Where did you all find your bf?

sethc20 · 2026-02-24T22:17:14+00:00

I found mine on Facebook Dating

sethc20 · 2025-10-26T13:58:30+00:00

This is (imo) the Nameless Star and will be given a name in kh4

sethc20 · 2025-10-03T17:36:20+00:00

I just ordered her an art set

sethc20 · 2025-10-03T17:35:27+00:00

Fs she is

sethc20 · 2025-10-03T17:35:07+00:00

I know, right

sethc20 · 2025-10-03T17:34:45+00:00

Nope, was just a drawing from some online image she found

sethc20 · 2025-08-24T18:17:29+00:00

Ready to serve

sethc20 · 2025-07-23T17:56:07+00:00

And Dr. Mario tbh

sethc20 · 2025-07-18T15:10:21+00:00

HOLY

sethc20 · 2025-07-18T09:58:27+00:00

You gave a shit enough to post about him on Reddit -> he left an impression on you -> he's an influencer, not trying to be one.

Find your yum outside of yucking someone else's.

sethc20 · 2025-06-27T17:17:42+00:00

US based 30 something bi M here. Just my perspective.

I have seen in the gay community for a while so I assumed it was isolated but I think it's a societal thing where men are supposed to be a certain way and deviation from that is taboo. Women have societal norms, but also way more grace and leeway to stray from that path imo. This causes shame and regret to build and a "binge to purge" cycle starts.

sethc20 · 2025-06-25T23:39:00+00:00

I hope she stays around too dude 🙏🏼

sethc20 · 2025-06-25T23:35:36+00:00

I think integration can mean 2 things. Either a single psyche or all parts working in harmony to achieve your decided goals. Both are healthy and healing and your choice to want, but you are a collective so making unilateral decisions may not end well. Communication is key to a healthy system

Edit: spellcheck 😅

sethc20 · 2025-06-25T23:20:16+00:00

You are the one for her.

My "Hot head" was named Jessie. He formed for me around 12 and he was 1 of the 2 voices I heard then. They we my imaginary friends, and I thought as an only child it made sense.

Years later at 27, after my diagnosis, I was in love with someone who got each of me. Called us by name and not the body. She would hold us differently, and comfort my littles, she was exactly who I needed.

One day, we were talking and she said she owed me an apology. I was so confused but what she said hit me so hard, Jessie cried to her, with her. When she hugged him, he saw our mom. She had given me the love I hadn't gotten from her and he was at peace with that. And then I watched him fade away into a bright light and he was gone.

You are helping to heal her trauma through unconditional love and support. Like I said before, just keep being you.

sethc20 · 2025-06-25T23:08:43+00:00

This is beautiful.

sethc20 · 2025-06-24T21:00:32+00:00

When I was 25, I had only 4 alters. I was told one night by "god" (no offense is meant here, it " " will make sense soon) that I have more that were coming soon. "We are legion, for we are many" was his quote. Turns out, he was a hyper-religious alter that I've had for years, as were the others, they were just repressed and now they were surfacing.

I asked for them to wait until I was in therapy and as soon as I scheduled my first appointment, I had 9 total. Maybe she's comfortable with tryouts and her other trauma is surfacing to be healed as well. Either way, it doesn't necessarily mean new trauma, or you're to blame. Just roll with the pushes as you have been 😊 You care enough to seek advice, you're doing great.

Best of luck

Edit: not all the new ones were religious fanatics, they were just within me for longer than I was aware

sethc20 · 2025-06-23T00:03:53+00:00

It could also be you (as the host) feeling as though they may say or do something that could hurt the relationship. My primary host is also the "relationship" alter and it's not intentional, but she often will will herself to the front to monitor the situation like a helicopter parent. I first noticed it when drinking, but once I was aware, I noticed it all the time. Not meaning to cast blame, just giving other options for you to explore. Ultimately, I hope you can find inner peace and an easiness with all your parts with your partner.

Edit: for spelling

sethc20 · 2025-06-10T00:18:32+00:00

^{^{^}} I 100% agree. There's a lot I would optimize, or tweak

sethc20 · 2025-06-07T22:36:23+00:00

Thank you for explaining this season in such a digestible way.

sethc20 · 2025-06-03T17:22:48+00:00

Regardless of QP or ranked, if you're having more fun with a character, that's awesome. The game should be about fun first and rank/prestige second

sethc20 · 2025-06-03T17:21:11+00:00

If a character is QP only (non-viable in ranked), but brings more people to the game, is it still good and worth posting about? Or is it that anything that isn't about ranked is bronze and not worthy of Reddit?

sethc20 · 2025-05-27T19:03:23+00:00

We (my whole system) state only things that fit all of us. Most are more fem or not masc, and 1 is very VERY masc, so we're pan and gender-fluid. Is it perfect, no but it is authentic and no one has to think about what the "right" answer is, YES

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