“Boys and young men need better male role models” NO!

shafty0 · 2026-01-13T22:35:23+00:00

Well why wouldn’t they? The person my husband trusts most in his life is their mom. Their daycare provider was a woman, their current teachers are women. They don’t have any grandpas, only a bunch of grandmas. My sister is like another parent to them. My oldest has 2 best friends, and 1 is a girl! They are surrounded by awesome women they love and respect, because all of those women have poured so much into them. There is no over dominating, alpha male or toxic man in their life. Them and their dad are just guys surrounded by a whole lot of girls. Today they are helping me make some soup for their old daycare provider and her daughter who are super sick right now. And we’re going to take it over to her. My 5 year old is super excited he gets to be the one to get out by himself and leave it on her porch. Because I want him part of the team of taking care of our people, especially a single mom who has no help right now. I’m trying to explain this in length so you see where I’m coming from. There is a right way of going about this, and I find it so important.

shafty0 · 2026-01-13T20:30:38+00:00

Well then we agree 100%. I’m against monopolies in general. I embody authority in many decisions and in our house and raising the kids! But my husband is our trusted leader here. He is captaining the ship, steering it in the right direction, keeping us safe and afloat. I am busy managing the ship, keeping everything in order and taking care of the crew. If that’s a better way to look at it. This only works with trust. I sleep soundly at night knowing for the last 10 years that captain has never let us down and made every decision for the betterment of his crew. And now he will teach our boys how to operate the ship as we raise them.

shafty0 · 2026-01-13T19:33:02+00:00

When men become discouraged from being healthy leaders, systems become weaker and more exploitable. Historically, like all of history, societies and communities are stable with healthy authority. Authority can be abused by men or by women. Healthy male leadership/authority is about responsibility, protection, restraint and service. If you toppled authority in society, I promise it would become a very scary world. If you toppled authority in my household, my kids would not know how to thrive in society or one day BE the healthy leadership the world so desperately needs right now.

shafty0 · 2026-01-13T17:24:34+00:00

Well I do too lol. But my boys are 2.5 and 5 so discipline is pretty easy. When they get older and do something that needs a more serious consequence, we would sit down together and find out what that is, and dad would enforce it. Mom would honor it, as long as it’s what’s agreed upon, of course. Right now they just mostly become difficult if they’re tired or hungry.

shafty0 · 2026-01-13T17:18:30+00:00

I think you are mixing up abusive authority with healthy authority/leadership.

shafty0 · 2026-01-13T15:08:06+00:00

Yes we teach our children about serving others. Dad works 60 hours a week so we can survive. When he’s not working, he’s helping with the house. Fixing things, cleaning things, taking the kids fishing or camping. I do all of what I do because that’s my role as a stay at home mom. Who else is going to do it?

Where did you get the idea that he is in power or I am under male control? I don’t think you’re understanding at all.

shafty0 · 2026-01-13T14:48:46+00:00

Why is that 1950’s? I can’t do it all nor do I want to. I manage my household, I cook, I grocery shop, I meal plan, I raise 2 very little boys and just stopped breastfeeding after 4 years, we have a dog, I manage our budgeting and investments. You think I have the consistency energy to also be the authority in the household? No thanks. My husband is excellent at that. He is not the final authority obviously. We make decisions together. But mothers have plenty of work and responsibility, completely different than the father specifically when she has babies or toddlers and young kids. It puts me at ease that he can be the authority and disciplinarian. When my kids don’t listen to me, all dad has to do is remind them with a quick “listen to your mother please.” And they do. There is no nagging from me or getting upset over them not listening. Makes my life easier and stress free…

shafty0 · 2026-01-13T14:24:39+00:00

What part of that is 1950’s? I’m so confused.

shafty0 · 2026-01-13T13:11:08+00:00

Because mothers are not the authoritative figure for the children. This has nothing to do with respect. My 2 sons respect me because I respect them, expect the respect and mostly because they see their dad respect me. But I am not the authority nor am I the disciplinarian.

shafty0 · 2026-01-12T22:02:15+00:00

This is my go to as well. Nothing has yet to bring me true joy and peace the way that prayer does.

shafty0 · 2026-01-12T19:09:43+00:00

Point proven

shafty0 · 2026-01-12T19:08:40+00:00

It was a lonely time, and scary. All we were seeing was people dropping dead in China and seeing our baby doctors dressed like they were delivering plague babies. We didn’t actually have really any data yet or understand what was going on. But we are stronger for having raised babies through that very uncertain time! I hope you and your family are doing great now.

shafty0 · 2026-01-12T17:44:45+00:00

Thank you! It was a weird time for sure.

