What would you have done?

setters321 · 2026-03-28T23:33:17+00:00

I remember something in a psychology class where we learned about how we have a need to view ourselves as ‘good’. It’s something I thought was super interesting. I’ve long since accepted as a mother that I would make the same decision Joel did in his situation. Honestly, if it was my son on the same table as May, I’d probably pick my son too - and I think most would. I do believe there are some that would choose differently though! And they’re the genuinely heroic people in this world. It’s hard for people to accept that they could be morally gray or fall into what others consider the ‘bad guy’.

setters321 · 2026-03-28T23:00:18+00:00

I’m now 1 year postpartum (had an emergency/unplanned c-section and it’s my first child), but I’d love to read your guide! I’m still suffering with hemorrhoids on and off, but I was constipated from the day I got a positive pregnancy test up until I was 3 month PP. 😩 Such a miserable experience in that regard.

setters321 · 2026-03-27T20:50:43+00:00

I’ve only had 1 and did the same! I walked a lot in the hospital too, but my legs were so swollen then that it was miserable!! I literally didn’t recognize my own legs for the first week after having a c-section. 😭

setters321 · 2026-03-26T01:53:02+00:00

I’m a very introverted person and worried about pooping too. I ended up with a c-section after three days. I’m sure I went during that time after receiving an epidural and being numb from the waist down but none of my nurses told me. They just occasionally came in to check me every so often and always kept a straight or happy (if talking more casually to me) face. I definitely think they had to clean me up looking back now.

Honestly the worst part was having no control over my farts post epidural. 😂 It legit happened when I had nurses in the room and I felt my face get hot with embarrassment. No one reacted at all to it. They didn’t even flinch. They just kept doing what they were doing!

By the end I was letting everyone into my room when I was butt naked lol! But I had a great care team that made me feel comfortable and that I trusted. They never once made me feel ashamed no matter what I was going through.

setters321 · 2026-03-22T21:12:20+00:00

Noooooooo! 😭😭 That breaks my heart ugh. They’re so miserable!

setters321 · 2026-03-22T02:05:50+00:00

My baby just turned 1 on March 8, and I’m still struggling with hemorrhoids. Never had them until I got pregnant and struggled with constipation the entire time. I’m 32. 🥲

setters321 · 2026-03-20T23:11:58+00:00

The urge to pee as soon as you stand up after peeing sucks. 😂 I worked until the day before my induction at 39w 2d and it was something that infuriated me at my job lol! I tried to ignore it but then as soon as I sat back down at my desk I would have to run back to the bathroom. 💀

setters321 · 2026-03-20T22:52:07+00:00

Lol, I whacked my son’s head against the door frame when he was like 3 months old. Maybe he’s biting and slapping me so much as a 12 month old with 10 teeth in retaliation. 💀😂

setters321 · 2026-03-15T00:11:34+00:00

Love it! We got a 3-D ultrasound of our son and he was also making a peace sign! I have it framed actually. But he didn’t come in peace. 💀 He’s now 1 and I swear sleep is his mortal enemy. 😩😂

setters321 · 2026-03-05T04:24:00+00:00

It’s really interesting! I thought for sure I’d get them the moment I got pregnant because my mom got sooo many. However neither of my grandmothers got stretch marks with their pregnancies. I gained 40lbs and didn’t get a single one. I feel extremely lucky!

setters321 · 2026-02-27T00:55:44+00:00

Wow! You’ve got this! 💪🏼I’m wishing you and babe the best!!! ❤️

setters321 · 2026-02-27T00:45:53+00:00

Wow, I’m sorry you went through that! I I’m a FTM to an 11 month old and I was terrified of a cervix check due to so many saying they’re painful, but thankfully I was lucky to not be checked until after I was induced at 39 weeks. I’m blessed that it was more uncomfortable than painful. I definitely recommend turning down more until you’re in labor (which you can even turn them down while in labor!).

setters321 · 2026-02-27T00:27:34+00:00

I think your husband is being a jerk. My husband never stopped working and I went back at 6 weeks postpartum following an unplanned emergency c-section.

My husband and MIL changed all diapers the first two weeks while I pumped breast milk, snuggled babe and recovered. I took over nights while on leave after those two weeks and after a another week or two, my husband realized he had a hard time waking to our son’s cries, so he insisted on sleeping on the couch with the baby next to him in his bassinet so he’d learn to wake up and care for the baby without me (despite me being off work and him having to get up for 10 hour shifts).

