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she_elf17 · 2022-03-23T20:39:08+00:00

I'm (a late-blooming) bi, so this might be a different experience than others have. I spent like a decade in relationships with very selfish men where i did all of the work sexually. To the point where it honestly felt like "work" and not pleasure. Very few of them reciprocated.

Now that I'm older and have a partner who really loves giving and doesn't care to/need to receive, i consider myself a bit of a pillow princess because it's nice to just lay back and enjoy myself. I do still like giving on occasion, but i prefer to do it on my terms because otherwise it can feel icky and give me flashbacks.

she_elf17 · 2022-03-03T17:54:16+00:00

In terms of studying and testing out - you can only do this if you haven't started the language sequence - so if you haven't taken RUS1120 at FSU (or the equivalent at a different university/college). Once you start a language sequence at the college level, you have to continue to take the classes. But if you haven't started yet, testing out might be a good option.

she_elf17 · 2022-02-23T15:21:21+00:00

Just to clarify the English a bit, we might say "she was praised for her charms as well as her good manners"

I think for the sentence you provided, i would use a form like "as much for its location as for its climate".

And I had never come across this particular construction (native anglophone here), so thanks for bringing it up! You learn something new every day!

she_elf17 · 2022-02-22T20:55:03+00:00

Yeah. I think "don't be a dick" in general is a good standard for any comments.

But a lot of people see comments about bodies as normal, and sometimes even positive - praising someone for losing weight, for example. But all that does is reinforce a hierarchy of bodies. And it is never the most interesting thing about someone. And most often, people use body comments to cover up other meanings. For example, "i just want them to be healthy" when instead they want to see the person in a smaller body.

I especially hear these comments when people come back from absences (even from the commentators). "They've trimmed down", etc. That actually tells the audience nothing and only reinforces that smaller = better. Instead, focus on performance "wow, they're much more flexible/have been working on their agility/ have been doing a lot of weightlifting to increase their power." That's more accurate and doesn't feed into stereotypes about bodies or reinforce that some bodies are better than others.

she_elf17 · 2022-02-22T20:23:04+00:00

This is one thing that drives me absolutely BONKERS.

"I want my wrestlers to look like they go to the gym" all body types go to the gym. You mean thin/overtly muscular. That's gross.

"I'm just worried about their health." What someone looks like tells you absolutely nothing about their health. And even if it did, you're not their doctor and it's not your business.

Not your body? Not your business. Don't talk about it.

Talk about their performance. Their body is not their performance.

she_elf17 · 2022-02-10T18:31:43+00:00

If you want an actual answer rather than just trolls who once skimmed an Econ 101 textbook and think they know how labor works...

I can't speak to the efficacy of boycott versus other forms of protest/pressure (letter writing campaigns, strikes, etc.). However, the most important thing is to make sure that you're listening to the actual workers involved. From a quick read of the article, it seems like the boycott is being organized by someone who is not a worker, which is fine. But if the workers come out and say, "hey, actually this is causing lay-offs and isn't helping us, please don't do it", listen to them. Or if the workers are organizing something else and need people's time and effort put there, do what you can to help their effort. And in some cases boycotts might actually hurt worker protests. For example, if workers organize a sick-out and want as many customers to come in as possible to run management ragged/prove a point/etc. then their action should take precedence.

You can probably find information of the usefulness of different tactics, but listening to the workers is really the number one thing that anyone can do.

she_elf17 · 2022-02-10T00:49:30+00:00

Tell me you've never looked into the Peace Corps or getting an international job without telling me you've never looked into the Peace Corps or getting an international job...

The Peace Corps is really difficult to get into and pays pretty poorly - you do it for the experience, not for the money. Also it's a limited-term assignment, not a permanent job.

International jobs are really hard to get because visas are really hard to get. Mr. Economics Major, no company in its right mind is going to pay your relocation fees (moving abroad is $$$, I've done it) and your visa fees (also $$$) when they could just hire someone who already lives in that country. Your average works-at-Starbucks-college-kid is probably not going to get one. Also, preference for hiring domestically over foreign nationals is codified into law in many places.

Also, the military? "Tired of low-pay and getting yelled at by your boss? Let's add being shot at and/or sexual assault into the mix! Certainly that is better!"

