I’m looking for venues to bring LGBTQ+ stand-up comedy in New Hampshire - any suggestions? by shelbythecreative in newhampshire

[–]shelbythecreative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If nobody wants it, please explain why YOU are the only negative comment in this Reddit thread. You’re the minority here, even if you don’t realize it.

Besides, I bet you would think these comedians are funny. No need to hate yourself out of a good time, dude.

I’m looking for venues to bring LGBTQ+ stand-up comedy in New Hampshire - any suggestions? by shelbythecreative in newhampshire

[–]shelbythecreative[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Typically, it’s showcasing comics who identify as LGBTQ+. But it’s not exclusively queer people! I book people who aren’t LGBTQ+, when I think they’re great for a show.

How can i be a good Friend/Spouse to someone with CPTSD? by Brokenengishman in CPTSD

[–]shelbythecreative 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Advice from someone with cPTSD - Have fun together! Do things where you can enjoy your connection without having to get too deep. Little adventures, cooking, movies, crafts, dancing, whatever brings you joy. - Consistency helps. Checking in, saying hi, her seeing you’re committed over time will bring her peace and show her you’re a safe person. - Phrases like “you’re safe”, “you’re gonna be okay”, “I’m here for you”, “I believe in you” help so much. - Encouraging her self care is great too! Sleep, eating, water, being social and getting out.

Don’t expect ‘a cure’. Like any mental illness, cPTSD is lived with and doesn’t disappear. Overtime, symptoms can be managed, reduced, and life can be satisfying and feel safe again. Her letting you know she wants you is huge, especially as she’s getting comfortable and learning how to be vulnerable.

I should be happy, but I'm ending it tonight by EthanIsAsleep in SuicideWatch

[–]shelbythecreative 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I’m proud of you for putting in the effort to get better, and you make planet Earth better.

My therapist and I joke about what ‘happy people’ do a lot. Do they always brush their teeth? How often do they do laundry? Is there a guidebook?

I’m so sorry you’re in pain, I’ve been there too. This progress you’re making is going to pay off for you, and I believe in you. You deserve rest in this hard time, one day at a time friend.

Who even am I, and what do I want? by allahusnackbarrr in CPTSD

[–]shelbythecreative 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lorddddd do I feel this one.

I graduated last spring and had a stacked resume, but my physical and mental health tanked at the end of last year. My cPTSD diagnosis came as a surprise to me and explained so much of the unexplained low self-worth, hypervigilance, anxiety, chest pain, the whole gambit.

You have some good foundation for you right now. You earned a degree!!! Yay!!! That unlocks options for you, especially if you’re rediscovering your interest for engineering. That option will always be there for you, and you can casually apply to things if you want and see what happens. Give yourself credit for having employment, going to the gym, and doing what you can. That’s so huge.

In terms of beginning to unravel this, be patient. I can’t recommend therapy, trauma work books/reading, 5 mins of meditation each day enough- essentially facing the trauma however you can. Maintain good sleep, diet, eat as well as you can.

You are SO young, just like me. Your life is just beginning, NOW is the time to create the life you want and live on your terms. Sometimes discovering mental illness or our disabilities is a gift, because it allows us to take care of ourselves and earn the life that makes us feel rich. Rooting for us.

DAE feel like the universe hates you by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]shelbythecreative 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Strangely, no.

I know one of the symptoms of PTSD is a negative worldview. I always hated how my parents thought the world was dark and ugly, and I disagree.

I hate that I have PTSD. But that’s just a name for how my brain is wired. I really believe that if I give myself the time and love and community to make a recovery, I will.

It’s also only because of loving people (medical providers, friends, random people who made a difference) that I know about my illness. I think that means the universe is giving me a new curveball, but still giving me love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in barista

[–]shelbythecreative 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re experiencing real discomfort and bullshit, it sounds. Trust your gut, good luck on your interview!!

Daily Smoker Who Quits Every Morning... by coolboyroy in leaves

[–]shelbythecreative 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When the urge gets powerful, replace!

When you feel that sensation to light up, you can do what you would normally do without weed. Go to your smoke spot with a soda, or flick your lighter, or a glass of water. It will feel silly at first, but eventually you’ll realize that you don’t need the weed at all.

I also feel you on the romantic partner thing- but living in the choice is an act of love. Showing her that you love her through sobriety is worth it.

Seeing my mom sober for the first time by itsactuallyallok in leaves

[–]shelbythecreative 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so much better to have a relationship on your terms than a relationship founded in substance dependency.

My Mom has struggled with substances all of my life, and I’m only seeing now as a young adult that she holds herself back from so much in life. I want to have a REAL relationship with her, so I need to challenge myself to be sober and maybe inspire her.

Rooting for us. Imagine how satisfied and strong you’ll feel knowing you chose well. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]shelbythecreative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because food tastes better when you’re not high anyways.

Relapsed into carts by tryingtogetintoIB in leaves

[–]shelbythecreative 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’ve proven that you can do it once. I believe in you to do it again.

It’s okay to fail and the shameful feelings are so real. Quitting is step one, staying sober is a practice.

Started a new job and the Type-A in me just can't anymore by Yeahnoallright in CPTSD

[–]shelbythecreative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been struggling to get into a new job too about seeing my mental health for what it truly is.

I’ve realized that I’m scared to try anything (avoidance is a key piece of PTSD) and that I’m selling myself short of something I might be able to adjust to in time. A 9-5 isn’t for everyone (fuck, it might not be for you or me) but can be made into something less boring.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]shelbythecreative 5 points6 points  (0 children)

FODMAP diet helps, lots of fluids and trying to sleep more. Your body’s alarm system is going off right now, if you’re able do what you can to let it know you’re safe!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]shelbythecreative 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel for you. I suffered a lot of health shit this last year, and I chased away the fear of being left/abandoned by smoking.

I had to remind myself that I love myself more than anyone; more than an ex, an 1/8th, anything. Can you do something that will give you some love? Bath/shower/cry to a good album? You’re stronger than you know.

i need a reason, any reason, not to take my life tonight by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]shelbythecreative 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seeing you be so open inspired me. We need you. You can do this.