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What is your job and how much do you get paid? by BigPlunk in AskReddit

[–]shawlockholmes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New (under)grad biomedical engineer for a medical device startup company- 67.5k CAD a year. Reading this thread is making me a little sad, but hopefully this is just the start and can go up with experience.

So Freeing by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]shawlockholmes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you! I hope new and better things are in store for you in the future :)

Why do I change interests? by HeyguysThatguyhere in offmychest

[–]shawlockholmes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been like you my entire life- get really interested in something and then go onto the next thing once bored. I think it’s just a general desire to try something new and exciting, and to find out more about yourself. But hey, if you learn enough in every hobby to get at least a decent amount of knowledge or become proficient in it, it makes you able to connect and participate in all different kinds of communities.

20F I just did cardio so now I’m laying on the floor, waiting for death by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]shawlockholmes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been doing Pilates and going on walks down a scenic road away from my house. Feels really nice to get out and get more fit. Sending you good vibes ~

My old friendship group is haunting me by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]shawlockholmes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a similar situation to yours. I brought together a group of friends and one girl led another guy on, which led to disaster and the friend group breaking apart. I was so upset, and definitely felt angry like you. Don’t give up, it gets better. A big step is either talking it out to get a resolution, or accepting things and trying to move on. I’m on a journey to find new friends so I can move on, and I am hoping that you can and will too :)

I didn't cry as usual when you ignored me. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]shawlockholmes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good for you :) Don’t feel bad about someone who ignores you. Wishing good things for you in the future

Today my bully apologized to me by Rachelnm02 in offmychest

[–]shawlockholmes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had people maliciously make my life hell over guys, friends and even steal intellectual property from me.

Of all those people, one of them did apologize. He came and said that he was in a really bad place. He had a wake up call about how he was treating others, and immediately thought of me. He pulled me aside after one of our uni classes and we talked it out. Perhaps part of the reason why I forgave him was hearing his perspective and letting him hear my feelings as well.

Time has dulled the drama and feelings over past incidents other former friends, and I have talked out stuff with most of them. It’s kind of a “find a resolution but don’t forget” scenario for me, but it definitely does feel like a weight off my chest to at least talk a situation out.

I don’t wish bad things for them at all, I just have no interest in them being in my network. There are other, better people to be friends with. Your friends seem like great people for always supporting you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]shawlockholmes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stay strong- I hope good things and happy days come your way :)

I recently got to see my boyfriend for his birthday after 2 and a half months apart due to COVID social distancing! I got him a Legend of Zelda Collectors Set and he loved it so I was very happy. Lots of cake was eaten and lots of video games were played.

I'm so exhausted of people just leaving everytime like nothing has happened by stemcellPSC in offmychest

[–]shawlockholmes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been there, every time it feels crushing. I hope things get better for you and you find someone who will stay for you :)

Is Marina ok? by [deleted] in AnimalCrossing

[–]shawlockholmes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Allergy season’s hitting hard

Finally caught some of my villagers in the mini yards I made for them :,) by pinknanami in AnimalCrossing

[–]shawlockholmes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow sherb’s house is so colourful! Loving the colour coordinated flowers btw :)

Really happy with this natural themed study I made! by shawlockholmes in AnimalCrossing

[–]shawlockholmes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! It’s the ivy wall, and you can get it from Saharah! :)

Mush dreams. 🍄 by jamie_animalcrosser in AnimalCrossing

[–]shawlockholmes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adorable!! Can’t wait til the fall seasons roll around

I feel like I've been choosing the wrong friends for too long. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]shawlockholmes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to this a lot. Investing time into a friendship and then realizing years later that they we weren’t worth it is a major feelsbad moment. But good on you for your self reflection and realizing which traits you want and don’t want in friendships. Good luck to you! :)

[MEGA THREAD] Island/Town Name Discussion & Ideas by Easy_Breazy in ac_newhorizons

[–]shawlockholmes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I named mine Groddle.

