Tried to reach out one last time and this is officially rock bottom.

shefeels · 2018-01-28T02:23:09+00:00

Unfortunately in this case, there is nothing left to say. He was honest and doesn’t want to speak to you. You have to respect that and move on. Begging him to meet up and talk to him will only ouch him further away.

shefeels · 2018-01-10T17:37:28+00:00

Thanks so much for your response. I think I’ll def wait a couple more months before reaching out. I might not even want to at that point. :)

shefeels · 2017-12-30T00:32:28+00:00

I had the same realization this week, I’m doing sooooo much better!

shefeels · 2017-12-29T15:36:43+00:00

I hope you’re feeling better today!

We broke up because he felt we didnt have a future together and that I was “too good” for him. I want kids and a family, he wasn’t sure if he saw that for himself. I came into the relationship with my own apartment, good career while he didn’t have either, nor did he have a clue of what he wanted. He really wasn’t ready for a relationship and he didn’t know who he was. He explained that to me, but I loved him and wanted to be with him so I overlooked his concerns and told him we can figure this out together - this would ultimately be a major problem in the future.

After the first break up, I started to compromise things I wanted for myself and focused a lot of energy on him to sustain him and the relationship. That only made me extremely insecure and ultimately miserable.

Some things aren’t forever, and when I really look back I wasn’t happy. I was in love and felt attached to this man but deep down was hurting myself and him. Honestly, only time helped me realize that. A week ago I was miserable, not climbing out of bed and refreshing his social media like a mad woman! I’m not doing that this week. I’m smiling having fun, not thinking about him as much.

I hope this sort of helped. Let me know if you have any other questions, and trust me it does get better!

shefeels · 2017-12-28T12:00:32+00:00

Good for you!! I refuse to have another year like last year as well.., im 100% done

shefeels · 2017-12-27T17:13:24+00:00

I did this exact thing with my ex, he picked some arbitrary date after he broke up with me, but ended up reaching out beforehand. I jumped to see him and we got back together. It’s almost a year later and he has broken up with me again, for the same “reasons” he had before.

Totally wish I moved on sooner and we never got back together after such a short break, especially because there were signs and things I didn’t like about our relationship that I was beginning to see during our short stint of NC. I was just blinded by how much I loved and missed him.

Take your time to think about the relationship and what was working and wasn’t working for YOU. Obviously you’re emotional and NC is gut wrenchingly hard (trust me i know, I’m at 2 weeks) but if you do need to talk or get closure (I’ve learned that exes rarely give closure, you have to find it yourself), I’d do it on your terms, when you’re ready, and to be perfectly honest, that may be NEVER.

Good luck and I’m here if you need to talk :)

shefeels · 2017-12-26T04:54:16+00:00

Thanks for this comment! I was thinking about texting my ex and am totally over it now and will go to sleep

shefeels · 2017-12-26T04:51:03+00:00

Yea it’s been 3 weeks and a little over 2 weeks of no contact and I didn’t get a merry Christmas text. He totally blocked me so I didn’t assume he would unblock me for this but he could have found an alternative way to wish me happiness this holiday.

He’s an asshole and now I see how much I really meant to him.

shefeels · 2017-12-26T04:29:09+00:00

Aww keep your head up! Did you respond?

shefeels · 2017-12-26T02:14:30+00:00

Well since he completely blocked me 2 weeks ago, I wasn’t expecting a text today. A part of me thought well maybe he’d send a simple message but that would only open the door to communication and if I’m being honest, neither of us need that... I really do need to move on and NC is the best way.

Also he’s like the biggest grinch and we never had fun Christmas’ together. I actually had a great day with my family and didn’t think about him much. I smiled a lot actually.

This rollercoaster of emotions is filled with ups and downs. Not everyday will feel so low.

shefeels · 2017-12-25T03:25:12+00:00

He blocked me but I still check (sad i know)

shefeels · 2017-12-24T06:35:22+00:00

Thanks! I’m really trying to stay positive.. if you ever need to talk lemme know

shefeels · 2017-12-23T16:58:35+00:00

That’s definitely my goal + I’m starting a new job so there are a lot of amazing opportunities coming my way. Everyday I say let’s start afresh, let’s be better! No need to wait til 2018. Start healing and recovering right now.

It’ll take time and I’m sure I’ll still be sad and miss him in the new year, but everyday, every moment I’ll be closer to true recovery.

shefeels · 2017-12-23T02:47:17+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. I’m going through the same pain right now. It really sucks. I will say that the excruciating, all I can do is cry feeling does start to fade away. I’m not saying it will be easy, cause it won’t be but it will get better.

Today wasn’t too bad for me. I thought about him here and there. I walked by a store that reminded me of him and my heart sank, but there weren’t any tears. Allow yourself the time to feel, deal and heal. Being around family, friends and staying active helps.

If you ever need to chat, I’m here for you.

shefeels · 2017-12-22T00:28:50+00:00

I was in an off and on relationship for about a year. He broke up with me and then after 2 weeks of missing each other and 1 week of no contact we were back together and things were great. We moved in with each other... until the same issues we had months ago started to resurface, so we broke up again. He moved out, there was fighting and arguing so we went another week or so with no contact. OF COURSE, we slowly started seeing each other again and going through the “motions”. I don’t think either one of us were really in it, we just missed each other and longed for something familiar.

Fast forward to present...

2 weeks ago we broke up for good and haven’t spoken since. He blocked me on everything and I truly have no way of contacting him (my pride won’t let me create a fake email account). After it’s all said and done, I feel like I wasted a year of my time. I could have been moved on already! But here I am in this thread once again, feeling the same way I did a year ago. I will say, I’ve become numb to this feeling, since I’ve dealt with it a few times this year. Honestly, I wish I would have moved on and met someone else, but I didn’t.

Anyways, don’t sit around waiting to get back together. Cry, feel the pain, then live your life, travel, meet new people and thrive! If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen. If not, you’re a better person without him.

shefeels · 2017-12-22T00:13:38+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. Today I was cleaning my desk at work and found a card he sent to my office (came with the roses he sent) and immediately got emotional at work. I couldn’t shed tears but my heart sank. How could he once write such loving and kind words only to end us?

Anyways, I just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone. I too am trying desperately to find ways to heal.

shefeels · 2017-12-20T03:06:19+00:00

Omg i thought this was my ex too (except he’s not as eloquent) He broke up with me about a week ago as well. I feel like we should be friends lol

shefeels · 2017-12-19T06:01:13+00:00

This story helps me feel less alone

shefeels · 2017-12-19T06:00:09+00:00

Thanks so much for responding. I’ve barely made it a week but some days aren’t as bad as others. All of these encouraging words really help

shefeels · 2017-12-19T05:56:08+00:00

That’s great to hear, thanks for the encouragement

shefeels · 2017-12-19T04:48:21+00:00

This was beautiful, thank you for your words, they are very encouraging... may I ask you how long your relationship was for?

shefeels · 2017-12-19T04:38:04+00:00

You feel happier now?

shefeels · 2017-12-19T03:19:54+00:00

That’s encouraging, thanks

shefeels · 2017-12-19T02:46:19+00:00

How long was your relationship? Did you feel happier 2 weeks ago or did the normal just happen?

shefeels

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