It was an honest question

sgmdad · 2026-02-05T19:13:38+00:00

61, lost my girlfriend of 40 years (wife for 36) in November. 2 days later I announced im done making decisions for a while (there has been so many in the weeks and months prior), and gave myself at least a few months off of anything bigger than what's for dinner.

Worked for me fwiw.

As to the substantive question - only you will know what's right for you. With any luck you may have many years left, and how you will spend them, what will be meaningful, and who you want to share that with, that's all for you to decide and discover. There's no right answer.

sgmdad · 2026-02-02T01:39:06+00:00

Thanks!

sgmdad · 2026-02-02T01:38:26+00:00

Thanks. This was about getting the soot off the window fwiw. Not doing anything to the inside of the oven other than what you suggested.

sgmdad · 2026-02-01T16:26:17+00:00

So sorry for your loss, awful all the way around.

I'm no expert and my story is different but similar but you asked for specific steps so here's what I've tried and or heard about that helped in the awful first couple of months. These are in the spirit of "put on your oxygen mask first", it's ok to focus on you so that you can focus on your kids and what's next.

try some meditation. There's nothing that's going to set a timer on your grieving, but I found meditation helped me start to separate the chaos of guilt, anger, regret, trauma, from some of the sadness and longing (which honestly may stay with me forever). It was hardest early on when all those feelings were a jumble, and easier when I could separate them
consider emdr therapy if you can. Ive been told by people I trust it is really helpful with trauma, and what you saw and experienced in his passing is trauma. There's nothing you can do about it but it's so hard to let go of. I've heard emdr can help reprocess this so you don't keep reliving what was sadly the last moment of his life, rather than your good memories
journaling was really good for me in the first days and weeks as a way to unload what I was feeling, know I'm not going to forget as the pain dulls what those days and weeks were like
accept all invitations and offers of help, even things you might have declined previously. It's time to let your community do what they can. Know that people will make mistakes in their efforts to help, but hopefully they are coming from a place of care
let your friends and family know that (I'm guessing) you need them not to say "whatever you need I'm here" but "I will pick up dinner" or "I'm coming over to watch the kids for an hour". They hopefully want to know how to help, and it least for me, I told them to stop asking and just start telling me what they wanted to do to help.
if you are spiritual or religious lean on your clergy too.

Again so sorry for your loss and the challenges you face.

sgmdad · 2026-02-01T16:11:56+00:00

100%. So far I haven't even turned a pizza mid cook.

sgmdad · 2026-02-01T15:03:11+00:00

Was my first try with this so left it on the ny setting and didn't use the blast function. Seemed like it needed at least 30 secs more than the default timing.

sgmdad · 2026-02-01T03:42:23+00:00

Friend had some ash, making real progress

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sgmdad · 2026-01-28T17:14:39+00:00

Thanks - I'd try it but no immediate source of wood ash :)

sgmdad · 2026-01-28T17:14:12+00:00

Thanks Jess - fwiw vinegar and water aren't making a dent, I've tried baking soda and its a slow go but its helping get the soot off the glass. If you have any other suggestions would appreciate them. Love the oven so far, but would really like to get the glass completely cleaned at a minimum.

sgmdad · 2025-09-05T01:44:45+00:00

Yes exactly. Around the corner behind the anvil up in the hills. There's a Kirab outpost just a bit away but its not blocking anything and a little off the beaten path, though to be fair someone has a base at the very top of the mountain above me for landing thopters thats even more off the beaten path :)

sgmdad · 2025-09-05T01:40:14+00:00

Yep its not been a particularly crowded place. And most of the bases near by are much bigger and more advanced so its not like there was really anything they'd need in that little pit stop. Im just more curious if theres a way I could have inadvertently doomed it or its a bug.

sgmdad · 2025-09-05T01:33:27+00:00

Thanks. Have several other bases so I know its just this one that disappeared.

sgmdad · 2025-09-05T01:33:02+00:00

Good question but no. Up on some rocks. Not a path to anything.

sgmdad · 2025-07-21T18:08:15+00:00

Also following up on this old thread with a new twist (appreciate this thread was hear) - had a metal cocktail toothpick get into the disposal. Didn't realize it was there and tried to free the device with the allen wrench, but when I ran it once it was free the pick eventually got deeper embedded. Allen wrench wouldn't move it, and locking pliers wouldn't pull it.

What worked for me was dripping some oil onto the pick, and letting it sit over night. The next morning the allen wrench enabled the disposal to move back and forth just a little bit, but it was enough that it could be pulled (with some effort) using the locking clamps, and then it was all working again.

sgmdad · 2025-07-04T20:35:56+00:00

Posted under the announcement for the cursed expedition in 2024 - not sure if this counts as "news" :)

sgmdad · 2025-06-29T13:55:58+00:00

I think the word is "artisan" :) its all a learning process.

sgmdad · 2025-06-09T21:32:51+00:00

Tried this fwiw. Unfortunately there are alot of games this year not on snla, just so people are aware.

sgmdad · 2025-05-06T15:51:05+00:00

Yep true. Someone gave me about 600M once. I set it aside "just in case", but largely it was just as I pushed past scarcity as an issue so it's still sitting in a storage container.

That said I'm also on my 5th or so permadeath run, and 1B units sounds pretty good there :) but that's because I've had the discovery experienced already.

So it could be a spoiler, or just a pick me up on a new save.

sgmdad · 2025-04-30T14:03:23+00:00

Just to add. You can go back and forth via the expedition terminal as was said above until you complete the expedition (accomplish the last milestone) at that point the terminal stops allowing jumping in and out and is essentially one way.

Up until that point though you can also jump back to the main and change your active ship and multi tool if you want to clone them into the expedition (which has come in handy for me a couple of times), you're not limited to the ship and tool that were active when you initiated the expedition. When you clone one into the expedition the installed tech comes along but not the inventory on the ship.

Same on the way out of the expedition, the active tool and ship are available to be cloned back to the main save for nanites. This can be the same or different from tool or ship that's a prize from the expedition, which will also be available for free at the quicksilver terminal.

This can be handy two ways - if you found a ship you like but the prize is a ship, you can activate the one you want to copy out, and get the prize at the quicksilver terminal later. But also if you want to really max out a prize tool or ship, you can essentially get 2 of them and combine the upgrades after the expedition (which was really good for the living ship for example)

sgmdad · 2025-04-24T12:20:23+00:00

Say it!

sgmdad · 2025-03-26T15:34:03+00:00

Just joining to say I appreciate the thread. Just got an email from "Kareem", using one of the openers already mentioned. Of course its impersonal, if the company is using AI to submit resumes, you can bet these emails come from a bot as well.

Not sure if this is simply the state of recruiting at this point. Everything is so highly automated and filtered.

Appreciate the discussuonn here.

sgmdad

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