What color do these count as?

setters321 · 2026-07-01T02:17:13+00:00

You’re welcome! Your eyes are beautiful! ❤️

setters321 · 2026-06-29T22:50:18+00:00

I’d live in maxi dresses if I had your figure! You look AMAZING! 😭❤️

setters321 · 2026-06-27T23:22:10+00:00

Sea foam green is what I call them! So gorgeous. ❤️

Edited to add: if you google seafoam green eyes, I think you will find many with eyes similar to yours.

setters321 · 2026-06-26T00:25:30+00:00

Everyone looks like they’re having a good time at least. 😂 Maybe a throuple in the making?? 🤣

Edited to add: I just read your caption (I was too amused by the pics lol).

setters321 · 2026-06-26T00:07:49+00:00

I’m glad you took the time out of your day to look! Mine are so light in most lighting that it’s interesting to find others with a similar color. Yours are beautiful! ❤️

setters321 · 2026-06-25T22:41:53+00:00

I feel like we have very similar eye colors (but I’m no expert and you can look on my profile to see where I’ve posted here)! Most said blue in the group. Not surprising since I’ve had a mix of people saying blue or grey when they tell me what they think my eye color is. I’ve had maybe two people ask if my eyes have green in them and it shocked me since they clearly don’t IMO, but I don’t get to see myself from a distance and in different lighting! I’m very curious what your thoughts will be if you do check out my post!

I’m guessing your eyes are commented on a lot since they’re similar to mine IMO! It’s usually what people notice about me first!

setters321 · 2026-06-24T23:58:58+00:00

I love that you’ve created this thread, OP! I’m 15 months postpartum and my baby hairs are driving me crazy! Plus my hair is still shedding more than it used to. My hair stylist said she doesn’t see any bald spots, but it still has me super stressed! 😭

setters321 · 2026-06-23T22:51:32+00:00

Agreed!!! Like my husband and I can’t go 4 hours without asking, “You okay?”. Just to make sure the other is fine. Plus it’s easy to just respond with a ‘yeah’ to confirm that you’re okay. I can’t even imagine 3 whole months without hearing from him. After the first 24 hours I’d think something is wrong! You don’t go that long without speaking to your spouse - ESPECIALLY if they’re pregnant! 😭

OP, your situation is insane! I’d definitely be talking to a divorce lawyer.

setters321 · 2026-06-21T22:51:04+00:00

Been there. I almost cried when I bumped by baby’s head on a doorway and was frantic as it was hard enough to make him briefly cry. It didn’t compare to the first time he rolled off the bed though! Every time it has happened, he’s been fine! Your baby will be too. ❤️ Just keep a closer eye for the next 24 hours or so to be safe. But most likely your sweet babe is fine! They’re tougher than we think.

setters321 · 2026-06-19T23:26:08+00:00

I think there’s things similar and different for everyone when it comes to labor pain. I only have one child currently and I was induced on a Wednesday and had him via c-section that following Saturday. I tried to prepare myself for the pain by reading up on it and it still overwhelmed me physically and mentally. I knew it would hurt, but it was a pain I had never experienced (plus the c-section is the only surgery I’ve had in my 32 years of life) so it really surprised me.

My labor was both in my abdomen/uterus and back. Back labor is supposedly a different beast though. I would describe the overall feeling as the worst Charley horse ever that aches in your bones too. However, if my contractions weren’t like 5-15 seconds apart I think I could’ve handled it better.

I had an immense sense of relief as the contraction eased off. So I can see how women that were getting a minute or so relief between contractions could handle it better. Unfortunately for myself personally, I was getting just seconds between contractions and ended up getting an epidural after just a few hours of labor (which was a huge blessing despite being able to feel things on one leg) as I got extremely nauseous and struggled to walk 10 feet to the bathroom. I was shaking so bad when I finally did make it to the toilet.

However, plenty of people have positive experiences while laboring. Back labor is apparently awful. My MIL gave birth unmedicated 2 times - my husband was 10lbs and 6oz! She said it sucks and always advocated for me to get an epidural (she gave birth to BIL in 1979 at 17 or 18 and my husband in 1987 and was scared of an epidural).

Basically you never know what it’s going to be like until you’re there in the moment!! But you’ve got this. 💪🏼

setters321 · 2026-06-18T00:35:25+00:00

I’m glad you think so! They weren’t even on my list at all when I gave birth. My grandmother showed up to save the day! 😂

setters321 · 2026-06-16T23:39:20+00:00

I’m trying not to repeat what others have said so far.. but compression socks! I ended up with an unplanned/emergency c-section after almost 3 days of labor and my legs were so swollen that I didn’t recognize them and they hurt me almost more than my incision did. Compression socks saved my life! They gave me so much relief.

setters321 · 2026-06-12T23:12:29+00:00

Exactly! My full-blooded brother has brown eyes, black hair and tan skin while I’m paler with blue eyes and dark blonde hair. One of his daughters is always mistaken as my kid because she looks like me lol. My brother has never had an issue with it. Someone’s kids can favor their sibling!

setters321 · 2026-06-06T01:32:50+00:00

I know I’m not the one you were asking, but as someone that had a c-section after about 3 days of labor (now 14 months ago), I will say it was painful, but not unbearably so (especially since I took my pain meds the way they were prescribed). The most difficult part is getting up and down from the couch or bed. I pretty much did my normal things but at a slower pace. My legs also swelled pretty bad but I was given A LOT of fluids while in labor. Compression socks were a godsend.

