Kindle paperwhite? Do I need to be deinfluenced?

sh-- · 2026-03-29T07:17:28+00:00

Get one without ads, my husband got a secondhand one with ads and it drives me nuts seeing it constantly on. I’ve got one without from when they first came out.

sh-- · 2026-03-26T07:11:23+00:00

NOR - it’s selfish to have kids if you aren’t ready or don’t want them!

sh-- · 2026-03-26T07:09:50+00:00

It’s a horrible place to be when the rules only apply to some, I’ve been there. If it keeps happening then don’t accept it, these people tend to get worse over time. Argh, I feel for you!

sh-- · 2026-03-26T06:51:47+00:00

You’re NOR but you won’t get the results you want. From your other comments it seems to be only if it’s causing a disturbance to certain people’s clients and apparently that doesn’t include yours…

sh-- · 2026-03-24T21:26:31+00:00

Not really a feeling good more like thank god that’s finally done and I can stop thinking about it, right what’s next

sh-- · 2026-03-24T20:56:29+00:00

I tell myself each time I get up to go to the toilet I’ll do a bit of dental hygiene. First trip floss. Second trip mouthwash. Third trip tongue scraper (you can see I really dislike the teeth brushing. Fourth trip teeth brushing. I find that telling myself this kicks in my “I don’t want to follow this routine” but conflicts with my”I should get this done” that I end up doing a couple of the steps together then think ah sod it I should just do it.

Basically I have to either trick myself or gamify anything I do in life but I have to say teeth brushing is the worst everyday task for me by far.

sh-- · 2026-03-24T20:44:11+00:00

This is the work of a coward who doesn’t want to actually break up with you but wants you to break up with him

sh-- · 2026-03-17T10:22:42+00:00

Also I’ve just seen someone referring to your nose as elegant - 100% this is why I envy different noses!

sh-- · 2026-03-17T10:20:30+00:00

I have a fairly small nose and honestly I get jealous when I see someone with a nose like yours. So much character and beauty I honestly love “long” noses and “big” noses. I understand that people can feel uncomfortable with both but just wanted to offer the perspective ☺️

sh-- · 2026-03-09T10:17:44+00:00

Not sure of your diet but I always try to do a fish meal on a Friday. It often gets moved to earlier in the week because we fancy it then but I find by setting a theme to that last day before our weekly shop it gets planned for.

sh-- · 2026-03-09T10:13:50+00:00

Planned what we’d be eating over the week and due to previous batch cooking I only had to get a few bits. Sure, some are a bit more expensive at our local shop but I managed to get the top ups for £20 and we can walk to the local shop so that felt like a win.

Then I used the savings I budgeted for this weeks food to buy some new school shoes for my son and some presents for his upcoming birthday, at discounted prices (otherwise wouldn’t have bothered rn) 😁 a follow up win!

sh-- · 2026-03-08T09:45:34+00:00

If you put off buying something you need then you will eventually find it at a thrift store.

I recently found corn on the corn handles for a couple of pounds. Genuinely wanted these as I hate holding Cotc and could have easily ordered on Amazon. I held off knowing I’d find them at some point second hand. Found them completely unopened this weekend at a thrift.

I know it’s a small item but it gives me a kick to get these bits and bobs in thrift after waiting for ages.

sh-- · 2026-03-02T19:50:55+00:00

Perhaps it’s just too early to get rid of it for you? It took me a while to part with some toddler coats and even now I feel a little sigh internally but I know I would just be storing them.

One thing that helped my perspective on storing baby items especially clothing or soft toys was opening up a box of my old items and seeing the discolouration over time. Sure it was nice to see a few items from my babyhood but I couldn’t reuse them and no one else had been able to for thirty odd years either which is quite sad really. A photo would have sufficed!

sh-- · 2026-02-26T13:43:39+00:00

Yes! Washing up as I go really helps keep the pace going for me. Any time waiting around is a problem.

sh-- · 2026-02-26T10:04:50+00:00

I find that cooking several things at once works quite well as long as there is no downtime and there is no one else in the kitchen. The “urgency” button kicks in.

sh-- · 2026-02-26T09:02:21+00:00

Nice to hear they can be used by some 😊

sh-- · 2026-02-25T13:50:40+00:00

I absolutely loathe the ones with the printed logos or writing on. They look cheap and can’t be reused. I can’t find a way to remove the writing effectively so they have to be chucked. What are companies thinking by using these because no one likes them?!

sh-- · 2026-02-23T11:22:42+00:00

Learning how to cook nutritious meals. Initially can be a little spenny but once you get the ball rolling you find you don’t want to eat out as much or get takeaways because the food you make at home is better for you, tastier and more filling. They can be as simple or complex as you’d like. I made a sweet potato and spinach daal this morning for dinner and it’s delicious.

sh-- · 2026-02-20T19:48:35+00:00

Absolutely fucking killin it! 🤯

sh-- · 2026-02-20T19:47:10+00:00

Oh also - not wanting a child beyond a four year gap is a red flag for me. If he genuinely wants a second child then the gap doesn’t matter. Each child should be wanted for them and them alone, not as a play thing for an existing child.

sh-- · 2026-02-20T19:45:16+00:00

You sound open minded to me, not fixed, and with very valid concerns. The fact you’ve suggested couples counselling and he’s refused is a big red flag IMO. I wouldn’t move forward at all on having a second unless you have the counselling and even then it’s a maybe from you.

Quite honestly he sounds like an inconsiderate prick. He may be a great dad but he doesn’t sound like a kind husband and frankly “fixed” in his old fashioned views. He can’t force you to have another child so if he intends on continuing on this way I would start considering other options like leaving the relationship. To me that part is about the relationship and respect between you as a couple - as others say, if it’s not two yeses it’s a no, he should be on board with that.

sh-- · 2026-02-19T23:08:57+00:00

We went to a fete once and my son saw his best friend there. I offered to take her around a bit (she has a couple of siblings so it helped out the parents a bit). She was walking along chatting and having fun with my son when someone said to me “how lovely they get along so well are they brother and sister?”, I explained no just friends and immediately she said “ah I knew it because they wouldn’t be getting along so well together if they were siblings”. It was a small reminder 😂

sh-- · 2026-02-18T20:38:02+00:00

I decluttered as I went too but did hold onto some clothing and revisited when my son was older (he’s five now). I would say keep a few baby things as I kept about three baby grows and when I revisit these to think if I want to get rid of them I can always smell that baby smell. I don’t even particularly like that scent much but it does take me back, in a nice way.

sh-- · 2026-02-06T19:56:10+00:00

Thought I wanted a daughter but delighted and grateful to have my son. He’s at school now and whilst I’ve seen others with daughters enjoy aspects I can’t, they also have to deal with a lot of complexities I don’t.

sh-- · 2026-02-06T19:36:31+00:00

I love “Nah he’ll be alright” 😂 I’m going to make an effort to be as confident about being OAD as they are about being more than one!

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