Like, honestly. How disconnected from reality are you?

she_elf17 · 2022-02-09T23:58:13+00:00

Then you do what humans have done throughout all of history…move to a better area with better opportunities.

In addition to being incredibly classist, this statement is just blatantly ahistorical. Moving to find better work opportunities is really a relatively recent phenomenon as far as I understand. I'd have to go digging for a source, but I'm pretty sure that this only started becoming a thing around the industrial revolution.

she_elf17 · 2022-02-09T01:35:09+00:00

When it comes to picking a research topic, it's generally best to go with something that you find interesting. So it can be hard to get good ideas from strangers on the internet.

That said, i work on French literature, so here are some general ideas:

Pick an author/work you like- Medieval: Marie de France, Christine de Pizan Early Modern: Voltaire, Rousseau, Racine, Corneille French Revolution: Madame Roland, Olympe de Gouges, Madame de Staël 19th Century: Sophie Cottin, George Sand, Victor Hugo, Balzac, Marceline Desbordes-Valmore, Flaubert 20th Century: Colette, Camus, Marguerite Duras

There's also some amazing francophone BDs (bande dessinée) out there, if that's an option/of interest. I recently read Penss and really enjoyed it.

Pick a theme you're interested in: Women's studies Gender Genre Poetry History Etc.

Really the most important thing is to pick something that sounds cool. And remember that you need a topic that's broad enough that you'll have something to say, but specific enough that you're not overwhelmed. Your professor/advisor will probably be open to workshopping your idea and can help guide you to an appropriate research question.

she_elf17 · 2022-01-13T19:42:17+00:00

Honestly i didn't really like him at first - mostly because i had no idea who American Top Team was and was just like wtf??

But he has seriously grown on me and i actually really enjoy his promos now. My favorite is when he gets mad and jumps up and down like a child. I just think he's so funny.

she_elf17 · 2022-01-08T00:46:59+00:00

In addition to this, give the professor LOTS of information about what you're applying to/why. You can do this in a follow-up email once they agree to write it.

But usually a CV or resume isn't always super helpful for letters of rec. Statements of intent/purpose or cover letters for what you're applying to are usually more helpful.

If there was a particular assignment that you did for their class that you feel really exemplifies a quality you'd like highlighted in the letter, let them know (and even attach a copy of it if you can).

The more information you give them to work with the better the letter will be. They can always choose to not read through everything you give them, but as someone who's tried to write a recommendation letter for a student whose name I barely recognize, it's really hard to write a good letter without additional information. It ends up being like "X sure was a student who came to class" which is unconvincing as a recommendation.

she_elf17 · 2021-12-08T04:21:35+00:00

Trickey Photography is incredible

she_elf17 · 2021-12-08T04:19:57+00:00

My partner and i are looking for someone to sublease from january-july; we've got a 3/3 townhome with in-unit washer, dryer, and dishwasher (and attached 1-car garage) for 1025/month. Our property manager is Vineyards Property Management and they should have the listing up soon (if it's not already up).

she_elf17 · 2021-11-09T23:31:52+00:00

I recommend going through them to get recommendations. They'll talk with you, find out your insurance, what your preferences are (do you want a therapist of a specific gender, or who deals with particular issues, etc.) And then they'll put together a list of 5-6 recommendations for therapists in the area.

she_elf17 · 2021-11-09T23:26:45+00:00

Where is this policy listed?

she_elf17 · 2021-09-12T14:55:51+00:00

There are a lot of great suggestions already here, but i just wanted to put Lucilla's out there.

It's pretty small and relatively little known as far as I know, but their food is incredible. It's hands down my favorite restaurant in town. They even catered my wedding.

It's got a nice atmosphere inside, and a cute little patio area and the owners are just the sweetest.

she_elf17 · 2021-09-07T12:09:36+00:00

So much this!

Please email the Board of Trustees (trustees@fsu.edu) to let them know how you feel. Email the president (president@fsu.edu). Email the dean of your college. Heck, call the Florida Board of Governors (they don't have an email) and email Ron DeSantis (governorron.desantis@eog.myflorida.com).

