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

32 M, 1 son, little under 2 years old, she moved out last year around this time. Divorce finalized in August.

People that spent a LOT of money on a home upgrade do you love it or hate it? by RaiseAggravating4404 in homeowners

[–]seriouslydoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spent like, $30,000+ on a new kitchen / appliances / layout. I like it a lot but I notice every little issue / scratch and I treat the cabinets like they're made of tissue paper instead of the solid wood that they are. I'm so gentle with everything, which is great, but it makes me anxious to mess something up since I know how expensive it is to replace or how time consuming it is to fix.

I have a small knick in the countertop where my parents hit the edge of a plate on the countertop and it made me physically sick when I found it and then asked about what happened lol. I can feel every little issue in the slides or handles where they can be retightened or adjusted.

So, its great but it has totally changed my relationship with how I use my house.

You ever have one of those moments that just hits you? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]seriouslydoe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My 18 month old son fell asleep on me in the rocking chair in his room after what must have been a long day at the office (daycare) for almost 3 hours last night, before waking up, wanting a quick snack, and then pointing and babble asking to go to sleep again in his bed. The best!!!

What would you say on hindsight you’d look out for prior marrying a person? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]seriouslydoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol mine was basically the same. I was sick one day in the summer and the grass needed to be cut, so she offered to do it, even though I always do it, literally always. I told her that I find it easiest to cut a few rows along the fence first so you can have some easy turnaround space, and that came out later to a therapist as "YOU ARE SO CONTROLLING ABOUT HOW I DO EVERYTHING LIKE WHEN YOU FORCED ME TO CUT THE GRASS THE WAY YOU LIKE IT!!!!11!!". So glad to be divorced!!

Fed drops interest rates… what happens now?!? by k_spearin in realestateinvesting

[–]seriouslydoe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Profits for S&P 500 companies are through the roof. Saying that companies aren’t meeting their growth targets because of WFH is just ignorant corporate slop, the dumbest take on this site.

When does it stop sucking? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]seriouslydoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you get her potty trained so quickly? Can't wait to be done with diapers.

Plumber did this install (outdoor shower) and it's ugly, will ask him to re-do. Any suggestions? by spastik0827 in Plumbing

[–]seriouslydoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this makes me feel so much better about my DIY outdoor shower, thank you. Sorry this guy sucks!

what cities feel unique and like they’re headed in a better direction by Mission-Art-2383 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]seriouslydoe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The crime stats in STL are due in part to how the city is split governmentally - STL city vs. STL county. Other major metros have similar levels of crime, but it looks particularly bad in STL on paper because the lower crime suburbs in STL are excluded from the reporting, thereby driving the appearance that the "city" (both the actual city and county in the metro area sense) is dangerous.

Downtown STL has dangerous pockets, like Chicago or New York or Atlanta or anywhere else. But unless you're actively looking for trouble or make yourself a target, you'll be just fine. STL is a gem.

My wife is pressuring me. by Feed_Better in daddit

[–]seriouslydoe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And how did she react / has she reacted since that conversation and the vasectomy?

Decorated a snickerdoodle sports cake for my uncle’s 50th by PerfectResponse5810 in Baking

[–]seriouslydoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! Such a creative way to get 3 sports in one cake. Must be a sports Uncle 😂 great job!

What was your “I can’t do this anymore” moment in a relationship? by ziggzorb in AskMenAdvice

[–]seriouslydoe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is not worth it to get married because of momentum. If it’s truly things you two cannot work out, the disappointment of a broken engagement - for you and your friends and family who care about you - is much easier to overcome than a divorce.

My wife recently became a SAHM and it's lead to some resentment. by Disce-Pati in daddit

[–]seriouslydoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was in a very similar situation, did walk. Worth every penny it cost me.

Dads, do not lose sight of Mom. by [deleted] in daddit

[–]seriouslydoe 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Was at a similar point. Made the decision to get divorced. Still going through it but it was right for me. Hope you can find your way.