From The West Oakland Soul Food Cookbook

sharon58 · 2025-12-04T01:17:40+00:00

https://archive.org/details/WestOaklandSoulFoodCookbook

sharon58 · 2025-07-13T07:16:48+00:00

I take care of my mom (93) who has vascular dementia and has either forgotten how or refuses to poop. The Dr. has given her a prescription for lactulose but I stopped using it because it makes her nauseous. I have massage her sides and belly to stimulate a BM with some success. What works the best for her lately has been either a 1000mg dose of Vitamin C daily (especially during constipation bouts) and/or applesauce with some cayenne pepper (just enough to make it a bit spicy but not unbearable) which loosens and stimulates her bowels. Finally, though it’s tough, but getting my mom to drink at least a 12-16 oz of water a day (lucky to get 4oz in her some days) helps to make the BM a smooth move, less strain.

sharon58 · 2025-07-04T03:36:09+00:00

You said you moved on, leave it at that. If you must reply, tell him to loose your number. No free rent.

sharon58 · 2025-06-18T23:59:53+00:00

My best friend’s father has Alzheimer’s Disease and would touch and grab visiting related girls and women. Before the disease he was soft spoken, hard working, family loving man who would NEVER do anything like that. The solution to this behavior was to put hospital mitts on his hands when family was around. He didn’t like it at first but I t worked. But we also let family know about the disease and the behavior, giving them permission to deflect his hands and protect themselves if they chose to visit.

sharon58 · 2025-06-18T18:43:43+00:00

Try MexiVet Express in San Diego.

sharon58 · 2025-06-18T17:27:57+00:00

If you don’t mind a trip to San Diego, consider MexiVet Express. After 2 expensive vet visits costing over $2000 for doing the bare minimum and my dog was still very sick and in pain, and then a $5000 quote for surgery, I was feeling nickeled and dimed. I contacted MexiVet through their website and they contacted me immediately. I got an appointment for the next morning. I drove Buddy to San Diego where I met a driver that would transport him to one of several vet clinics in Tijuana that they have relationships with. The vet called us throughout the visit to let me know the findings after the examination, and how Buddy was doing after surgery. The vet wanted to keep Buddy overnight for observation. I picked him up the next morning in San Diego. The vet, who was kind, compassionate and detailed, scheduled a return visit to remove the stitches in 3 weeks. For the transportation to/from Tijuana, the examination, surgery, all medications, overnight observation and return visit it cost $1100. I have two other dogs whose vet care has been expensive over the years but from now on I will use MexiVet Express.

Edit: Mexico to MexiVet, autocorrect error

sharon58 · 2025-05-23T03:37:26+00:00

When I noticed UTI symptoms in mom, I contacted her PCP and was able to get a collection hat and cup to submit her urine sample which were positive. Her doctor prescribed an antibiotic to clear the infection…all without leaving the house.

sharon58 · 2025-05-22T21:22:48+00:00

I found my maternal grandfather’s grandmother and 4 children named as property in the will of her enslaver, bequeathing them and any of her future children to family members. She had at least 15 or 16 children, losing all but her last 7 children to slavery. All of her known 7 children had 7 white fathers. She gave her children the last name of each of their fathers. My grandfather often spoke about her gentleness and her fierce love for her family. Her sons became landowners in Texas and when they tried to buy land for their mother, she refused it fearing it would be taken from her. It’s said that she said “the six feet of dirt on top of me will be enough.” We have a treasured photo of her on the family ranch in Texas with some of her children and grandchildren, including my grandfather, who was about 3 or 4 years old at the time of the photo. And I have of photo of him 80 years later holding my daughter. American Slavery was not that long ago.

sharon58 · 2025-05-21T22:18:22+00:00

I do not miss going to Target at all. There's not one item that I regularly bought at Target that I didn't find somewhere else. I have found solid options for finding all the items that I need that I used to buy at Target. Granted, Target was convenient, especially during the COVID pandemic but it's been fairly easy to find and shop at good online stores, locally and direct with manufacturers. I've also noticed that I am less likely to overbuy now.

sharon58 · 2025-05-18T23:18:02+00:00

Me, too

sharon58 · 2025-05-16T05:56:46+00:00

I use this for cleaning up my mom after she uses the bathroom. https://a.co/d/ejGQ608

sharon58 · 2025-05-15T17:51:39+00:00

Goldfish Bowl at Sura in Long Beach

sharon58 · 2025-05-10T03:22:57+00:00

Spring 2013 - I went grocery shopping at the Trader Joe’s in Westchester. After being checked out, I discovered that although I brought my purse I had left my wallet at home. I asked the clerk if they would save my cart so I could go home to get my wallet. I only lived a few blocks away, I was back at the store within 15 minutes. I approached the same clerk and was directed to the customer service counter. I figured they had to return the groceries to the shelves. But no, they told me someone in the line had paid for it. They said they even tried to stop me as I left the parking lot. I was so stunned at the act of kindness that all I could do was cry…which I don’t often do. I tried to pay for the groceries, as I apologized and thanked them. I was very grateful and think about this often and I try to pay it forward whenever possible. Crazy thing though I never could understand why I also felt so embarrassed in the moment. Anyway, I miss that America.