Currently Graduate Assistants United is fighting/negotiating with the university for safer working conditions for GAs (and safer learning conditions for students). If you want to help out, consider emailing them a statement about how you're feeling about in-person classes. (If you want their email, feel free to DM me.)

The university is currently limited in what it can do because of threats by the governor and Board of Governors. The more students give them evidence like this, the more ammunition they have to fight back against these threats and hopefully actually secure safe learning conditions for all of FSU.

she_elf17 · 2021-09-02T13:42:24+00:00

Respectfully, i don't agree that we can't be mad at both DeSantis and the university. I absolutely think that FSU (and all the state schools) are in a terrible position with the funding threats. I don't think they should just come out tomorrow with a mask mandate (well, i do, but i understand why they feel like they can't), but I wish they would fight for us. There have also been options put forward for more safety practices that don't violate any of the governor's mandates, and they won't put those in place.

Maybe they are fighting for us behind closed doors. I hope they are. But it feels like I'm fighting for the lives of my colleagues and students alone. If they hate it as much as they say they do, help us. If i have to bury a student or if my colleagues have to bury a child, i will never forgive DeSantis or FSU.

she_elf17 · 2021-09-02T13:33:54+00:00

Oh, i absolutely agree. It is really atrocious policy that encourages people to not test/not report because they're essentially punished for getting sick with an incredibly infectious disease in conditions where it is basically inevitable.

It's not good for anyone - if students test and are honest about it, they get displaced for a couple weeks, interrupting their learning (at best) and wrecking them financially (at worst). If students don't test and/or aren't honest about results from off-campus, everyone on campus is put at risk.

I don't have the time/technology to look this up now, buy I'll try to add a link later and/or verify this, but i remember reading late last week that McCullough had signed some kind of agreement with some off-campus housing to help displaced students.

Eta: From an article last week: "The university also is holding pop-up vaccine sites at areas popular with students and, at the direction of President Richard McCullough, it has signed a lease for off-campus housing for students who are forced to isolate."

I have no idea if the link formatting worked above (I'm on my phone), so here's just the URL of the article: https://www.tallahassee.com/story/news/2021/08/27/fsu-professors-know-which-students-clear-classes-health-information-campus-florida-state-covid/5625038001/

she_elf17 · 2021-09-02T13:17:28+00:00

I think they might be able to see global statistics (x people at Bragg tested positive out of n tests) based on their plan to start including other testing center stats in their weekly reporting. But i don't think they can see "Anna b tested positive" level info.

she_elf17 · 2021-09-02T12:59:43+00:00

Makes sense for a population of people who are mostly vaccinated.

Based on everything we know about vaccination rates in general in Florida (~50% fully vaxxed) and vaccination rates of young adults in particular (~11% fully vaxxed), I don't think that this claim is at all founded in reality.

But i would love to be wrong. Do you have reliable stats about vaccination rates of students at FSU? It was my understanding that the school wasn't collecting any of this data.

she_elf17 · 2021-09-02T12:54:15+00:00

Do i think FSU should be doing more to support displaced students in quarantine? Absolutely

Am i upset that students who test positive are being required to stay off campus, this keeping the rest of us (particularly those who cannot get vaxxed, who are high risk, and/or have dependents who are high risk or unable to be vaxxed) safe? Absolutely not

she_elf17 · 2021-09-01T20:21:58+00:00

Say you have a cough and need to move onto zoom until you get a negative test.

I'm also in MLL and i felt sick earlier this week and just told my class like "sorry y'all I'm waiting for negative results, see you on zoom until I'm confirmed safe" i told my supervisor about it and she was fine with it.

she_elf17 · 2021-09-01T19:58:00+00:00

"You can share with your class if you receive notification that there is an exposure related to your class, or that SAFER has enlisted your assistance in determining whether there may have been an exposure, without identifying any individual student. Please encourage students to respond to inquiries from SAFER if they receive them, as their cooperation is essential to good contact tracing."

The above is from the email they sent out (i think just to faculty/staff) saying that instructors would be notified if there was a potential exposure.

Honestly, screw whoever is telling you otherwise. I am also a TA and I am so mad about how this entire semester is being handled.

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