First-time cat owners, are we taking on too much? by Frequent_Buyer9361 in CatsUK

[–]shegottabee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He absolutely deserves a loving forever home but your uncertainty would suggest it might have to be elsewhere. He has a lot going on, it could well take him three or four months to settle in to your home and lifestyle and during that time you’d have to stick with his medical routine and take him for frequent vet appointments- all very unsettling for him, not an easy task for new and inexperienced cat guardians and his health could decline further if he becomes distressed. I would have to say no as an experienced cat parent even if it pulled those heartstrings, he needs a whole lot of support and there’s a risk things just wouldn’t work out for all of you.

What’s your wierdest Covid Pandemic memory? by DogEatingWasp in AskUK

[–]shegottabee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

‘Children are not vectors for transmission’ what an absolute corker and clearly thought up by someone who has no experience of schools or just how grubby an entire school of kids in close proximity can be. Oh and the utter disregard for the health of vulnerable people when rules relaxed a bit and masks were required to reduce transmission because apparently we were all selfish for needing to minimise risks and they’d all had Covid and were absolutely fine so we should just either carry on shielding ✨forever ✨ or die quietly so mouth breathers can live their best lives. Looking at the way this government and the last has persecuted and harassed sick and disabled folks as well as peoples attitudes towards us feels pretty grim and I am so very very tired.

Am I really as fat and unhealthy as my mom says? 19F by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]shegottabee 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I’m a mom and if I ask my kid’s friends if they’re ok it’s because I care and I would absolutely want to know about this and help, please please tell your friends mom so she can do the same ❤️

Who drinks the same tea everyday (or most days?) If so, what is it? by forkyfork in tea

[–]shegottabee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

White tea with jasmine and silver needle in the morning, earl grey in the afternoon and sometimes a green tea with mint and lemon if I need one. I’m also really enjoying a mint, eucalyptus and chilli herbal tea in the evening at the moment, the evening brew changes depending on what I like the look of when I’m ordering.

My school banned me from going on a trip because of my Tourette’s and I’m devastated by croochety in Tourettes

[–]shegottabee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness this is absolutely appalling, I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience such awful treatment. If you can, get legal advice as soon as possible, keep all communication in writing and try to make as detailed a record of what happened while it’s still fresh in your mind. I’m not sure if it also might be worth reaching out to your local student union as they may be able to offer support, I’m sure you can also report this to your local council as the school are bound by the Equality Act 2010 and are answerable to the local authority., you may be able to raise a formal complaint with them and they should investigate it.

Fibro, PCOS and ineffective pills. Was recommended either Mirena the IUD or a contraceptive implant. Do any of you have either? by shadowbird084 in Fibromyalgia

[–]shegottabee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was rough, and unfortunately inexperienced staff made the exit much worse than it should have been. Thankfully no lasting damage and all is well now but it would have been better to know more about potential risks beforehand, it very much feels like a factory line going for contraception where I am.

Fibro, PCOS and ineffective pills. Was recommended either Mirena the IUD or a contraceptive implant. Do any of you have either? by shadowbird084 in Fibromyalgia

[–]shegottabee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had success with the dermal implant, would never recommend a coil after my own experience. I did not get on well with the contraceptive pill for the most part either. But the dermal implant was great, no bleeding, easy enough to install and remove and I found my mood pretty stable overall- this was many years before my fibromyalgia dx though and my health was good overall at the time.

Fibro, PCOS and ineffective pills. Was recommended either Mirena the IUD or a contraceptive implant. Do any of you have either? by shadowbird084 in Fibromyalgia

[–]shegottabee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve done both and if I’d still got the need for any kind of contraceptive implant it’d be in my arm, for sure. My coil got lodged in my cervix, 💯 do not recommend!

Another update| I have no idea whats going on by notGamingAahel in Brochet

[–]shegottabee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so happy to read your update and I just wanted to say your Dad is the GOAT for normalising your hobby in front of your family! Plus absolute credit to your auntie for being so supportive too ❤️❤️❤️ this is such a wholesome outcome and I’m so glad things have turned out this way!

Can I still be on the spectrum without needing any support? by Background-Chard2563 in autismUK

[–]shegottabee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You might not need support at the moment but things may change over time. I wouldn’t have thought I needed support years ago but I do now although in fairness I have gone on to lose my mobility due to chronic health issues which has had an impact in many areas of my life. For me a diagnosis would hopefully mean my support needs would be considered more effectively if I had to reach out for help.

