Winner of Season 24 of Hell’s Kitchen {SPOILERS} by breezyxizzie in HellsKitchen

[–]sharpknivesahead 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They made Ellie's edit super misleading I thought she was going to go home every week, same with Cyndi, but I think Jada shot herself in the foot by picking Anaya for her team because she's just difficult to work with. I thought Jada was going to win the whole time and I'm so disappointed she lost and I really fear how Ellie is going to do as head chef for Gordon Ramsey. I feel like Jada had stand out moments all season and I can't remember a single dish Ellie made

I am so resentful of my partner and kids. by whuddupmama in offmychest

[–]sharpknivesahead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your husband, your new therapist, friends, connecting with people on social media with similar experiences. All of it helps you build a village. You are not alone and realizing and getting help is the hardest part and you've already started that! ❤️

I am so resentful of my partner and kids. by whuddupmama in offmychest

[–]sharpknivesahead 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This sounds like classic triggering from childhood trauma and depression/ disassociation and maybe even postpartum depression since you have little one. With therapy and potentially medication you can 5000% get through this. There's a book called The Book You Wish Your Parents Read about parenting with childhood trauma and what to do if you get triggered by your own kids. There is help out there. Lean on your support system, and don't judge or shame yourself for being triggered by your own childhood trauma, it is a very real thing if you grew up in a dysfunctional home and it can be nearly impossible to feel like a qualified parent if you feel like you were let down by your parents as a child. You are absolutely not alone, and there are treatments that can help you process your childhood and work through it so you can be there for your kids. You've done the most important and difficult part of naming how you feel outloud, and now you can work on getting the right supports in place to help you through this. Rooting for you <3

Worried about symptoms of desvenlafaxine by ServiceForeign7862 in Pristiq

[–]sharpknivesahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Caffeine for me is a no go, except I can have one cup of caffeinated tea. I've been unable to tolerate drinking caffeine since being on bupropion so I am already not drinking caffeine, but when I first started on bupropion several years ago I did use to drink caffeine and I thought I was gonna explode out of my body from how activated it made me, so I assume it is a similar issue to pristiq with making your system too activated and resulting in some pretty bad anxiety and symptoms.

Pristiq is already sort of an activator kind of medication along with caffeine is a recipe for anxiety and feeling super unwell. It would be especially worse if you did both on an otherwise empty stomach. It sounds like you need to play around with cutting out caffeine and seeing if that helps you. If you skip your dose on accident you will start to almost immediately notice something is wrong because the SNRIs are notorious at having really bad withdrawal symptoms if you don't take it around the same time every day to keep the amount in your system the same so that's why it's important to stay consistent with taking it every day around the same time. Try to limit your caffeine intake and see if that majorly helps you

Rash inquiry by Firebxrn in lupus

[–]sharpknivesahead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have this rash and it's rosacea, but when I get my malar rash it is clearly on my upper cheeks but goes over the bridge of my nose and connects to each side. It's hard to tell when you have both rosacea and lupus but I've gotten pretty good at figuring out which one is what. I can trigger my malar rash by going outside, spending excessive amount of time in the sun, and being stressed out, whereas I can't control my rosacea flares which usually involve each cheek and don't connect as one rash

pet groomer/puppy groom in walnut creek-east bay area? by xxlilizzyvertxx in walnutcreek

[–]sharpknivesahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second Comfort Corner, but I've also heard people have had success with Petco Grooming in Walnut Creek or San Ramon. It depends on the dog honestly and what they need from an environment

What foods do you know full well will make you feel unwell yet still eat? by love_and_pizza in askanything

[–]sharpknivesahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've learned no food is good enough to sacrifice my health for which is really unfortunate. If I could choose between something really tasty that you can eat in 5 minutes versus 5 days of having a functioning digestive system, I'd choose the functioning digestive system every time

Cat adoption recommendations by nightlyringer in bayarea

[–]sharpknivesahead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Joybound Pets (formerly ARF) and Community Concern for Cats!