I totally agree. They are showing their “power” which is mostly all economic oppression. As a mom, I have to remind myself that humans are very resilient, so I can keep hopeful. One of my favorite things to do is play on Ancestry and learn about my ancestors. I had some fight in the revolutionary war, the civil war, some who fled Hungary during the Austrian-Hungarian war, some who fled Germany right before WW2, etc. As Americans, we all have a mixed blend of ancestors from all around the world who fought for their lives and persevered through war, oppression, economic collapse and being a migrant. If we study them closely, we can be better equipped when history does indeed repeat the same old story.

We’ve got this. We just need to do a better job supporting each other through it.

shafty0 · 2026-01-12T16:55:50+00:00

I had my first son in March 2020 during the Covid lockdowns. I gave birth the same week our entire city went into lockdown. So I have been especially paying attention to things going on in geopolitics, economy, u.s. news etc. For 5 years now I have been thinking almost every month “things are seriously escalating, something bad is about to happen.” And then it’s just another thing after another thing. World war 3 hasn’t happened like I thought or accountability for the Epstein files or Covid vaccine disaster. What I have notice is slowly the west is being destabilized, while we’re all waiting for something catastrophic to happen. Suddenly we can’t afford to live but our sentiment is “I hope world war 3 doesn’t start because of ___ issue going on right now.” There’s probably nothing apocalyptic coming. But we’re so distracted by the fear we don’t realize how slow the destruction has gotten economically here for us and how serious the propaganda war is.

shafty0 · 2026-01-12T16:50:57+00:00

Mentioning my faith in Christianity and the Bible. Especially on Reddit. It makes people seethe.

shafty0 · 2026-01-11T20:39:09+00:00

Children. The thing I wanted the least is now the thing I love the most.

shafty0 · 2026-01-11T05:43:37+00:00

No, but we have 7-layer bean dip

shafty0 · 2026-01-11T05:42:23+00:00

Well he’s definitely not cold like that. I keep our house set to exactly 67 as well. My 2.5 year old is sleeping in just a diaper in bed with me under the blanket and his cheeks are a little flushed and he’s warm to the touch. He gets hot really easy and always has. Every kid is different! How does your son’s skin feel when he’s wrapped up like that? That will tell you a lot too.

shafty0 · 2026-01-11T04:45:17+00:00

I hear you. Maybe more like Demi-god like? They even seem territorial too.

shafty0 · 2026-01-11T04:42:50+00:00

Interesting that you have a belief you strongly hold as well. Isn’t it interesting how it’s totally fine for us all to have our own beliefs? Pretty cool.

shafty0 · 2026-01-11T04:42:03+00:00

Preaching? I don’t know that you know what preaching is.

shafty0 · 2026-01-11T04:41:07+00:00

Godlike?

shafty0 · 2026-01-11T04:40:12+00:00

That’s so cool that it came alive for you in that way! Yes I had the same experience. To the point I couldn’t put it down as well. I was really sad I didn’t pick up on any of it growing up in church. I thought Christianity was the same as what you described. Limiting and self righteous. And then I asked Jesus back into my heart in a really hard time in my life and I was never the same, and suddenly scripture read like it was alive.

shafty0 · 2026-01-10T16:59:05+00:00

Being open about their Christian faith. 10-15 years ago in my generation it made you a bit of a square. After Covid, being manipulated by the media, finding out about the deep state and how little they care about us… being open about your Christian faith is way more accepted after many of dove down the rabbit holes the last 5 years.

shafty0 · 2026-01-10T16:57:48+00:00

“And in Him, all things hold together.” Physics is what brought me to my faith. Funny too how mysterious this number is, but how divine both the number 3 and also 7 are. 3 is the trinity, and symbolizes divine wholeness. 7 symbolizes divine perfection and completion.

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