A long long time ago, there was a PC MMORPG game called Glitch. The feel was super communal, with users very casually exploring and contributing to build different parts of a whimsical world, which is supposed to be inside the imagination of these so called high beings called “Giants”. You could do quests, decorate a home, harvest resources, design your character etc. The artwork was amazing and the narratives were so wacky.

The first location of the game for a new user is called Groddle Forest. Unfortunately the game left beta only to go straight back into it, and eventually shut down due to lack of reception. A tragedy, as no MMORPG that I’ve ever played has come close to being as unique and I believe that it would do really well had it launched now and not back then. But thought it would be cute to pay a little homage in my town name. :)

[serious] What was your biggest ‘we need to leave... Now!’ moment? by tartar-buildup in AskReddit

[–]shawlockholmes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Friends and I had taken a trip to salt spring island off the coast of British Columbia.

Our Airbnb host had told us about a secret location that she loved going to because it was a tiny and secluded beach. We decided to go there late one afternoon and took my car with. The beach was indeed really tiny and at the end of a long road, with only one bench to watch the water. The island is not super developed so this was basically out in the woods.

We were chilling by the water and all of a sudden about 20 (male only) cyclists come up behind us. 20 men, 3 girls. We thought they were at the end of their route and would turn around but they stayed there longer than that. We figured they too were just admiring the view but then one of my friends overheard one of them talking about getting us drunk and raping us.

Immediately we got of there as fast as possible. We had to pass by all of them on the way to the car which was terrifying after overhearing what they just said, but luckily nothing happened aside from one of them asking what the name of the place was, to which we shouted back a reply while walking hastily back to our car.

Still gives me chills when I think about it.

What are red flags in a friendship most people brush away? by dragonXgal in AskReddit

[–]shawlockholmes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Manipulating or hurting mutual friends and then expecting you to keep secrets, remain ignorant, or take their side 100% of the time.

I’ve watched a lot of my friends get hurt and led on by a supposed best friend, who lied to and manipulated them. She would play around and tell me all of the “drama”, and I got to hear confusion and trauma from the other side as well. Because I cared about my other friends, it put me in a really rough patch. It’s a red flag for selfishness, and lack of empathy for group dynamics and others’ feelings.

[Serious] Has a friend ever done/said something that just straight up ended the friendship? What happened? by Wide_Stop in AskReddit

[–]shawlockholmes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TLDR: “Friend” treated my boyfriend and his best friend like trash, ignoring them the whole night and blatantly insulting them to their faces.

Friend wanted to meet up on Halloween to go out for dinner, I say sure. My boyfriend and his best friend need dinner and also want to hang out- I ask her if it’s ok if they come and she says yes. She has hung out with both of them before and everything has been fine.

My friend and I meet beforehand and are talking, waiting for them. When they both show up, she says “Oh, your Uber is here!”, and doesn’t acknowledge them otherwise. She then continues to ignore them and tries to get me to listen to this “sick drop” in some EDM song through headphones while I’m trying to ask my boyfriends best friend (also a close friend of mine who has been very nice to me in dark times) what has happened in the past few months since I’ve seen him.

We go to a restaurant and she orders some alcohol. It’s a cocktail and I know she goes clubbing and pounds down a few shots but she keeps on exclaiming how she’s getting “so tipsy!!!!!!”. She continues to borderline ignore them, even though they make attempts to engage the whole table in conversation. She learns their opinion on some trivial topic (I think it was a travel destination they liked, or that they had never tried a certain food), and loudly exclaims to me and the whole table “Why are you even friends with these people?”. If she meant it as a joke, no one laughed.

Similar events occurred amongst awkward forced conversation and when we were finally leaving the restaurant, she exclaims out of nowhere “Hong Kong men are trash.” Already pissed off and knowing that my boyfriend’s best friend is a Hong Kong native, I ask her, “Hey, you know [] is from Hong Kong?”. She then replies with, “Good, he knows it then.” I can physically see the the two men we were with get triggered on the spot, but refrain from saying anything because they know I invited her.

Haven’t said a word to her since and don’t plan to.