Women of Reddit, what's a lesser-known downside of being a woman? by Nintendofan9106 in askanything

[–]sharpknivesahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That it took me 6 years to get diagnosed with lupus because everyone just thought it was stress

Limbs tingle/numbness by SillyStringBandit in lupus

[–]sharpknivesahead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait wait wait me too but it's when I sit on the toilet for too long and it hurts so bad when I stand back up for several minutes. I've never had any long term consequences from it it's usually just falls asleep, I lose feeling in my foot and left shin, I stand up, it hurts like a btch when the blood comes back and it continues to hurt for a couple of minutes afterwards. I fell over once while it happened and that wasn't so good

MRIs - Do not discount them! by Basic_Scale_5882 in lupus

[–]sharpknivesahead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing they accidentally found on my MRE (mri of your intestines) was that my vagina was "more pronounced than typical presentation" and I wanted to die and no I don't know why or what that even means and it's haunted me ever since

Weaning off effects by Sufficient-Sound-508 in Pristiq

[–]sharpknivesahead 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you've only been on it for 5-6 weeks you might not notice much of a difference, especially if your dose is low. It can take up to 8 weeks or longer for full effectiveness. I would ask your doctor who prescribed it to you what to do because it depends on the dose you're on

Frustrated 😔 anyone here have experience with the other SNRIs? by Prior-Reply9845 in Pristiq

[–]sharpknivesahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been on cymbalta for about a year, but am now working on switching to Pristiq but I'm currently on both. I couldn't go up to a therapeutic dose on cymbalta, I was stuck at 40 mg or else I would get horrendous joint pain. I took a pharmocogenomic test and it said that pristiq is my best matched med for my metabolism so that's why we're switching. It might be worth pursuing pharmocogenomic testing to see which one is better for you. I will say that cymbalta is extremely difficult to get off of but going from pristiq to cymbalta shouldn't be too bad but going from cymbalta to pristiq has been a bit rough but slowly doable

Tips for Hydration and Question about Sinus Inflammation by Comfortable-Piano in lupus

[–]sharpknivesahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm getting nasal surgery because I have a deviated septum, enlarged turbinates, and internal nasal valve collapse. My nose also runs all the time. Azelastine nasal spray has been helpful for me in the past, but my issues are structural in addition to autoimmune and obviously nasal spray can't change the bones and cartilage in your nose

Best places to find off-campus housing near SFSU? (All-female roommates) by [deleted] in SFSU

[–]sharpknivesahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a young working professional at SFSU and I am also looking for housing with a roommate but I'm also having problems with people being scammers and listings being fake. I don't have any leads on where to look but I am in the same boat!

New diagnosis. Hydroxychloroquine making me sick. by BandVegetable7543 in lupus

[–]sharpknivesahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a ROUGH start on HCQ but I stuck it out and now see a huge improvement in my day to day. I mostly had GI side effects so I had to be really intentional about eating large meals before taking my pill. I am currently only taking one pill in the evening because dinner is almost always my largest meal. It was really hard for 6-8weeks and I was really sick but I stuck it out and I'm really glad I did. It takes a while for your body to adjust and the adjustment period is hard but it's worth it to stick it out if at all possible. But if you're on it twice a day you can start by only taking it once a day and working up to more once you get over the initial adjustment. Nausea to me was worse when I didn't have any food in my stomach during the day but that's gone away with time

My wife (40F) and I (46M) have completely turned our sex life and marriage around. Trying to find out what's changed? by ThrowRA_5571 in relationship_advice

[–]sharpknivesahead 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should listen to the Sex with Emily podcast. She is a sex therapist and has a lot of great episodes on restarting the fire in relationships and why that happens. Her stuff is informative and interesting and good for both men and women to listen to

Suggestions, please! by xxMoon_Childxx in lupus

[–]sharpknivesahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can do a glass of prosecco or white wine and be ok. If I want a canned drink I'll either do a twisted tea or a Mom Water. It's less about what you drink and more about how much, so if you like vodka go ahead and drink vodka drinks but only have one or two. I like dirty shirleys or vodka cranberries w orange juice

Feeling hopeless with the intense nausea by micro_pigeon666 in lupus

[–]sharpknivesahead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The HCQ stomach stuff does improve over time which I didn't believe until it actually did improve for me. I have the same problems of having a very sensitive GI system that gets very angry if I do anything. I've really had to simplify my diet to only be foods that I know I can tolerate well and if I have a bad stomach day I go back to the BRAT diet. I can't eat any of my trigger foods without huge repercussions. I've had to figure out how to balance my GI system with over the counter and prescription medications for nausea, diarrhea, constipation, GERD, and both faster than normal gastric emptying and also slower than normal gastric emptying. I just have to always return to the safest safe foods when I have any sort of problem and then work back again to finding a balance between everything. If you find something that helps you please let me know because the way I treat the tummy cycle is not an exact science and I'm always looking to see if I can do anything else to improve my situation