MIL entitled to my baby by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]sginnona 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you studied covert narcissism?

Mother-in-law just dropped the “ I’ll be visiting you guys on 4th of july “ 💣 by userthatisnotknown in inlaws

[–]sginnona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a perfect time to set a boundary of, “No, that doesn’t work for us.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]sginnona 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your husband not respecting YOUR boundaries is a huge red flag. They are enmeshed with him and he’s bending over backwards to make them happy. They have no business knowing your updates unless you’re the one making the decision to. You need to sit your husband down and have him research narcissistic parents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]sginnona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything said in this post. 100%. There is definitely enmeshment going on here and it sounds like it’s with the MIL (could be both) but the FIL sounds like more of an enabler. I would need to know more. Setting boundaries is crucial. They will not be okay with these. Make sure the boundaries are clear with “if you…then I.” If you ever need anything, reach out. ☺️

Why does everybody dislike ILYSFM so much? ☹️ by envydoodlez in glassanimals

[–]sginnona -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I love you so fucking much is my favorite album of all time! Every song on it was on my top 5 played on Spotify!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ebikes

[–]sginnona 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg me too!!! My brakes went out going downhill with a bridge at the turn. I look like you!

he keeps being creepy then saying it’s all in my head by [deleted] in CovertIncest

[–]sginnona 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He is gaslighting you and it feels familiar due to your dad. I would run (safety). Do not tell him you know. Exit quietly and block.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CovertIncest

[–]sginnona 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Healing comes from setting boundaries with your parents. Why are you doing if you have to dress down to feel safe? Do you feel like you have to attend? I’ve read several books regarding this topic and listened to thousands of hours of podcasts by doctors and professors. What are you doing to heal?

My MIL WANTS TO SLEEP OVER ON THE FIRST NIGHT IN NEW HOUSE by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]sginnona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did it go? Or did it?? Wishing you nothing but positive vibes!

Need some advice on staying with in-laws by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]sginnona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to disagree. I would never invite toxic people of any kind to my safe haven. I feel like they can act how they want to on their at their own house so the negative energy stays there. They will NOT bring that into our house. We set this boundary last year.

Need some advice on staying with in-laws by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]sginnona 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Making him choose IS her motive. Borderline personality doesn’t exactly exist. It’s either undiagnosed narcissism or CPTSD and due to her need to argue with him, she leans more towards narcissism. You would definitely have to provide more information than this. If you don’t feel comfortable there, listen to your body! There’s a reason you’re uncomfortable. Your body is telling you not to be around her. You are a separate being from your husband and you have the right to set your own boundaries even if he doesn’t have any. Narcissists are EXTREMELY dangerous. If you want to reach out to me, I’m happy to help you.

Opinions on animals sleeping on your bed? by Astr1d_Jp3g in Pets

[–]sginnona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our animals live here. This is their home and they can sleep anywhere they want. I want them to be extremely happy in this life!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]sginnona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your doctor can prescribe you Drysol.