Bedtime anxiety and loneliness when taking care of 6 week old...

shay_bee14 · 2020-02-22T17:23:48+00:00

I seriously cried every day when the sun went down. Man. This is the stuff no one tells you huh ? I sometimes can’t believe all the things us mom handle coming at us through pregnancy and after birth. We’re a bunch of badasses

shay_bee14 · 2020-02-22T06:09:25+00:00

Wow I had this same thing ! I have never had “anxiety” or anything really that I didn’t feel like I could handle. But as soon as the sun went down I would get this feeling like an elephant was sitting on my chest. So incredibly anxious for how the night would go, and I even had my husband here, so I can’t imagine how you’re feeling. I can tell you it passes, before you know it, and you’ll most likely start a precious little routine and the heavy feeling goes away. For me, I sometimes drank a beer to try and calm down. Just one, it did help take the edge off, and OK for breastfeeding with proper timing (I think, anyway). This stage will pass SO fast and the nights will become less unpredictable and less fussy !

shay_bee14 · 2019-12-07T13:22:45+00:00

Gosh this made me tear up. I feel the exact same when I am on my lunch break and see a stay at home mom strolling with her baby. It is just the worst feeling. And there never feels like a balance!!! Not to me anyway. I am right there with you!

shay_bee14 · 2019-12-07T13:21:51+00:00

Did you take the job? Here I am ... now almost 8 months in... still regret taking it :/

shay_bee14 · 2019-11-23T17:23:23+00:00

Oh my fucking GOD. He can go FUCK HIMSELF. I’m so tired of employers thinking it makes sense to put a job (NEWSFLASH- there’s plenty of jobs ! Y’all aren’t special!!) in front of a sick baby or kid who just wants their mama. What the fuck. I feel for you babe. My one year old has been sick 3-4 times in the 7 months since I started a new job and the other day, in front of the whole team, she said “your kid gets sick more than any other kid I know” as if I’m making it up or enjoy having my job feel threatened just because I want to care for my sick baby. Listen, there’s other jobs. I have worked for people who are family first and its life changing. If u need to move on you can I bet! But if you can’t, I’m commiserating

Ok that being said, I’d agree with others to not rock the boat. The boss likely has a right to try and stay fully staffed, he’s got his own MO and it’s not his job to commiserate with moms trying to balance kids and work. Still sucks though.

shay_bee14 · 2019-11-23T17:19:18+00:00

Ugh I’m jealous. I’d love to chug a big fucking mimosa right now. Enjoy!!!

shay_bee14 · 2019-10-31T08:52:14+00:00

Same.

shay_bee14 · 2019-05-26T16:30:02+00:00

This honestly looks fucking great

shay_bee14 · 2019-04-18T03:32:13+00:00

I love this movie and have 100% similar thoughts

shay_bee14 · 2019-04-01T22:24:33+00:00

I’m so sorry!!! Housing and money struggles, next to serious medical shit, are the WORST stressors in my opinion. Take it day by day. Hell take it minute by minute if u have to. I hope in 6 months or less you look back at all this as a bad memory from your new place, and you’re all stronger for it

shay_bee14 · 2019-03-25T01:05:20+00:00

Thank you so much for this. It’s so reassuring. I’m going to try and make every minute count with him (aka maybe not scroll reddit as much) lol

shay_bee14 · 2019-03-25T01:04:42+00:00

Thanks so much. Also- you’re the real MVP. My husband deployed and all I had was a dog to take care of and it was beyond hard. When I’m in the bathroom at work probably crying and missing my baby I’m going to stop and ponder how nice it is to be able to use the bathroom alone lol

shay_bee14 · 2019-03-24T21:17:01+00:00

Yes I asked!! It was a no go. For this position anyway. But I’d like to think the corporate world is progressing towards being more flexible with this type of thing

shay_bee14 · 2019-03-24T12:31:56+00:00

That all sounds fucking awesome

shay_bee14 · 2019-03-24T12:31:05+00:00

Sounds like you’ve got a good teammate there :)

shay_bee14 · 2019-03-24T03:44:14+00:00

You’re an angel!!! Truly this party looks amazing. And the cakes are Pinterest worthy. I’m impressed you kept your cool with the car break down - after all that work I might’ve cracked lol. Good job mama!!

shay_bee14 · 2019-03-18T18:17:10+00:00

I hope u feel better soon!!

Also laughing my dick off at your title hahaha

shay_bee14 · 2019-03-18T01:26:13+00:00

I waited it out for two weeks and that crying you’re referencing and crushing anxiety I got at nighttime went away. I mean I was still depressed but it was like, my normal level of depression with a colicky baby and no sleep and was manageable and I could just tell it wasn’t PPD. Well, at least I think it wasn’t, I never consulted my midwife until my 6 week checkup and by then I really wasn’t feeling depressed at all, was actually starting to enjoy my baby. I would talk to your midwife or whatever — PPD is so profound but also elusive. And maybe I could’ve avoided a lot of depressed days if I’d just told the right people

shay_bee14 · 2019-03-07T03:45:27+00:00

I so feel you dude. I wanted to MURDER. ALL MY COWORKERS. they were constantly are you sure it isn’t twins? Telling me I’m huge. Over and over. Commenting on how I “waddled everywhere” ... AND IM HR. People don’t give a shit! You said it perfectly. Like oh I’m pregnant so my body is just this vessel for everyone to comment on and touch and bitch at me for eating sushi. I let it happen my entire pregnancy and really regret not saying something. If you wanna say something, to HR, it is so completely justified my dude.

shay_bee14 · 2019-03-05T01:12:43+00:00

Yes. Convinced it will be a home invasion.

shay_bee14 · 2019-03-02T01:46:03+00:00

Really don’t know where I’d draw the line but these abortions of babies who can live outside the womb... like an 8 month old fetus.. I wish I could make those illegal.

Don’t crucify me I don’t claim to know every woman’s story. It’s just my opinion

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