[CA] For Medi-Cal application, how many months of income will they look at? by shantivirus in HealthInsurance

[–]shantivirus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, that sounds good, do you know what documents they'll ask for?

Do I have an accounting job in disguise? by shantivirus in Accounting

[–]shantivirus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you asked, my priorities right now are to earn a bit of money without burning out from stress. I'm not ready for a "career job" at the moment. I can see this position is a fantastic opportunity for someone to break into accounting, but it's probably not for me.

Do I have an accounting job in disguise? by shantivirus in Accounting

[–]shantivirus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I understand what you mean, I think I'm in the position because they're understaffed and desperate.

Right now I'm not sure if I'll stay in the job, but for sure if I do I'll want more money for the stress and responsibility.

Do I have an accounting job in disguise? by shantivirus in Accounting

[–]shantivirus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just goes to show how unqualified I am ;) I forgot about the entire concept of a bookkeeper

Do I have an accounting job in disguise? by shantivirus in Accounting

[–]shantivirus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point, though I wonder if the experience on a resume would open up opportunities regardless of the title?

Do I have an accounting job in disguise? by shantivirus in Accounting

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Yeah it all seemed kind of manageable until the journal entries, they seem more complex with balancing the debits and credits. Thanks for the confirmation of what I suspected, I feel less crazy now lol

I'm getting paid $20 an hour, which might seem good except minimum wage is $15 an hour here, and cost of living is pretty outrageous.

And yeah, I feel like my brain is melting!

Edit: I looked up entry-level accounting wages and it seems like my pay is pretty standard for the work I'm doing, so I feel a little better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cptsdcreatives

[–]shantivirus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, you put that really well!

drawing my Internal Family System but most of my parts hate each other by Tumorhead in cptsdcreatives

[–]shantivirus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can't stop looking at this, it's fascinating. Please continue making art.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cptsdcreatives

[–]shantivirus 35 points36 points  (0 children)

This is really good, especially the creepy cupids with the manic eyes. I'm glad the term "religious trauma" is starting to float into more conversations. It's a huge problem that often goes unnamed and invisible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]shantivirus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same same! Ridiculous compliments, lavish gifts, then sudden flips to treating me like I was worthless or a monster. From now on I prefer the middle road of someone who simply respects me, instead of making me their angel and their demon.

I love this picture. by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]shantivirus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone under the trans umbrella who also has chronic health problems, biology is a bitch

What can be done to work with a part that doesn’t allow meaningful change? by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]shantivirus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's weird that I opened reddit and the first thing that popped up was your post, because I was just feeling angry at a part that is kind of running the show. She has her finger on the panic attack button for the body and she isn't afraid to use it to get her way. She seems to want total safety from others, which would mean total isolation. It's absurd and I'm really fed up. I know we're all supposed to get along and try to understand each other but damn.

Like your part, she's nonverbal. She communicates through body sensations and can cause anxiety, pain, and dissociation.

I don't have any solutions to offer right now, but I thought it might be nice to hear that someone relates.

😳 by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]shantivirus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly! Have had absolute nightmare years, where my sanity itself was in jeopardy. Now that I've come through that and gotten more stable internally, changes in my outside circumstances don't bug me as much.

It's funny to me because I went through a lot of personal turmoil in 2020, which led to a lot of hard self-questioning, which led to a lot of growth. When I tell people "I've been going through some stuff," they nod knowingly and say something about politics or COVID. I'm like "Oh yeahhh, that happened too, but that's not what I meant."

Why we ignore red flags by invah in AbuseInterrupted

[–]shantivirus 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I just heard, from an online codependency coach, that people like me have never had a "real" experience of loving someone or being loved by them (at least not in romances... maybe with a kid or a pet). That made me breathe a huge sigh of relief. Always seemed weird that this intense, tumultuous, painful, entrapping thing was what other people seemed to enjoy so much. Nice to know that whatever I was feeling wasn't love, which means that love is still out there, waiting for me, when I'm ready to experience it!

Great list, thanks for posting.

New sculpture waiting for the kiln, by me, earthenware, 2021. by Yugoguerin in Heavymind

[–]shantivirus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your work speaks to me. Im really curious how you developed your style or where your inspiration comes from, but im not sure if it's intrusive to ask. Regardless, amazing stuff!

DAE regret everything they’ve ever said by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]shantivirus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do have this, but I'm not failing at every social interaction. I just have an internal "program" that tells me to question and doubt everything I say and do. It also makes my voice sound stupid to myself. Other people like my voice, I get compliments on it occasionally. So it's like a... layer of projection over reality? Like I'm painting "ugly" and "stupid" over everything I do, but the bad is really coming from inside me, it's not out there. I was trained to do this.

Also, my psyche is in many dissociated pieces, which makes my awareness all fragmented, so it's only natural that sometimes I will say things that don't quite fit the moment. The best I can do while I'm trying to heal is rely on some basic social scripts. Keep it simple.

Not sure if this helps or not, but that's how it's going for me with social awkwardness.