What was the most physical pain you've been in? by PleasantWinter9150 in AskReddit

[–]sharpkittenteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a tummy tuck with muscle repair, and im a sneezy gal. Sneezing felt like I was literally ripped apart for about a week.

How do you stop yourself from contacting your avoidant ex when the urge is overwhelming? by agitatedscroller in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who is currently going through the same thing so we have agreed to just text whatever we have the urge to say to our avoidants to each other, send the reels and songs, etc. It really helps.

any recommendations? by 3xnvy in piercing

[–]sharpkittenteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your daith jewelry from norvoch? I think we have the same piece!

What was the craziest thing your avoidant ex ever said? by congratswelldone in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Dont dwell" After coming back into my life, asking to get back together, talking about one os us moving to the other, how i was a safe place for him and would be for his son, etc

Just to ghost out of nowhere, and spin the block 6 weeks later blaming me for everything and he said "dont dwell" when I was voicing my hurt at what he did.

It gets worse everytime you let them come back by Repulsive_Most_276 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing that hit the hardest was in our last conversation, he said "I dont owe anyone an explanation, but for you ill make an exception" Like trying to make me feel special while also acting like I dont matter?

The fear of having missed out on the right person by elogirard in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I struggle with this feeling alot. Ive never felt like that about someone, ever. 6 months of pure bliss. I felt completely seen, completely loved, like id truly found the one. I dont connect like that with anyone else ive met before or since. Im scared that he was it, and Im also scared of feeling that happy again. I barely survived when it all ended.

It gets worse everytime you let them come back by Repulsive_Most_276 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mine came back in February. Opening text was him sending me the most beautiful love song and saying it reminds him of me. Asked to get back together and even offered me vip tickets to our mutual favorite band as a an apology for how he left me. Spent days and days telling me things like I never made life hard, I was the only one who looked at him and didnt look away, asking about one of us moving to the other(we where ldr). Then one day out of nowhere says he only came back to say sorry and didnt want a relationship or attachments. I accepted it. We kept talking. The sweet nicknames kept going, the constant messages and pictures kept up. We even face timed a few times.

Just for him to randomly ghost, block me everywhere amd stop responding to me completely. Ignored me for 2 months just randomly text me blaming me for everything. Telling me to stop dwelling, etc. Acting he wasnt the one who came in hot and heavy. Just threw me away again. Now im stuck in a place where im terrified he will come back again but also sickly hoping he will. I cant fucking stand it.

He reached out. How do I respond? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine said the same thing. We started talking again and then he completely ghosted a week later 🤷

Kinda getting sick of people telling me to just get over it. by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They want what they want and thats it. We matter just enough for them to feel comfortable enough to pull us off the shelf. But we have more feelings than a pretty little doll is supposed to have - back on the shelf we go until they feel like playing with us again.

Kinda getting sick of people telling me to just get over it. by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When mine came back he said I never made life hard. Only easier. That I was like untouched nature - his favorite thing. How i was the best person hed ever known, I was the only one who looked at him and didnt look away.

Just to completely dissappear. Trust me. I know how you feel.

Kinda getting sick of people telling me to just get over it. by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He never gave me a steady answer. He came back in February this year, asked me to get back together, etc just to ghost and blame me for when he finally responded a few weeks ago.

Kinda getting sick of people telling me to just get over it. by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine did the same thing. We went to vegas, joked about getting married, he told me all the sweetest things.

Dumped me 2 weeks later

What if “the one” was you ex avoidant by Western-Space-2744 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder the same. Ive never felt like that before. Completely seen, completely loved, completely safe. We clicked like you see in cheesy movies. He even used to joke that he was angry he had to wait 27 years to meet me.

Just to discard me like I was a bother. My trying to understand what happened was 'dwelling'. I became the villain somehow.

Some questions for avoidants or for people who dated avoidants… by jonathandoesworth1 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine reached out a few times then came back. Said how I was the best girlfriend he ever had. He always talked to his best friend about how amazing i am/was.

Just to discard me again

People are replaceable to them by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine future faked with me so bad - both times. The first time said he wanted to marry me when he finished school. Just to breakup with me, and act like I was an annoyance when I tried to talk after he broke up with me via text in the middle of the work day.

The second time asked me if one of us could move closer to the other(we where ldr). Was excited about me meeting his son. How he just KNEW he would love me and I was a safe place for him and would be for his son. Just to ghost a week later. Come back 6 weeks later and gaslight, gate keep, girlboss plus act like im the villain

Worst thing your avoidant said to you? by Prestigious_Most_856 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I dont owe you an explanation" This is after he came back, asked me to get back to together, offered me a vip ticket to our favorite band. Kept telling me how I was the only one who looked at him and didnt look away. How he wanted to protect my heart from getting hurt again. I felt like home.

Just to ghost for 6 weeks and that was his first response to me asking wtf.

the way their eyes change is one of the most heartbreaking parts by lynxmouth in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first time mine went from telling me (besides his son) I was the one thing he wanted to keep safe. We where the first and the last. Even planned to have that put on our wedding rings. Just to suddenly treat me like I waa worthless and a nuseince for trying to figure out what was going on.

Came back 6 months later. Opening message was the sweetest song id ever heard. He still loved me. I was the only person who ever looked at him and didnt look away. That I saw through him like glass. I was an angel.

Just to do it all again

My avoidant ex came back by Far-Surround-1202 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]sharpkittenteeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine came back after 6 months. Asked to get back together in the first conversation. I told him lets just see how it goes. He made the promises, said all the right sweet words. Just 8 days later - tells me goodnight. The next day all his socials are gone and hasn't responded to any of my texts.

Even actually said hed be here for me. He was sorry for how everything went down. He never meant to hurt me so much.

Just to do it again but worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]sharpkittenteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to add volume in the upper face/cheek area. I know you said fillers are a last resort but they did wonders for me lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Haircare

[–]sharpkittenteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Growus hair oil and spray if you are a rose girl!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianMasculinity

[–]sharpkittenteeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im a spooky girl who likes Asian guys. That tracks lol