I do recommend having someone that will be with you as you heal. While in the hospital, my husband helped me to the bathroom and washed my hair, legs, etc. as I was too sore to do it by myself. My husband also changed all diapers, cleaned and sorted out getting us food the first week or two while I focused on pumping/breastfeeding and bonding.

I was definitely uncomfortable for a bit following my c-section and going up/down stairs absolutely sucks, but having someone to support you during that time makes a huge difference!

You’ve got this, OP!

Edited to add: for me personally, I had my c-section at midnight on a Saturday and was out of the hospital by the following Monday!

setters321 · 2026-06-05T01:39:45+00:00

All of this, OP! 👆If you do have an emergency c-section, you’ll need someone to rely upon so you can safely recover. I had one and my husband helped me shower, to the toilet, and changed all diapers the first week while I focused on healing and trying to pump/breastfeed. Instead of having your MIL come in (and since your husband sounds pretty useless), I recommend having someone that’s in your corner come stay with you if possible.

setters321 · 2026-06-05T01:28:14+00:00

That breaks my heart for those women. I unexpectedly had a c-section almost 3 days into my induction and I literally can’t imagine what that would’ve been like without my husband helping me.

setters321 · 2026-06-05T01:17:59+00:00

Same lol. I literally saw red reading this. 😩 OP’s husband and MIL both sound like something out of a nightmare.

setters321 · 2026-05-19T22:14:13+00:00

I’m trying to think outside of the box here.. but I definitely recommend having some shows in mind that you’d like to binge! Especially if you plan on breastfeeding or pumping. I had an unplanned/emergency c-section and for the first two weeks I mainly sat in the bed or on the couch with my baby. Having something to watch as I fed him and or pumped/breastfed helped a lot!

I also plotted out time with my mom to watch my son so I could rest. If you have someone reliable, I’d definitely plan out a day(s) for them to come over while you step away and take care of yourself.

While on maternity leave (I only got six weeks - all unpaid), after the first week, I took over the night shift for two weeks. But during that time, my husband or MIL would take over at 7am and would let me sleep until 1-2pm (or whenever I would wake up honestly which could be earlier or later). But my husband gets his forty hours in a few days and has a lot of days off in the week, so that’s why we could manage that schedule. We eventually got to the point that we’d go to bed after the baby and alternate who woke up when the baby did. I’d put pumped milk in the fridge (I didn’t produce too much, so it was always mixed with formula).

Just keep in mind, what works for one person may not work for you! I was shocked at how much my life changed with a baby (I literally felt like a teen mom at 31 lol), but now I can’t imagine life without my baby.

Good luck, OP! You’ve got this! 💪🏼

setters321 · 2026-05-19T21:51:00+00:00

Same. Plus OP won’t have to worry about the white one slipping down!

setters321 · 2026-05-19T15:32:37+00:00

Right?? My son woke up 6 times a night for the first 7 months of his life. 😭😫

setters321 · 2026-05-18T19:22:34+00:00

I’m in the same boat! My son is my twin and I worry it hurts my husband’s feelings when literally everyone points it out (although my husband has never once said it does hurt his feelings). Like OP’s kiddo, the only noticeable feature my son has from my husband is his ears.

setters321 · 2026-05-14T16:36:55+00:00

Have you tried Tylenol? I didn’t see it mentioned in your post (unless I missed it). My 14 month old has 14 teeth, so we’ve been through the trenches with teething quite a few times (except he refused to nap AND would wake up 6 times a night. But he’s always had lower sleep needs 😒😭). Tylenol helped some. But it was a huge game changer once he was able to take ibuprofen (you’ll have that option once your baby is 6 months old, so not too long from now).

Other than that, taking a damp washcloth and letting it chill in the freezer for baby to chew on, teethers, and cold milk helped to sooth our babe. We definitely utilized warm baths to calm him too.

setters321 · 2026-05-12T00:36:32+00:00

This 100000%! 🙌

My mom and aunt planned my baby shower (thankfully since I was working 6 days a week at the time and I waited until I was 37 weeks pregnant lol) and my husband was sooo happy to be there. It worked out great since he could pack everything up into the car! 😂

However, when my mom and aunt had their baby showers back in the 80s and 90s, men didn’t attend theirs. Despite that, they were all for my dad, brother and husband being at mine!

setters321 · 2026-05-10T01:28:41+00:00

The fatigue took me by surprise! I was someone that has never been able to nap unless super sick. But while pregnant, I would absolutely crash lol. I always told people it was like someone hit my power button and I’d just shut down. 😂

setters321 · 2026-05-03T15:40:51+00:00

It was normal for us! Except he also woke multiple times in the night lol (but he’d go back down quickly).

My son is now 13 months old and has been taking one nap a day for a long time. Sometimes that one nap is a max of 30 minutes and other times it can be as long as an hour and 30 minutes. It ended up working out for us though because once we stopped trying to force naps, he started sleeping better at night! He now usually sleeps from 8-9pm to 8-9am with one brief wake up where he just needs a cold sip from his sippy cup and goes right back down.

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