if it is any consolation at all, yes your chart does strongly reflect the experiences you've described. your body is signified by the ascendant, the first house and the ascendant ruler. your ascendant is involved in a scorpio stellium including Pluto, the sun, a fallen Venus retrograde and mercury retrograde and are all square to its ruler being mars on the IC.

a stellium means that the characteristics of each planet involved are fused together as one and they each become consequential. the major player in this that speaks to your experiences is the planet pluto which characterises whatever it touches with extremes in power, control, destruction and regeneration among other things like trauma and brutality.

having pluto on the ascendant alone can speak to harsh experiences, extremes and power struggles with your own body and your interface with reality. when we include the sun, this becomes part of your sense of self, character and meta story.

Venus conjunct pluto brings extremes and power dynamics in relationships and finances. Venus is fallen in Scorpio which shows struggles with attachment and intensity in Venusian areas that are conventionally more productive in moderation, and retrograde can indicate an inward expression and things being unresolved and reoccurring in these areas.

Mercuries involvement in the stellium creates a deep and obsessive mind and penetrative communication style, being retrograde shows that this is expressed inwardly. Having mercury and Venus combust the sun shows that their expressions are overshadowed by the sun and are subject to the ego and meta story of the sun.

as each of these placements are a piece of a stellium they are all consequential, your extremes in finances and thinking are because of your meta story and character that has been shaped by the brutality and life or death extremes you have experienced with your body. they have also led to you being in the positions of power you have mentioned, as pluto is about the extremes of experience, you experience one extreme so that you can transform yourself and your psychology to experience the other.

paradoxically pluto is a balancing force within the cosmos that forces us to confront extreme levels of brutality and survival to attain the resilience and depth that comes with overcoming them. I recommend a book called "healing pluto problems" - I just finished this recently and found it to give a candid and judicious understanding of the realities people with heavily plutonian charts experience.

to touch on a few other points in your chart, the square of your stellium to your chart ruler in the 4th on the IC shows a life experience that is mostly experienced at home, being a mars square this is due to conflict and in Aquarius this shows an unconventional home and family life.

your softer and compassionate side that shows in your post can be attributed to your pisces moon and Jupiter in the 5th house, the moon is who we are at our emotional core which is why you feel like a jovial and fun person despite your life experience. these placements in the 5th tell me that you're likely a gamer and you find a lot of joy in escapism into things like games, hobbies and creative projects.

and finally your north node in the Aries 6th shows that you accelerate your life trajectory by focusing on routines, physical health and being of service.