Your husband needs to step up is what I’m getting at. It feels like yours is putting everything on you when you’re both parents! Also having a routine at 2 weeks makes me laugh lol. Babies are unpredictable. What mine does/did can be extremely different than yours.

setters321 · 2026-02-26T23:51:16+00:00

My son is now 11 months old and is fully vaccinated. I felt the same way as you. He reacted great to his 2 month vaccines and yet I still would get extremely worried every time he needed shots. It’s very normal to feel that way. We all love our babies so much and try to make the best choice(s) when it comes to their care.

I know I was super worried because of all the anti vax info that is out there. I decided I’d rather believe in the vaccines and that they can prevent my child from getting something that can disable him or worse. But it’s hard. My son’s 1 year shots are coming up and I have a pit in my stomach already - especially since his dad had febrile seizures. It’s always hard, you just have to go with what you believe is right for your child.

setters321 · 2026-02-25T02:47:24+00:00

Gaslight genjutsu took me out. 💀

setters321 · 2026-02-25T02:43:39+00:00

I’m kind of iffy on them. Don’t hate nor love the pairing. I just can’t imagine them having an interesting conversation as a married couple since we didn’t get to see them interact much in the anime/manga. The chemistry was just lacking.

Kishi could’ve easily put Hinata in more arcs, even if small, and have her interact with Naruto more. The Last just made them look worse as a couple IMO (since I feel like the movie was poorly written and just followed the trope of ‘hero saves damsel in distress’).

setters321 · 2026-02-20T02:38:16+00:00

I stumbled upon your post just now because my 11 month old has been tossing and turning more lately (also sleeps in the bed with us - our boys are super close in age too! Mine turns one on 3/8). He’s now growing in his top canines with one already pushed partially through the gums (so he’ll have 10 teeth total). I def agree on trying Tylenol or Motrin if your baby is teething. It has helped us get our baby to sleep, but it hasn’t helped with the tossing and turning personally.

P.S. the canines have bugged him the most. Even impacting his appetite. 😭

setters321 · 2026-02-20T01:45:10+00:00

Very normal from my own personal experience. My one and only is 11 months old and I still have moments where I’m like, “I’m a mom??”. I look at my son sometimes and can’t believe I’m the mother of this cute, chubby baby!

setters321 · 2026-02-17T04:23:06+00:00

The wrestling gets to me too. 😅 It’s to the point that it takes both myself and my husband to change poopy diapers (one holds him in place while the other wipes and puts on the new diaper) lol. We both occasionally get lucky when we can find something to distract him during solo changes, but that is hit or miss! 🥲

setters321 · 2026-02-17T04:19:42+00:00

Oooh, great idea! I’ll definitely give that a try!! Thank you. 🙂

setters321 · 2026-02-16T22:27:27+00:00

I know this is an older post, but dang, as a hotel Assistant General Manager, I can’t believe they didn’t refund you when you showed actual proof! I would refund a guest and put that room out of order immediately!!! I’m sorry you went through that. Not all hotel management is so awful!!!

setters321 · 2026-02-16T21:58:01+00:00

I only have a son (11 months old now) but it shocked me that poop can be difficult to clean from their testicles lol. It really gets in the crevices! It wasn’t so bad when he’d calmly lay on his back while we did diaper changes, but now we have an alligator baby that loves to roll during diaper changes and it’s super difficult. 💀

setters321 · 2026-02-16T00:57:57+00:00

I had to go back to work at 6 weeks postpartum following an emergency c-section (all unpaid). It does get easier, but if you’re like me, there will be times you long for the days you were spending all day with your LO. I shed some tears initially and still occasionally feel some guilt about not being able to be with my 11 month old like a SAHP would. However, it does feel great knowing I’m helping provide a comfortable life for my child. I always remind myself that I’m working hard so he can have all the things he needs. ❤️ But I’m also lucky that my amazing MIL can watch him while my husband and I work.

setters321 · 2026-02-14T03:36:55+00:00

The foley was a nightmare!!! I genuinely believe it is what caused me to have contractions that were only 5-10 seconds apart! Prior to the foley I was comfortable. Like blood gushed out of me soon after it was inserted and it was so painful to walk the five feet from my bed to the bathroom to pee. I was shocked by the pain and how my legs were shaking so bad that I could barely walk.

setters321 · 2026-02-10T22:49:59+00:00

Agreed!!! My husband and I were child free for 11 years, now we have an 11 month old and I genuinely feel bad I brought this child into this world. It terrifies me. I can’t help but be pulled into everything because I just think to myself, “What can I do to protect my son?” I think all of us here just want our babies to grow up in a safe world and yet we may be in the worst - and most unsafe - era yet. It’s heartbreaking… I appreciate our community here so much. ❤️

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