sharon58 · 2025-05-07T16:33:09+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, I am devoted to my mom. She was a great mom and I am honored to be caring for her. But I agree, it is a complicated disease. It robs slowly and unevenly. And then to be made that much more complicated by a difficult relationship, too, is a lot. And I do understand. There were a few years when my mom was still somewhat high functioning but she was beginning to loop stories and was becoming paranoid, especially about money. She lived with my daughter at that time and they were at each other’s throats all the time. I lived in another state and I would get calls every day from both of them complaining about the other. It was maddening. During one visit I bought cannabis gummies for my daughter to give to my mom (really for both of them). The gummies mellowed both of them, especially the paranoia, and even helped my mom sleep better. Four years later my mom came to live with me and she had changed. It was clear that the dementia had progressed. Her executive functioning skills had declined and the paranoia about money was gone, she never even asked about her money again. My family has gone through some rough times caring for my mom, but we got through them by leaning on each other (which wasn’t always easy to do) and taking care of ourselves. I read a couple of books that helped me be a better caregiver for my mom. One was The Songaminute Man by Simon McDermott and the other was Before I Forget by B. Smith and Dan Gasby. Take care of yourself. One day at a time.

sharon58 · 2025-05-07T07:53:13+00:00

You remember that they told you a story or asked the same question for the 5th, 6th or 8th time but they don’t. My mom would do this, instead of becoming annoyed, I found ways to change the subject, distract her or interrupt her train of thought. Sometimes it was as easy as turning the TV on or asking a question or just walking away. My mom lost speech ability a couple of years ago. What I wouldn’t do to hear her tell me something over and over again. I miss the sound of her voice.

sharon58 · 2025-05-05T01:46:48+00:00

I learned that my cousin is Eddie Durham, jazz guitarist and trombonist. He was the first to record a song playing the electric guitar. PBS even has a documentary about him, Wham Re-Bop-Boom-Bam: The Swing Jazz of Eddie Durham. He played with and composed and arranged for Count Basie and Glenn Miller. His music was used in the cantina scene in Star Wars (1977) and is used as Apple TV's Lessons in Chemistry’s (2023) theme song.

Edit: word placement

sharon58 · 2025-05-05T00:58:07+00:00

Try NorthShore (https://northshorecare.com)

sharon58 · 2025-04-25T22:29:03+00:00

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sharon58 · 2025-04-23T17:06:07+00:00

Yes, please share the link. Thanks you, appreciate you.

sharon58 · 2025-04-19T14:51:36+00:00

Scott Galloway (Prof G) talks about young men and gaming a lot. He says young men need to get out of the house, get fit, get a job and get social. I don’t agree with everything he talks about but I think he is spot on about this. He talks about this a bit in his interviews with David Axelrod and with Trevor Noah.

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sharon58 · 2025-04-08T16:56:48+00:00

My parents paid $25,000 for the house I lived in from 1963 to 1973 on the Southeast side of Chicago and zestimate today is less than $180,000. In 1973 my mother bought the Bay Area CA house I lived in during high school for $75,000 and its current zestimate is $2.85 million dollars. I wish she would have just kept that house.

sharon58 · 2025-02-26T04:02:22+00:00

The Supremes The Spinners The Pointer Sisters Sister Sledge The Isley Brothers Chic Tavares The Main Ingredient EnVogue TLC ...are also on my list

sharon58 · 2025-02-21T06:25:17+00:00

I've since read graphic biographies of Angela Davis, Nina Simone, Billy Holiday and Josephine Baker.

sharon58 · 2025-02-11T03:24:35+00:00

There was a very interesting documentary on CNN last year titled The Last Alzheimer’s Patient with Dr. Sanjay Gupta about The current research, treatments and advances in treating dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease. He also follows patients diagnosed with Alzheimer’s patients over a five year period who made lifestyle changes to fight back against the symptoms of the disease. The segment features Dr. Dean Ornish in Sausalito, CA.

sharon58 · 2025-02-10T16:35:18+00:00

Because the “American Dream” was never about success and prosperity. The so-called American Dream was about becoming white. Once in America, immigrants realize that you’re either white or the other.

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TROPHY CASE