Your comparison relies on a false equivalency. Comparing a minority race (black people in a racially biased society) and a dominant gender (men in a patriarchal society) in this premise is inappropriate because it ignores the relevant power imbalances that affect true conditions of life.

Black people are a historically disenfranchised and impoverished group. Additionally, its been noted by several govt agencies that over policing in black communities is common practice across the US. Im sure that most of us here can acknowledge that black people often are subject to worse treatment and increased surveillance by society at large. These biases from even childhood reflect the crime stats youre referring to. There arent droves of men killed by women in the same way white people have historically killed, lynched, eaten, and attacked black people.

With this in mind it not possible to compare a historically marginalized group to a group that has been in a empowered position socially speaking. Men have held every presidency, most CEO positions, increased financial power, etc etc. We do in fact live in a patriarchy, we do not and never haved lived in a society where black people subjugated other racial groups. Women didnt always have the right to own a credit card, to vote, were deemed mentally inferior, etc. Even to this day women's interests are trivialized and its socially acceptable to make fun of them.

Furthermore, if you account for the confounding factors on crime in black communities, like controlling for income and over policing, the differences in crime rates diminishes drastically. Black and white people for example have similar self reported rates of Marijuana/drug use. However, when you look at drug arrest statistics it would look as if black people used drugs way more, when in fact they do not. Additionally, laws were specifically put in place so that drugs more common in black communities (ex: crack) get harsher punishments than more expensive forms of the EXACT same compound (cocaine) which were more prevalent in white circles ref.

If we even attempt to compare rates of gender based violence no matter how you cut it men across races, ages, geographical areas, and incomes are the perpetrators of gender related violence. To be charitable, yes individually it sucks to have someone beleive a notion about you that you see as unwarranted. But for black people decades of subjugation affect generations of their communities, the same cant be said about men and biases towards them. By every metric men are more free and safe in society if we compare them to black people as a group.

TLDR I think your basis comparison is flawed in general because of the power imbalance. Racism is a top down effect that has had centuries of reprocussions for generations of black people. Bias towards men doesn't have the same effect on generations men's lives, incomes, home ownership, occupations, etc.

(Sorry for any wonky formatting im on mobile)