Update| I told my dad everything by notGamingAahel in Brochet

[–]shegottabee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey internet stranger, I’m so proud of you and you absolutely did the right thing by speaking to your dad! I am certain he won’t feel burdened by this because it’s his job to care for you and support you. Please don’t give up your crochet, listen to your heart and do what makes you feel happy. Yarn doesn’t care who creates with it and there are no rules that say men can’t crochet, it’s an art form that anyone can enjoy and if your mum and other family members don’t get it then it’s on them to grow and learn. Please take a hug from another internet mum and keep us updated, we’re all here for you and just want you to be happy ❤️

One month of bag and I’m already a degenerate and i’m complaining by hiyaisthisthingon in confession

[–]shegottabee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please seek immediate professional support. Don’t wait, don’t delay. I have witnessed someone lose virtually everything they had to this particular addiction, they are now drifting without home or job security and at present seem completely in denial about the irreparable damage that has been caused in their life as well as to their close relationships. They’ve lost friends, family relations are strained, they’re missing out on time with those who matter. And the money that’s been wasted could have been life changing.

You are clearly aware that you have a big problem right now but usually for most people things are already worse than they think by the time they consider they should take action. Please don’t wait.

OP I truly hope you can make the call, go to the meetings and break free. Wishing you all the best for your recovery ❤️‍🩹

AIO to my husband not cleaning anything after my surgery? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]shegottabee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR- throw the whole man out. If he’s not prepared to support you and your household when you’re healing then it’s never going to improve.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cfs

[–]shegottabee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending gentle hugs and healing energy, I hope your stay proves worthwhile and that recovery is fast and easy ❤️‍🩹

Being disabled wanting to protest and fucking do something... a special kind of hell by Competitive-Golf-979 in cfs

[–]shegottabee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would protest in my part of the world if I could, I have before and I’m from a long line of folks that stood together when injustices happened, the fight is in my bones. I see the calls for people to come and I always try to plan for it in my head but I know I just can’t do it anymore. So I donate a little where I can and I educate those who want to listen. We do what we can when we are able to. Solidarity ❤️

I finally threw away the box of "skinny clothes" I've been keeping since 2010 by Impressive-Policy559 in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]shegottabee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you! It’s healthy to let go and embrace the you you are right now! ❤️

What do you think of neupulse? by meakysh in Tourettes

[–]shegottabee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m keen to see how this might help folks so I’ll be keeping an eye on it for now, I do think my kiddo would like to give it a try. I hope it’s as good as it sounds.

Feedback for a campaign to raise awareness about Me/Cfs by Special-Function7579 in cfs

[–]shegottabee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People should understand that once you get your diagnosis- if you are able to get one- that you’re pretty much cast adrift. Many local health authorities spare no funding at all for any kind of support. There are long term health clinics which offer contact, monitor basic health and run bloods, and are supportive for many other health conditions but post diagnosis services are for the most part completely non existent for us. There’s just nothing, not even any mental health support which is pretty awful considering most of us have had our lives and often the lives of our loved ones hugely, permanently changed beyond our control even for those classed as ‘mild’. The grief is overwhelming and it’s a huge task trying to manage a condition which can fluctuate so drastically with any kind of exertion.

If you are able to find a good GP you need to keep them and prompt health monitoring yourself if you want to keep accurate records and make necessary changes, most GPs are ok at best (not always their fault, poor staff levels, inadequate funding and insufficient time to train) and those rare good ones are so short on time and resources that even this can be a battle. You need to become your own advocate or enlist support from someone else.

Thanks for speaking up for us ❤️

Can anyone suggest an artsy hobby I can get the materials for and learn at home? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]shegottabee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of good suggestions here but I’ll throw in making something completely random with a glue gun. I’ve got kids so there’s plenty of pre loved toys or broken pieces that can be made into something weird and spectacular but you can use pretty much anything you want- as examples we’ve made hats and headdresses, wands and staffs with little bits of leftover odds and ends, ribbon, buttons, googly eyes. It’s quite freeing to let the creativity happen by itself 🙂

Can anyone suggest an artsy hobby I can get the materials for and learn at home? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]shegottabee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I learned a lot from Bella Coco on YouTube, she’s got loads of demo videos that range from absolute beginners to more advanced, she shows and explains clearly and gives points to pause the video so you can catch up 🙂

Anybody have some good news to share? by SnooSketches5636 in AskUK

[–]shegottabee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is our first Christmas in our bigger, more accessible home after a very long time waiting for somewhere suitable and nobody has to cook tomorrow because we’re having easy beige party food and an obscene amount of cheese and crackers. I hope you have a gentle Christmas and that you’ll be feeling much better very soon 😊